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Bring Your Hopes, Doubts and Questions
It's the question in our hearts when things go wrong-when we're abandoned, disappointed, hurt, when there is injustice in the world. Does God exist? Did He just leave us here on our own? How could He be good and yet allow evil? At Restoration Springs Church we're inviting you to join us as we tackle the tough questions-and the doubts-head-on. This weekend, come explore a relationship with the God who cares.
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If he stops, What Will you do, Wives?
Chapter from "Married Couples: Thou Shalt have Great Sex"
It is unfair and wrong for a wife to tell her man to stop a sexual vice and then withhold sex from him when he decides
to make the wife his only sexual desire. I understand, wives,
it may take a while for you to forgive him and trust him, but after a while, if you see his dedication, then you must turn the page. Some wives just have no heart. For a wife to
turn down requests for sex and not make herself sexually available to her husband is just plain wrong once the
change in the husband is permanent. Do I dare ask, did he turn to a sexual vice because you turned off the sexual
power that God gave you? I do not justify any wrong of the husband toward a wife, but if the husband makes the
change, the wife must relent.
I have counseled many wives who wanted their
husbands to stop sexual vices, but after the man stopped his vice, some of the wives did nothing, and I mean nothing. In fact, some of them became less sexual, and, on top of that, dared the husband to perform the sexual vice again. This does not compute. This will not work.
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Excerpt of "New Sheets"
This is not a book with dos and don'ts of sex acts. In contrast, this book will hopefully get married couples talking
about sex. Because God has given married couples drives of
the flesh, individuals must learn to temper their drives according to their marital status. It's quite simple. If a couple
is not married, there is no sex. If a couple is married, they can
have all the sex they consent to based on prior mutual agreements. This is important because couples are still in their fleshly space suits. Food and sex are drives that must be
touched, handled, and fed. When someone is single, sexual flesh can't be pleased, but after marriage, all bets are off, and the time has come to please the flesh. This book is a bridge
that helps couples cross from single to married mind frames in
relation to sex. Married couples are holy already when they have coitus. This will be the major drumbeat throughout this
book. Things that are within limits and off-limits are truly up to the couple as they search their hearts. The only limits are adultery, homosexuality, bestiality, etc. Everything else is based on communication that the couple must work out
together.
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Santa Claus Lap
A husband should let his wife sit on his lap, and allow her to express her desires to him. As the husband allows his wife to feel comfortable with expressing her desires, the bond of intimacy will significantly enhance. Such communication, may shortly lead the husband and wife to a beautiful moment of love making. Such moments ignite an essential spark to the marriage.
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Know Your Position
It is important for both husband and wife to understand the importance of physical intimacy within the marriage. It is important to maintain physical intimacy within a relationship by giving your spouse plenty of hugs, kisses, and caresses. Denying your spouse physical intimacy is similar to being a dry well to someone who is thirsty. Thus, within your marriage, be a well that flows with intimacy and quenches your spouse's intimate thirst; do not be that dry well that leaves your spouse frustrated and dying of thirst for your affection.
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WHY HUSBANDS DONT HAVE SEX from WEBMD
- Medications
- Lack of sleep
- Hormonal levels
- Identity issues
- Turn-off to aspects of the sex - Some men will turn away from sex rather than have sex that is not fulfilling to them. Lack of fulfillment can be related to specific things that his partner does during sex or how he experiences his partner's body. He may feel criticized or treated unfairly. It may just seem like too much "work." He may have sexual interests that he knows or fears his partner may not share.
- Disagreements with one's mate
- Stress
- Masturbation that replaces partnered sex-This is a hot topic since the advent of the Internet. It seems to some researchers in this field that many men who might not have sought out other sources of visual sexual stimulation (magazines, videos, movies) have found their way to locate sexual imagery online. For some couples, this can be a dilemma, particularly when the viewing of the images leads to masturbation, that then leads to less partnered sex. Less partnered sex feels like a blessing to some, but to others it is a frustrating and disappointing outcome.
- Fear of intimacy. Some men have relationships with their romantic partner that resemble that of siblings.
- Difficulties functioning sexually. Many men who have an erection dysfunction or believe that they ejaculate too soon -- or too late (if at all), will avoid having sex with their partner.
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Salute the Queen
When the queen of England walks in your presence, you are supposed to salute her. Well wives, when you are looking sexy for your husband you MUST expect him to SALUTE you with his member. Wives, do not get mad at him for this; understand that when your husband "salutes", he respectfully adores you. Queens (wives), embrace your king's (husband's) salute.
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Dealing with the Affair
When your spouse cheats, you must be prepared for a big change in the dynamics of your relationship. If you were the cheater, you will have to learn to be more patient and tolerant with your frustrations or mood swings. Understand that once you have cheated on your spouse, your spouse will not recover from such pain overnight. It will take a long period of time for your spouse to recover from the pain and gain your trust back. Understand that if you have done the crime (cheated), you must do the time by working through the difficult aspects of the relationship with love, and patience. Also, I advise utilizing a marriage counselor to help you both address and overcome the "cheating issue". Take heed to the advice given, so that you can win your spouse back to the loving marriage that you both once had.
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Thank you to my editor-in-chief Tyrone Waters.
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Remember In the Book of Ecclesiastes chapter 4 and verse 12 (Bible)
"And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken."
TRANSLATION (With only husband and wife the commitment can easily fail, but with God, husband, and wife the cord of commitment is not quickly broken.)
Pastor TC Brantley
Restoration Springs Interdenominational Church
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True definition of hypocrite (club and church)
In Greek, the word hypocrite means two faced. You are not a hypocrite if you go to a club and then go to church the next morning. A hypocrite goes to church on Sunday and then testifies that he was not at the club the night before. That is a hypocrite. |
Suggested Married Arousal Items
- Adult Board Games
- New Underwear for men
- Body Oil Treatment
- Body Paint
- Role Play Outfits
- Edible Lingerie
- Lingerie
- Teddies
- BabyDoll
- Men Robes
- Camisole
- Chemises
- Fishnet
- Coresets
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60 / 40 Rule
Chapter from "Married Couples: Thou Shalt have Great Sex"
Many couples have no idea how much their parents have affected them both negatively and positively.
Before you walk down the aisle and say, "I do," your parents have already taught you a way of thinking about
and acting in marriage. Be aware of this and be careful. In other words, before you build a marriage you must see,
interpret, and adjust the things you saw as a child-how your parents interacted within the marriage. Regardless if
you grew up in a traditional or nontraditional household,
you will still have internal issues to debate. Ideally, you will wrestle with these issues BEFORE you walk down the aisle.
Too many times, married couples fight unresolved battles inherited from their parents.
You would be surprised at how automatically you
become your father or mother during an argument. Many couples do this because they: 1) do what they learned as children and 2) are more comfortable or at ease acting like their role models-father or mother-in difficult times. We fail to understand that just as PHYSICAL attributes (nose, eyes, and hairline) link families together, so do EMOTIONAL attributes link families together.
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Life Cycle of the Penis from WebMD
It's no secret that a man's sexual function declines with age. As his testosterone level falls, it takes more to arouse him. Once aroused, he takes longer to get an erection and to achieve orgasm and, following orgasm, to become aroused again. Age brings marked declines in semen volume and sperm quality. Erectile dysfunction (ED), or impotence, is clearly linked to advancing years; between the ages of 40 and 70, the percentage of potent men falls from 60% to roughly 30%, studies show.
Men also experience a gradual decline in urinary function. Studies show that a man's urine stream weakens over time, the consequence of weakened bladder muscles and, in many cases, prostate enlargement.
And that's not all. Recent research confirms what men have long suspected and, in some cases, feared: that the penis itself undergoes significant changes as a man moves from his sexual prime -- around age 30 for most guys -- into middle age and on to his dotage. These changes include:
Appearance
Penis Size - What causes the penis to shrink? At least two mechanisms are involved, experts say. One is the slow deposition of fatty substances (plaques) inside tiny arteries in the penis, which impairs blood flow to the organ. This process, known as atherosclerosis, is the same one that contributes to blockages inside the coronary arteries -- a leading cause of heart attack.
Curvature
Sensitivity
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Maintaining a Healthy Lifestyle in Postmenopauseticle from
WEBMD
There are a number of steps women in postmenopause can take to stay healthy and feel better. It's as easy as remembering your ABCs, and D, E, F, and H.
- Avoid smoking, caffeine, alcohol, excess salt, and sugar.
- Balanced diet -- Nutritionists recommend whole grains, cold pressed oils, leafy vegetables, and nuts to help keep your body healthy and potentially help relieve hot flashes. Soy may also ease mild hot flashes.
- Calcium to help keep bones strong.
- C lonidine (Catapres transdermal patch or pill), for help with hot flashes.
- (Vitamin) D, Also helps keep bones strong.
- Exercise -- Weight bearing, daily, at least 30 minutes.
- Fat -- Choose foods that are low in saturated fat and cholesterol.
- Herbal medicines and teas (such as black cohosh for hot flashes). Talk to your doctor before trying any herbs or supplements.
Tips for Reducing Vaginal Dryness
- Vaginal lubricants and moisturizers available without a prescription can help lubricate the vagina and make sexual intercourse more comfortable during menopause and in postmenopause.
- If over-the-counter treatments don't work, ask your doctor about topical estrogen, available in creams, tablets, or in a vaginal ring. This type of estrogen will not improve other symptoms of menopause, such as hot flashes.
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The three-timing Wisconsin man who ended up with his penis Krazy-glued to his body has now been formally charged with felony child abuse and three other misdemeanors.
After his two lovers and his wife discovered he was cheating on them with the other women, one of them allegedly lured him to a motel room for a massage. Once he was blindfolded and tied up, the other women, plus one other, joined her for a little torture. The women cut off his underwear, asked him pointed questions, and took Krazy Glue to his penis. The Associated Press is reporting they glued his dong to his stomach, while other reports say it was glued to his leg.
Third leg or navel gazer? Not sure, but either story is equally fascinating.
The man is also charged with theft, unlawful phone use and harassment. He was charged today in Fond du Lac County.
All four women are charged with felony false imprisonment. One woman is charged with fourth-degree sexual assault, which is a misdemeanor.
Two of the women spoke out on NBC's Today show about the incident. They probably never thought their little night at the motel would land them in households around the world labeled the "penis glue ladies".
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Dating Identifies problems before you get into a relationship
It is true that the Bible teaches that fornication is wrong; however, there is good reasoning behind it. For example, sex outside of marriage often causes the couple to overlook their mate's negative characteristics because they are caught up in the sex. When a couple holds out from having sex until marriage, that couple is placed in a position where they have to communicate and will see both the good and bad traits of their mate's character. From knowing the persons true character (minus the mask of sex), the couple can then make a clear minded decision on whether they are willing to take that step of marriage. If the couple is willing to learn about each other through communication and will patiently wait for sex until they are married, their marriage will be blessed with a depth of intimately knowing their spouse holistically as a person, which will actually enhance their experience of love making.
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Fantasy Day
Whether couples want to admit it, usually one person in the marriage has a stronger sex drive. Unfortunately, if the lower-libido-spouse does not make an effort to appease sex drive of the higher-libido-spouse, frustration or even worse, infidelity may occur. To prevent such a tragedy, a husband and wife should sit down together and plan a fantasy night. A fantasy night is where the spouse with the low libido agrees to fulfill the fantasy (which involve exclusively the two of you) of the spouse with the high libido. Creating a "fantasy night" with your spouse has several benefits. For example, throughout the week you and your spouse will have a wonderful feeling of anticipation leading up to that "fantasy day". Such anticipation will teach you both to have patience and self-control until that big day. Also, the high-libido spouse will have the pleasure of having one's fantasy fulfilled by one's spouse. The fantasy may include role-play, candlelight ambiance, etc... but the key is doing them exclusively together. By doing such, your spouse will not even think about going outside the bedroom to get their desires met.
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Pastor TC on Radio
Hear DJ Buck and Nancy on August 13th 2009 (THIS THURSDAY) with invited guest Pastor TC.
To hear previous shows go to Archive
Click to read some of the accomplishments of Pastor TC. All to the glory of God. |
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Excerpt
from "Real Men Don't Have Closets"
GIANT PANDA
The female panda has a two- or three-day window in which she can get pregnant within
a year. The name of the game for a male
panda is timing. Timing is a companion of
communication. You can speak to your wife, but if the timing is off, you will not get a great opening in the end.
The male panda has to wait. Husbands, yes there are times we have to wait for the right time and place to make our move. A wife may
not hate a quickie, but not ALL THE TIME. A wife wants to know that you think she is worth the time. Many husbands will attest to the time when the wife took a long time to get dressed
for something. Yet after you waited, you were blessed with a beautiful creature.
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Excerpt from "Successful Marriages for Successful Men"
Another Point About Women
The first doctor to deal with this was Dr. Samuel Howard Monell, who talked about the pelvic massage, but the so-called inventor of the vibrator was Joseph Mortimer Gransville. In the 1920s, the vibrator moved from the doctor's office to the bedroom.
In the Victorian age, women were told to ignore their sexual needs and only be caught up in their
husbands' needs and birthing babies. It was not proper for women to have orgasms. And such mind frames have stayed with us even unto this day.
Climax is a natural thing from the Lord. I believe
some men may be having climax envy. For some reason, God made woman multi-orgasmic. In other
words, a wife can have multi-orgasms.However, a man, especially as he gets older, can have only one orgasm to her many.
Because of this point, men have become restrictive and placed that restriction on women. Instead of being envious of this point, men should just enjoy ride with their wives. A husband should say, in
essence, I made my wife enjoy the time of her life and I was the author of it. And, men, you never know, seeing your wives have fun might fuel the energy in you to climax again as well.
Brothers, within the confines of your marriage, you
MUST make your wife orgasm BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY. When I say any means, I do NOT include another person. Only you and her are in the
room.
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Boys will be Boys WHILE Men will be Men
Men who grow up without a good father may develop a mind frame that is conducive to being apart of a gang. When I say "gang", I mean a man who would rather be around his buddies rather than his wife and family; such a mind frame is detrimental to a marriage and the family structure. When a man is single, I understand that he will often place his priority on his boys. However, when the man is married, he must understand he must abandon this mentality in order to sustain a successful marriage. For example, a wife should not have to call her husband to come home as a mother does to remind her children to come in before the streetlights come on. He must be responsible and not come home late as he once did when he was a single man. A man who is a husband must put his childish ways behind him and prioritize his wife and family over his boys. A man should not allow his boys to make him feel guilty for prioritizing his wife and family. Instead, that man should stand strong on the principle of being faithful to his wife and family. Men, your boys may seek that sense of family from you; however, remember that your wife can hold you down at a level beyond that of your boys. As a husband, you have the responsibility to hold down your wife and family with a strong sense of family. Another Report on the Affair |
Marriage down among educated black women
Fewer highly educated black women in the United States are getting married and starting a family, researchers say.
Yale University sociology Professor Hannah Brueckner, who co-wrote a study regarding highly educated black women, said a growing number of them have been focusing on education rather than families and marriage during the last 40 years, the American Sociology Association reported Saturday.
"In the past nearly four decades, black women have made great gains in higher education rates, yet these gains appear to have come increasingly at the cost of marriage and family," Brueckner said.
The study on family formation and marriage longitudinal trends in the specified demographic found the marriage gap between highly educated black and white women increased dramatically between the 1970s and recent years.
In the 1970s the gap was 9 percent, while that gap rose to 21 percent in 2000-2007.
Brueckner said the growing divide may be due to a lack of acceptable partners for highly educated black women.
"They are less likely than black men to marry outside their race, and, compared to whites and black men, they are least likely to marry a college-educated spouse," he suggested.
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FEAR & SECRETS
Most of the time, the wife has fears and the husband has secret desires. It is important that within marriage, there is communication where the wife expresses her fears to him and the husband expresses his secret desires to her. It is important that both parties mutually address these (the wife's fear, and the husband's secret desires) in a loving and supportive fashion. For example, the wife must lovingly listen to her husband's secret desires, assure him that his secret is safe with her, and make an effort to occasionally fulfill his desires. In addition, the husband should listen to his wife's fears, and through encouragement, and patience, insure that her fears do not grow bigger than his love for her. Strong communication within the marriage will help insure that the wife will not express her fears to another man, or the husband will not feel compelled to express his secret desires to another woman. I pray your marriage is full of open, honest, and compassionate communication.
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