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Relationship Newsletter 

Volume 2 2009 Issue 13
In This Issue
No Kitchen Counselors
Bless the children
Bed Room Points for spouses
E-book
Real Men Closets
Successful Marriages
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No Kitchen Counselors:
 

Many people who are going through issues within their marriage will reach out to co-workers, family and old friends who are not qualified to provide counseling.  Chances are those same individuals (whose counsel you are seeking) may be going through issues within their marriage (they may need counseling themselves).  I advise one to seek a good counselor to work through their marital issues.  Please remember, in regards to receiving marital advice, the more people you bring into the marriage, the more confusing and worst it may get.
 
 
 

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Excerpt of "New Sheets" by T. Charles Brantley 
 
 
Another issue is when Christian wives are jealous of
worldly wives who enjoy the passions of their husbands' loins,
while these Christian wives stay in unsatisfied unions. Dare I
say it is time to take back everything the devil took. Stop lying
to yourself and start enjoying one another to the fullest.

Due to fornication, married couples bring a truckload of
sexual issues into the bedroom. Within this truckload, one may
experience hurts from sex. This is why God forbade sex before
marriage. When a person has sex before marriage, that person
brings in issues that should never have accrued before the
marriage. Therefore, couples have to first get beyond their
former un-married flings so that they can FINALLY deal with
each other sexually.

Sex is always there, and since some couples are talking
about it without direction, they have great frustration because
they can't agree on the hows and whens.
 

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Some of the chapters included in Pastor TC New Book "Married Couples: Thou Shalt have Great Sex" 
 
(Coming July 2009)
 
Agape, Philia, & Eros
 
The Golden Rule
Home First; Ministry Second
 
If He Stops, What Will You Do, Wives?
 
Stimulus Package: Sex as a Tool-Not as a Weapon
 
Have an Affair with Your Spouse
WARNING: Your Member Has an Expiration Date
 
IT IS NOT NASTY (Inspired by Song of Solomon)
 
Married Couple - Book Cover
 

Thank you to my editor-in-chief Tyrone Waters.

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Remember In the Book of Ecclesiastes chapter 4 and verse 12 (Bible)
"And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken."  

TRANSLATION (With only husband and wife the commitment can easily fail, but with God, husband, and wife the cord of commitment is not quickly broken.)


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Bless the children but curse the parent:
 
I have seen parents spend excessively on their children on various things like clothes, toys, etc...  Yet, those same parents will not spend any money or TIME on keeping their marriage together; this is a no-no.  Prior to an airplane takeoff, the captain announces, "in the event the plane looses pressure, please put the oxygen mask on yourself and THEN your child."  A similar perspective should apply to the instance of spending money on keeping your marriage together as opposed to merely showering your children with gifts.  How dare you spoil your children with gifts but invest little to nothing within your marriage.  To keep a marriage strong, one should prioritize in the following order; bless your spouse and then the children.  The following things are a blessing to one's spouse: spending time with your spouse on dates, both spouses reading books on marital advice, and marital counseling; all of these things insure the marriage will last.  By the children seeing their parents blessing one another, they will have an example of what a healthy and loving relationship consist of.
Bed Room Points for spouses:

If you want to get physically intimate with your wife, do it by talking. I am surprised how many couples do not talk or verbally communicating their desires to each other. If spouses would learn to share their desires with each other, they may be pleasantly surprised with the results.  If you don't talk to your spouse about your desires before sex, your spouse may deprive you of the opportunity to talk during sex.

                                   
 
 
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Single Point:

Singles, do not get involved with someone until you know yourself.  Often, too many people rush into a relationship prematurely because they fear being alone; making such a hasty decision is not wise.  Also, if you just came out of a bad relationship, take some time to heal before pursing another relationship.  Before you move into a new relationship, you should first evaluate yourself.
Are Men Intimidated By Independent & Successful Women? (reprint)
April 7th, 2008:


Are you a well-educated, intelligent, independent, and successful woman...
who is still single? You're not alone (no pun intended).
 

Many do ultimately want a relationship, but are independent
enough-financially & emotionally-to postpone it until the right man comes along. They hold high standards for their men, just as they hold high
standards for themselves. Although these standards weed out most of the men they meet, they don't mind; they're willing & able to wait.
 

But what if you don't want to wait anymore? Maybe you're ready to settle
down now. Maybe you're lonely and want companionship. Maybe your biological clock is not just ticking anymore, it's pounding. What to do, what to do... The easy answer is: go out and find a man. Yea, sure, and while you're at it, pick up an extra million dollars on the way home too.
 

Why do well-educated, intelligent, independent, and successful women find
it so hard to find a man? Is it because men are intimidated by them?
To answer that, let's look at three real-life anecdotes from women I know.
 

Women with MBAs
Within a local, prestigious MBA program, two girls noticed that most of
their male classmates going for girls without advanced degrees. Instead of
dating within their sizable pool of beautiful, sexy, and intelligent MBA
classmates, the guys were dating, and even marrying, girls outside of their
program. "Guys with MBAs just don't want girls with MBAs," one lamented.  They seemed to prefer less educated women.
 

Women in Triathlons
After meeting a great guy, one girl was shocked to find him suddenly
pulling away after a few successful dates. This was shortly after talking
about her rigorous triathlon training program. He cited her busy schedule
(which included work and triathlon training) as the reason to slow things
down. She sensed it was more about her triathlon than her work, though he
denied it. However, he would occasionally make comments about how much
stronger she was than him.
 

Women as Doctors vs. Teachers
A group of female doctors often went clubbing together. Each time, they'd
try an experiment. On some nights, they'd tell guys that they were doctors. On other nights, they'd tell guys that they were teachers, librarians, and interior decorators. Guess which profession the guys gravitated towards? "It's funny; every time we told them the truth, they'd disappear. But if we told them we were teachers or something, they'd flock around us and try to get our numbers."  Sure sounds like men are intimidated to independent and successful women to me. We can even add physically fit to that list. What's an independent and successful woman to do?
 
 
A Solution and a Silver Lining
Kris Frieswick of MSN Money has a solution. In her article "Too successful
for a mate?" she notes that many successful women hold unrealistic expectations for a relationship. They look for a partner who is just as
successful as they are, if not more so. She suggests adjusting those
expectations and seeking only those that are relevant to a happy
relationship.
I realize that my friends and I are not the norm, however. But men with
this mindset do exist. The majority of them are successful too. The
challenge isn't one of simply adjusting standards, in my opinion (though
it's helpful for everyone to at least have realistic standards). It's also
of trying to find one who's compatible with you.
It's not an impossible challenge either.
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Throughout this book, you will hear the word
"truth." It is because for too long men have
lived in lies. The hardest thing for men to do is speak the truth. I know there may be brothers
who say, "What about my wife?" This book is about men. And, in reality, brothers, if you live it, your wife will follow. Remember the quote: "If you build it, they will come"? Well, brothers, if
you speak the truth, your respective wives will follow correctly.

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Excerpt from "Successful Marriages for Successful Men" by T. Charles Brantley 
 

Don't Just Say Sorry
Without Feeling Her Pain
 

This is a running thing that as men we must
understand. A woman does not want sorry, she wants change. Yes, in the beginning she may say that she appreciates your kind words, but still in the
end, she wants a change of heart and plans to change those effects. As men, we can talk to a
certain point. Yet, a wife does not want talk, she wants action. Just as if we want action in the
bedroom, she wants action in the relationship. If
you do not give her any action, she will not give you any action, either, in the bedroom.

It is a hard thing to understand, men, but at times, women want both. They want words as well as
action. There are things that will change over time,
but if your wife had to choose between your words or doing it, she would rather have you do it. We have all heard the saying that talk is cheap.
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