Why Can't I Get My Wife to Have more sex?
Instead of going straight to sex, husbands must first learn to do a few key things with their wives. For example, instead going straight to sex, a husband should have communication with his wife. Also, instead of sex, take each other for a nice outing such as dinner.
Many wives only associate the husbands coming after them when they want sex. The only time and focus they give their wives is when they want sex.
If you touch your wife (through communication, and spending quality time with her) you will not have to pressure her to have sex, she will be willing. |
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How Do You Keep Your Marriage Strong ?
The key is being totally unselfish to your mate. When you only think about yourself, then you will only feed yourself (therefore your spouse's needs are being neglected within the marriage). On the other hand, when you are unselfish, and think about your wife or husband, they in turn will learn to minister to you (therefore both of your needs will be met within the marriage). Being unselfish creates a happy marriage.
In addition, spending quality time and good communication with your spouse are also good components for great and strong relationships down the road. |
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Why Is It Hard for Men to Communicate?
Simply most men have not been taught how to communicate with their wives. They have never been given the steps to be that effective communicator.
Many times, men know how to communicate non-relationships issues (such as sports or cars). On the other hand, those same men are usually lost and have no clue on how to communicate in regards to the needs of their wives.
This is where a wife can teach her husband IF he is willing to learn. The more he is willing to learn from her (for example, listening and learning what her needs are), the better he will become as a husbands in the area of communication.
As man will never have a baby, so men will never understand the importance of communication but he can learn. |
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Excerpt of "New Sheets" by T. Charles Brantley
For too long, Hollywood has depicted married sex as dull and boring. Yet, when a "Hollywood" couple has an affair, all
of a sudden the same persons have passionate and wild sex. This book will hopefully change such images and perceptions. In actuality, adulterous sex should be done in shame and without passion because of the future guilt and pain such an act will cause those involved. On the other hand, married sex should be wild and passionate because two people (not three or
four or more) have made a commitment for life.
Because of this commitment, the sex they have with each
other expresses and demonstrates such love to the point that
every time they have sex, the sheets are changed.
One other item for men to understand: if you have emotionally abused or terrorized your wife, you WILL have an
upward journey. You can't keep making withdrawals without
giving your wife deposits. In essence, you must meet her needs
before she touches yours. In reality, we men can't look at our
wives as sex objects. We must look at them as God's creatures, who need love and understanding.
I know this is a
difficult thing, brothers, but see it from their eyes and not your own. Again, you can't keep hurting her emotionally and expect her to give back. Same thing for wives who take advantage of
their husbands. If a man is doing right, bless him sexually in the bedroom. Kick out the abuser, and let in the healer
(husband). Don't let your husband pay for the sins of others who have entered your life. But, men, again, stay committed and faithful. Fidelity is not just physical but also emotional. Be careful of emotional affairs, because they will come after you. Make deposits, husbands, into your wives' lives. And
wives, make sure the bank (loving-making) or ATM (quickies) is always open for him.
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Thank you to my editor-in-chief Tyrone Waters.
Furthermore, if you don't have a church home we invite you to
Restoration Springs Interdenominational Church 1575 Thomaston Avenue in Waterbury.
www.rest.org
If you need baby blessings please contact me at 203-753-7377 or officiate weddings go to - S & M (Strong Marriages)
http://rest.org/SandMplus.htm
Remember In the Book of Ecclesiastes chapter 4 and verse 12 (Bible)
"And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken."
TRANSLATION (With only husband and wife the commitment can easily fail, but with God, husband, and wife the cord of commitment is not quickly broken.)
Pastor TC Brantley
Restoration Springs Interdenominational Church
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Why Does My Man Work so Hard on the Job but so little at home?
This is the cry of many women around the world. The cry of: "my man works more than he spends time with me". Why does this occur?
For most men, they are use to seeing a quick return on their work. If they work 40 hours they get paid for 40 hours. Yet when it comes to marriage it is totally different.
Meaning, if men doesn't see the return on an investment quickly, they are less willing to dedicate putting their time into that particular investment. For example, if a man helps around the house and the wife doesn't show any appreciation for his efforts or complains instead of compliments his efforts, he would probably look at investing time at home as a negative return.
In conclusion, a man must understand that there will be a positive return when time is invested into his home, even though the return may not come quickly. Even though there is usually not a financial return for spending time at home with your wife, or helping her out around the house, she will give you a return of love and compassion to which is priceless. |
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My Mate Can't Get Over the Affair?
Many mates have a difficult time getting over the affair. One reason is they may believe their spouse is not honestly over the affair that they are still involved with the bad party (for example they still may work with them at the same job).
Once you are COMPLETELEY done with the other party, then the healing, if allowed, can start. Many couples affected by affairs initially engage in the blame game which is always a mistake.
When you just point fingers then your finger becomes a scalpel. However, if you have forgiveness and mercy on your hands, then you bring a healing to your relationship that is very much needed.
Counseling is always a plus when it comes to dealing with an affair. For those Christians caught up, remember God forgave you too.
Last note, the wife may not heal until you finally find the soft part of her pain. |
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My Husband Goes to Strip Clubs What Should I do?
Wives do not understand that when it comes to sex, if their husband is not satisfied sexually, he can seem to be like an untamed animal that may go to the strip club.
In order to deal with this issue if he is a faithful man, is to create your own strip show at home. By doing this, you take his passion and bring it home.
Some wives are very quick to tell their husbands how lazy they are in the kitchen/ house chores, and lack good communication but these same women may be lazy in the bedroom. Both husband and wife must work together to bring about harmony so that going to other venues of sex is not an option.
Remember, people go out and get what they don't perceive what they have at home.
In other words, if you satisfy your spouse in the bedroom, he will not have the need to want to go to the strip.
As you want your husband to cater to your needs when it comes to communication just do the same in the sex department and he will have no need to go out and watch a stripper because he has one at home.
Some how they must go after each other needs to take away that opinion of that mate. When you do this, the mate who is going out has no excuse because he is getting his needs met at home.
Wives, if your man is calling you a woman with a broom you ride on turn that broom into a pole and see the changes in him. |
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When is the Right time to have kids ?
When both parties are mature enough to handle each other issues like adults.
Ensure that you know each other more than anything else. Too many couples have a plan but its faulted because it based on ideas and not reality.
Having kids is serious so don't have one until you are ready to deal with the demons in your life first. |
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What if my spouse is Gay?
This is a serious issue but I look at this as an affair. Whether the affair is with the same sex or different sex, it is still sex outside of the marriage vows and needs to be treated as an affair and not just a life style.
Not only are gay affairs wrong, it may carry a silent killer. According to the Center for Disease and Control, for Afro-American women the biggest killer of women between the ages of 40 to 45 is HIV.
First, the guilty mate needs to decide their sex preference. Based upon that decision, that couple can decide to break up or move on with serious counseling and prayer.
The key is to live and breathe in truth. Once truth is there, the relationship can either grow or die. The important thing is that the couple will know where each other stands within the relationship and the couple can decide whether to grow apart or stay together. |
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The global climate looks uncertain-in fact, it looks downright stormy. Sometimes, we all need to come in from the rain and receive a little hope to keep us going.
Restoration Springs wants to be a safe haven, a shelter from the winds of change. We know about real issues, but we also know a real God who has a plan that never changes. Share your real life; we'll do the same, and let's get through the storm together! | |
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Click to read some of the accomplishments of Pastor TC. All to the glory of God. |
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Excerpt
from "Real Men Don't Have Closets" by T. Charles Brantley
Men may read this book and say I am coming
down hard on them. I have to, because races
and generations depend on us. Women have
carried the burden for too long. It's time for us
to step up. We have to tell the truth. It starts
with our loins.
Yet, even if a man is wrestling with sexuality, he needs to be honest with you. You may ask,
"How do I know if my man is down low or
real?" It's called prayer, time, and talking to his
friends. If you take him to a mall or movie with
beautiful girls and his member never moves, or
if you talk to him in a suggestive way and
nothing happens, then something is wrong.
Check out his male friends. This, I believe, is the biggest telltale sign to see if a man is on the
down low or not.
If he wants to go to a private place every
week and will not report to you his whereabouts, you may have a man who is hiding a secret. Even when it comes to sexual sessions, a real man will not go for transgender or bisexual sex. There is nothing more beautiful than the female body. A woman is something beautiful in all shapes and sizes.
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Excerpt from "Successful Marriages for Successful Men" by T. Charles Brantley
Women and men have catch words that they need to keep away from each other. That one word can start a fight. That one word or trigger is what you need to
find out in all of its points and views. It may take a
while to find out what that word is, but like a bad tooth, you will know it when you hit it. For some women it is "being negative," and for you as the man, it may be calling a man a liar. Whatever the word is, find and keep the word and points of thinking of it from your mind.
I would even go the point of getting a dictionary
and finding out other words that mean that word. In doing this, you are protecting yourself and keeping yourself from any bad word that could cross her mind. The word again will be easy to find because
when you say it or accuse her of such, she will blow the stack. In addition, most importantly, her attitude
will change major toward you.
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