Listen?
Men, it is not how you speak to your wives but how you listen to them.
You must display positive nonverbal skills when your wife speaks to you (such as making good eye contact to show her she has your full attention).
When you deny her in speaking (not being attentive to her when she speaks), she may deny you in the bedroom. Men, it not how you speak to your wives but how you listen to them. |
Sex and Hurt Wife?
Husbands, don't rush to sex after you have hurt your wife. Hurt wives take longer to heal |
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Hug without Sex?
Simple but powerful idea. Husbands, instead of going after your wife, just hug and touch her without sexual tension.
This will surprise her and will warm her up for loving down the road. |
Take care of your body
Since women generally live longer then men, it makes sense for men to workout and do more cardio.
When you keep your body in shape, you encourage your wife in return. By loving your body, you love her as well.
Also, don't forget your yearly checkup. |
| CRIME AND TIME
Husbands, if you do the crime, expect your wife to put you in jail for awhile (be angry with you for a long period of time).
Women are human too husbands. If you hurt them especially with affairs, you must expect them to put you in jail for awhile.
I encourage you to remember why she put you there. You did something to offend her. While you wait remain loving & faithful towards her. How you endure shows the strength of the marriage. |
| AFTER A FIGHT
Be wise men after a fight with your girl.
Repent and find ways to compromise the situation. There are situations that you will need a counselor but the most time its repenting and learning new skills to insure you are not there again.
Take a walk before round two, and maybe the situation will end with the both of you in bed.
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A Love So Great
Everyone longs for love, real love, not the stuff on greeting cards or on T.V.
We can be clever, eloquent, or powerful, but without real love it means nothing. Do you know this kind of love? This Easter, come visit Restoration Springs Ministries and hear about the greatest love of all - the kind that endures sacrifice, can be difficult but also can change your life. Join us and great love can be yours!
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Thank you to my editors Tyrone Waters and Michele L. Wood.
Furthermore, if you don't have a church home we invite you to
Restoration Springs Interdenominational Church 1575 Thomaston Avenue in Waterbury.
www.rest.org
If you need baby blessings please contact me at 203-753-7377 or officiants to weddings go to - S & M (Strong Marriages)
http://rest.org/SandMplus.htm
Remember In the Book of Ecclesiastes chapter 4 and verse 12 (Bible)
"And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken."
TRANSLATION (With only husband and wife the commitment can easily fail, but with God, husband, and wife the cord of commitment is not quickly broken.)
Pastor TC Brantley
Restoration Springs Interdenominational Church
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TIME?
You should place less importance on when you want to spend time with your wife and place more importance on when she wants to spend time with you?
Timing is everything when it comes to spending time with your wife.
Your lady has her timing and it must be respected. Don't get frustrated; just test the waters (communicate with her) to find out when it isthe best time to spend time with her. Also remember, that the importance should not be placed on the mere quantity, but instead upon the quality of time. |
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SEX with Your Wife
Sex is as good as she desires it. A good wife will want to please her man when he desires sex; however,there are times when she wants it and a husband most deliver.
When you don't give your wife the love making when she wants it, she may deny you when you want it.
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SEASONS
Understand that there are seasons in your marriage (good and bad times).
The smart couple will understand the season and respect each other as they go through the seasons of their life.
Yet when you persevere through the changes, it will only make your marriage stronger in the end. |
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CLEAN THE HOUSE
I am not sure why, but the majority of wives love it when their husbands clean up around the house.
Doing outdoor chores like cutting the grass is OK, but your wife will really be turned on when you clean the inside of the house and clean up behind yourself as well |
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DO GOOD WITHOUT LOOKING FOR A REWARD.
For some men this is a hard pill to swallow because we are programmed to get a reward for our achievements.
When it comes to the ladies in our lives, this is not the way it works. In many cases, due to pain from past relationships, some ladies may not respond quickly to good actions. But men don't be weary in well doing. |
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SMILE AND LOOK INTO HER EYES
These are simple but powerful rules when applied.
Since your wife assesses how you are feeling according to the look on your face,show your warm smile often to give her an indication that all is well.
When you speak to your wife, look into her eyes and not her assets. This insures that you love her and not her body only.
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BE AWARE OF YOUR NONVERBAL
SKILLS
You may be saying one thing to your wife, but more importantly,what is your nonverbal communication telling her?
She will read your nonverbal communications (such as your facial expressions) before she hears your heart on the matter.
Remember this men: Our nonverbal communication speaks LOUDER than our verbal communication.
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A Love So Great
In the movie Fireproof, Lt. Caleb Holt will brave a burning building to rescue a stranger, but is he about to leave his marriage, and his wife, without even a fight? As the marriage crumbles, Caleb's father sends him a book with a challenge: the Love Dare. Join us at (Church Name) as we take that same challenge-to love first, to love better and to love for a lifetime. We're looking to build enduring, red-hot marriages. Come take the dare!
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STEP FATHERS
Step fathers always remember you are there for the wife FIRST and not the children.
Make sure you are in line with your wife first and the children will follow. When you don't love and respect the wife, the step children will follow.
Again, you and your wife are the king and queen and not the kids.
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Pastor TC on Radio Hear pastor with Buck, Nancy and Chef on March 19, 2009.
To hear previous shows go to Archive
Click to read some of the accomplishments of Pastor TC. All to the glory of God. |
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Excerpt
from "Real Men Don't Have Closets" by T. Charles Brantley
"Meaning when men become truthful from the
loins up, everything else will become easy to
speak, too. I hear Christians who say this does not count, but it does matter. Men's prized possessions are their loins, so when a man can speak truth from his loins, he will be able to speak truth from other parts. Yes, it starts in the heart of truth. When a man is not honest with God and his wife, truth will be hampered.
In antiquity, men of valor knew there was a fifty
percent chance that they might not come
back home, but they went anyway. Can we
find men today who will march into the lives of
their loved ones and tell the truth even if this
means the death of a relationship? Such men
will die in truth instead of a lie. Many men are
living with a lie as they make love to their wives.
Such will ultimately kill the relationship. Men
must be men of standard-not just in public, but also, more importantly, in private."
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Excerpt from "Successful Marriages for Successful Men" by T. Charles Brantley
"Now, this will blow the mind of many men. There are more times than many that a wife just wants you to listen. She is not looking for any solution. She is
looking for you to give her your undivided attention toward what she is talking about.
This, brothers, takes awhile to understand but it is true. When you try to solve the problem at times, this will make her more upset versus you just sitting there and listening. For men, this is hard to do because we are problem solvers. We like putting things into perspective and fixing things. Yet
women sometimes do not want things fixed. She wants you to her give your attention.
I heard a doctor say that the crazy brain waves that men have when they watch porn is the same brain wave women have when they are a part of intimate talking. Yes, brothers, I do not understand it but it is
true. When they have your EAR and TIME, they become more sexual. Only God knows what he was doing when he made woman."
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Excerpt of "New Sheets" by T. Charles Brantley
"The reason ungodly sex is running rampant in the church is
because too many people are coming to church sexually
frustrated. When people are married and sexually frustrated, worship and praise are not going to work. Married couples
must be of one accord before coming to church, and not always
coming to church sexually frustrated. In many instances,
couples need to turn their attention toward their mates and
satisfy God-given desires. This ensures that the devil does not
gain ground in the marriage."
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Coitus Relationships
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According to the University of Gottingen people who have sex less often tend to take on more work to compensate for their frustration (workaholics).
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Husbands, according to the Daily Star, women who cut their hair short aren't interested in sex anymore and are trying to reduce their sex appeal.
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