| Warning for Fathers of Blended Families |
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When a lion takes over a pride, he usually kills the cubs(infanticide) of his predecessor in order to wipe out the gene of the incumbent male.
Well, in the human kingdom if blended fathers are not careful they can emotional kill the children (cubs) of the natural father. Men must insure they don't act like a lion.
Even if you are not the their biological father, you can be their mentor.
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| New Ground for New Roots |
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Couples must learn to transplant themselves especially from childhoods that were abusive. After counseling and looking at my own life, 60% of most fights in marriage come from past family experiences.
Once you transplant to new ground, you can create new roots. Remember you should learn from your negative past experiences and not repeat them. |
| Wife Rain Check |
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Wives when your husband wants sex, especially in the morning, don't just say no give him a rain check. In other words promise to "bring sexy back" another day to fulfill his desires. And oh yes, the rain check does not take 1 year to cash nor does he have to remind you.
Wives, just like you want your husband to remember your desires, he needs for you to fulfill and remember his desires as well. |
| Lead and Supporting Parent |
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When it comes to blended families, one parent has to be the lead parent and the other the supporting parent. When these roles are messed up there will be pain in paradise.
The ORIGINAL parent must be the lead in all matters. The non natural parent is in support of the natural parent. In doing this, you insure yourself of a non-conflict household.
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| Ask Your Lady |
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Ask your lady the following biology questions?
- Clitoris
- Labium minus
- Labium majus
- Urethra
- Perineum
You may be surprised to find out your wife has more going on than you could ever imagine. |
| Help Self before Spouse |
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Before you try to fix your mate, FIRST work on your self. Without a doubt, couples can feed off the negative or positive respectively.
The next time you want to correct your mate, first correct you self. Put the oxygen mask on yourself FIRST, and then try to help your mate. Some times the best help is being an example of change.
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| SPECIFICS !!! |
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Men, when you are able to do something for your wife, ask her for specifics. Instead of assuming what your wife wants, ask her specifically. Doing so will prevent miscommunications down the road. |
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Book Signing with Pastor TC
December 20th 2008 (Saturday)
348 Chase Avenue
Waterbury, CT 06704
203-754-0364
From 1 to 3 pm
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| Giving is Better than Receiving |
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We must not forget that Christmas is about giving and not receiving.
If couples would learn to give more versus receiving, families would never go without want.
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Wedding Vows
Remember the power in your vows in the good and bad days |
In order to relate, I am including this interactive section where you can submit all your questions about relationships. Note that the questions that I answer will be posted but rest assured that your identity will remain anonymous. Please email questions to hot937pastortc@snet.net For those who email with questions or comments, one blessed person will receive a free e-book from books authored by Pastor TC within two weeks. Also don't forget to check out our blog and post your comments at Relationship Blog |
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Another Reason to Stay Faithful
Wife sets husband's genitals on fire.
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| Urban Bible |
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The Book of the Bible called Jeremiah chapter 29 & verse 11 says:
'For I know the plans that I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope. "
(Translation) Every man and woman born has a mission within them from God. The mission is to do His will and upon doing such you have a bright future to look forward to. | |
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| Greetings!
In these rough economic times, its human nature to run rather than face the battle. I encourage every husband and wife to continue in their relationship. Remember you rather fight together than alone.
Newsletter is not meant to be read in one day but in a two-week time frame. Please check out the Table of contents to the left first. |
Wonder Woman
So Husbands let me get this right, you expect your wife to be a mother, wife, cleaner, cook, work and INSTIGATE sex. With that mind frame you will have many disappointments.
In point, try to find ways to give your wife a break from the kids and house. The less time she has to worry about kids and house, the more time she can give to you.
Ladies, when your husbands gives you those things don't ALWAYS say I will use that time to sleep. in point, use that time to OCCASIONALLY let him know you are REALLY wonder woman and not just at the office. |
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Hot 93.7 FM "Morning Crew" Highlight
The Morning Crew is made up of DJ Buck, Nancy B, and Marv. Lo.
Nancy is a not only the personality and 'lady' of the group but she also operates the board.
Nancy's hometown is in Troy, NY and was born July 4th. She is very very passionate about animal rights and her shoes. She been in the business over 16 years.
Join DJ Buck, Nancy, and Marv on December 18th from 7:30 to 8:30 am with guest relationship expert Pastor TC.
Next, issue we will highlight DJ Buck
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| Canoodling limits Palpitations |
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Highlight of Article by Valerie Frankel
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Less Anger
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Lower blood pressure
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Release calming & feel good hormones (oxytocin and endorphins)
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Quickie turns into longie
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Careful not to connect sex with anxiety
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LOVE is the ultimate cure |
Wife Needs Many Touches
Running backs need many "touches" during the game. The more the running back touches and carries the ball the hotter and more yards he gets.
Well wives are the same. Husbands the more you touch your wives physically, emotionally and mentally, the more comfortable they get with you.
So husbands touch her as much as possible and not just when you want sex. With this process, you induce your wife to be hot and not cold toward your advances. |
In the kitchen
Doing things as a couple is powerful and creates bonding between couples. Food in it self is a relaxing agent. Combining the preparation of food and talking about past, present and future issues will only strengthen the relationships.
The key is to spend time together. Since our days are not known enjoy every part of it. And yes men, if you cook in the kitchen she may cook for you in another part of the house. |
Couples and the Whip
Ephesians chapter 5 and verse 21 says that husbands and wives should submit one to another. Yet there are times couples have a stubborn will toward each other. To break that will, couples must use a "whip" ON EACH OTHER.
When I say 'whip' I am talking hyperbole. There is no actual whip but a trust in each other to take the whip of instruction to learn.
For example, who ever is strong in the area of communication, sex, finance, raising the children and etc. should be in charge of the whip in those stubborn times. Take this point, if the wife desires sex more, then she should be in charge of the 'intimacy' whip when the subject comes up. If the husband is strong in keeping the house clean, he should be in charge of the 'clean up' whip.
There is only one whip and not several. In point, there is a safeness in instructing each other into submission so that the wife gets her desires met and the husband gets his desires met.  |
Still Happy
Wives if your husbands are still "excited" when he sees your body don't punish or make fun of him but reward him. Let's ask the question, would you want him excited about another woman's body?
After all these years he still wants you sexually is not a bad but a good thing. Ladies you may hate your body but he still is in love with it. Celebrate this fact and not discourage it.
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Multiple Marriages 
With the recent news that Ivana divorced from her 4th husband after only 7 months, we must use this point to stress that if you are past the second marriage its time to do some serious self evaluation.
Too many couples run into a relationship without really evaluating the past. I suggest to all couples to find out why the last relationship did not work. This will be an indicator of your present or future relationship(s).
For some couples, they sabotage the relationship before it even starts due to messed up childhoods. Before you say, "I do" check yourself.
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| BEAT THE DIVORCE ODDS |
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This is an actual billboard sign that appeared at a major city concerning Steven's divorce. I encourage married couples to beat the odds and don't let a Divorce Calculator tell you that you are not going to make it. I used the divorce calculator and I plan to beat the 35% chance of divorce.
I say with God's help and counseling, you can beat the odds too.
Additionally for fathers who think they are not important to their daughters in a divorce, please read the following I need My Daddy |
You Still Ain't Getting NONE 
Such words have probably come from every wife's mouth. Yet many many wives do not know that such a phase brings powerful negative feelings to her husband. It brings a total depravity of sex.
I suggest changing the phrase too, "I am not in the mood now but it can change".
To tell your husband he ain't getting none is like a husband saying to his wife, you still ain't getting money toward a particular purchase.
When you deny a spouse in one area, they may deny you in a another area. |
| Beyonce Learns |
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Beyonce credits her parents for learning how to deal with her marriage to Jay Z.
This is only another reason why couples need to stay together. When couples stay together and work things out they help and encourage the next generation.
This may be the factor to so many breakups in America because there are no examples to be seen. |
 Plaxico & Tiffany Burress Example
Every man must learn the lesson from Plaxico (wide receiver for the NY Giants and holder of a $35Million contract). Because of his immature act (carrying a loaded gun), his family fortune may be at stake.
Men you must understand for every action we take, there will be a reaction. |
Viagra and Ecstasy Pills 
As drugs can mask pain so can over stimulated (nymphomania) sex. If a person never wants to discuss problems or issues but only wants sex when problems arise is an issue.
Many don't know the 'natural high' hormones release during sex. This is especially true for woman since they can maintain an orgasms lasting 2 minutes compared to a man lasting only 10 seconds.
Some couples take ecstasy for heightened sex and then of course the man may have to take viagra to keep up with such prowess. This of course will cause no bonding as well as burn out down the road.
If after hyper-extended-crazy-non-stop-no-water-break-destroy-the-furnitureure-want-more-sex and the person is still depressed soon after the orgasms wear off could be a sign of a person who is using sex to run away from issues that must be faced. 
Sex between couples should help and not hinder(escape) the issues one may face. In most cases, the hypersexual spouse has a history of sexual or mental abuse.
In point the relationship and or body will eventually run out of gas. God made sex to be natural and sexual aids are supplements and not foundations of sex.
In point, husbands especially, if your wife is a freak but the lows are consistently worse than the highs, your wife may need help to get over her issues. Couples need healthy and not debilitating sex. |
 Excerpt from New Sheets
"For too long, Hollywood has depicted married sex as dull and boring. Yet, when a "Hollywood" couple has an affair, all of a sudden the same persons have passionate and wild sex. This book will hopefully change such images and perceptions.
In actuality, adulterous sex should be done in shame and without passion because of the future guilt and pain such an act will cause those involved. On the other hand, married sex should be wild and passionate because two people (not three or four or more) have made a commitment for life."
"New Sheets" is available nationwide on such sites as bn.com or amazon.com. To get an autograph copy, go to Autograph Copy
Purchase: $12.95
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E-Book: $5.00 (no S & H) |
HeartLess
Major lyrics from Kanye West:
"He lost his soul
To a woman so heartless...
How could you be so Dr. Evil
You're bringing out a side of me that I don't know
I decided we weren't gonna speak so why we up 3 a.m. on the phone
Why does she be so mad at me for, homie I don't know she's hot and cold"
In point, Kanye tells of the many broken hearts that happen in relationships. When one is attacked in the heart you must decide quickly was it premeditated? or a simple mistake. Pre-mediated heartless actions must have severed relationships quickly while mistake heartbreak may be cured to love again. |
Anonymous Testimony, New Britain, CT
"Pastor TC helped me rediscover the path to happiness after a being a
participant in a unsatisfying resentment-building relationship that went on
for much too long (30% of my life, based upon Pastor TC's relationship assessment formula). He helped me find the courage to move on from that
relationship by directing me to put my life in the hands of God."
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Article Headline 
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Share the love towel responsibilities
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Husbands after the Big O fight the feeling to go to sleep.
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Its common for a man to stop touching after the Big O but for woman they may want to continue.
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Wives who feel embarrassed or ashamed about their bodies have less sexual assertiveness according to the Journal of Sex Research. Husbands build up her ego and self esteem on how you still love her body to combat her issues.
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According to Dr. Louann Brizendine, a neuro-psychiatrist at the University of California, kissing is good for your health. She says "The oxytocin-dopamine rush suppresses anxiety and skepticism, and reinforces love circuits in the Brain."
- During love making don't deny the use of pillows.
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Thank you to my editors Tyrone Waters and Michele L. Wood. Furthermore, if you don't have a church home we invite you to Restoration Springs Interdenomitional Church 1575 Thomaston Avenue in Waterbury. If you need baby blessings please contact at 203-753-7377 or officiants to weddings go to - S & M (Strong Marriages)Sincerely, Remember In the Book of Ecclesiastes chapter 4 and verse 12 (Bible) "And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken."
TRANSLATION (With only husband and wife the commitment can easily fail, but with God,husband, and wife the cord of commitment is not quickly broken.)
Pastor TC Brantley
Restoration Springs Interdenominational Curch
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