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Fast facts from Cynthia Tucker's article on Marriage:
- Half of American households are married. By race that 62%, 60%, and 41% within the White, Latino, and Black community respectively.
- 70% of Black children are born outside the marriage
Without a doubt, marriage is a dying status. President-Elect Obama came from a non-traditional home (single parent home) and Michelle came from a traditional home (two parent home), yet they wanted better. They do not have baby mamma or daddy drama (can you imagine that in the White House)? We are not condemning anyone who has baby mammas/daddies drama; we hope this just encourages people within their relationships. The Obamas are a good example that American's young and old can look up too.
Most of the information came from Cynthia Tucker of AJC. You can find a link to her article below :
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Role Play
Wives don't fight over your husband's addiction to gaming. Next time he is in the room playing his game, wrap yourself in a similar material and make yourself into a control unit and tell him to push your buttons. I guarantee he will play your game.
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Send in Your Questions
In order to relate, I am including this interactive section where you can submit all your questions about relationships. Note that the questions that I answer will be posted but rest assured that your identity will remain anonymous. Please email questions to hot937pastortc@snet.net
For those who email with questions or comments, one blessed person will receive a free e-book from books authored by Pastor TC within two weeks.
Also don't forget to check out our blog and post your comments at
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Good about Economic Downturn
Because of the economic downturn, some are giving up their mistresses. People are understanding that affairs do not pay in these times. Whether rich, poor or medium class, if you stop the affair because of no money for hotels, unregistered condoms(your wife doesn't know you have a box of Trojans) and unregistered credit charges (spouse does not know about) their are still issues that need to be addressed.
According to a new survey by Prince & Assoc., more than 80% of multimillionaires who had extra-marital lovers planned to cut back on their gifts and allowances. Still, only 12% of the multimillionaire cheaters said they plan to give up on their lovers altogether for financial reasons.
This still means 68% of millionaires are still cheating (only 12% of the 80% stopped). The down turn in our economy isn't enough to stop this epidemic of cheating. Its going to take a character change.
For more information click the link below
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Dealing with men
Ladies use your shopping skills when dating a man:
- Insure once you invest, is he totally yours (sharing is prohibited).
- Can you show him off to others without any shame
- Does the love keep giving back or is it only one way.
- You always shop for brand new and not handled over by others. (NEVER date a man going through a divorce. Wait until its finalized).
- Is there a good rate of return on the relationship.
- If you don't buy both ways clothing don't get involved with a both way man.
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CLEAN BREATH
Before you speak to your wife in the morning, insure to use a toothbrush and mouth wash.
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From the Bible - Words of Wisdom
The book of Proverbs. Chapter 5 and verses 15 - 19
15Drink waters out of thine own cistern, Even flowing ones out of thine own well. 16Let thy fountains be scattered abroad, In broad places rivulets of waters. 17Let them be to thee for thyself, And not to strangers with thee. 18Let thy fountain be blessed, And rejoice because of the wife of thy youth, 19A hind of loves, and a roe of grace! Let her loves satisfy thee at all times, In her love magnify thyself continually.
TRANSLATION: (When you Satisfy ALL of your procreation (sensual) desires with your wife you will NEVER have baby mamma drama. If her loving was good in youth, it will be good when you are older.)
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Wedding Planning
Insure the photograph and video companies have references that you can check out and see. And yes this includes family members as well. The pictures and tapping can NEVER be recreated.
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Marriage is not made by love-making but by how you survive conflict within the marriage. Here are some facts from Dr. Haltzman:
- 69% of conflicts are never resolved
- Couples who learn to agree to disagree will survive
- Five major areas of conflict include: money, sex, communication, housework, and kids
To deal with conflict, learn to talk before it escalates to a fever tempo and always respect the other person's views.
According to Dr. Haltzman the following are 4 ways fights escalates include: Feeding the fire, Withdrawal and Avoidance (men tend to do this more than women), Negative interpretation, and Finger pointing. Without a doubt deal with such things prayerfully and carefully.
For more info purchase "The Secrets of Happily Married Men" by Dr. Haltzman.
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HOT 93.7
 Hot 93.7 FM is the number one Urban station in our area. Insure to let your friends and family know that every other Thursday Pastor TC of Restoration Springs Interdenominational church is on Hot 93.7 FM to answer relationship questions (December 4th and 18th).
Join the nation of listeners who check out DJ Buck, Nancy Barrow, and Marv.
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Before you Get Serious
 Follow a 4 by 8 rule. Take 4 months to get all the information on a person to whom you consider for marriage. Then take the next 8 months to discover if you can tolerate the negative aspects of that person?
ALSO, in the words of Pastor Troy Moore of New Generation Ministries in New Britain,CT "get a credit report and a STD test as well before you say I DO." |
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Lesson on Relationships
 Alicia Keys song called "Secrets" has great lessons for all who hear.
- 0 You can be Yourself
- 0 Tell internal feelings
- 0 Your Secrets safe with me
In addition, it is important to be open and not keep secrets from each other within the relationship. |
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Conversations
 Husbands must understand that their wives are bottomless when it comes to conversation(they have a lot to talk about). Wives are seldom at a lost for words when it comes to relationships. She is not crazy, it's just in her DNA. Even after you have done all the right things with your wife like: have a romantic evening followed by good loving, and take care of the house doing various chores, she may still have an OBSERVATION.
Take a deep breath and try not to loose your cool, because once she stops talking to you, the relationship is in trouble. So encourage your wife to keep talking while you listen, converse, and learn. |
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Wife Makes More Than Husband
 Before you marry him, does he approve of you being the "bread winner" of the household. If he does approve, just make sure he will not become a lazy man. These are issues that must be addressed before the relationship goes to a deeper level of commitment.
Too many women either take in bad men or they tolerate being taken advantage of. Even if you make more than him, he should still have a job and not dog you for making more money. For More information click below
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Husbands - Size Doesn't Matter
 Society has placed too much pressure on husbands having large members. From pills to devices, men have spent too much money on themselves and not enough time on their wives. I encourage husbands to take that money and invest it with their wives.
Husbands don't understand that 3 inches is all you need to touch your wife's orgasmic nerve endings. Husbands, it is not the size but the amount of time you invest in them.
Song of Solomon Chapter 1 verse 10 and 11 (Amplified Bible) says:
"Your Cheeks are comely with ornaments, your neck with strings of jewels. We will make for you chains and ornaments of gold, studded with silver." |
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What to do in this economy?
- Pray & support Your local church
- Cut up credit cards(especially the secret ones that your spouse knows nothing of) and consolidate
- Any purchase over $200 decide together
- Have a debt reduction chart to encourage debt freedom
- Use Netflix versus Movie Theatres
- Track your spending and see where you can save money
- Have a one day rule. Before you buy something wait one day and see if you still want it
- Find ways to make extra money (legally) without sacrificing family time
- Save a little, but pay debt off a lot
- Cut down eating out
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Coitus for Married Couples
- After having sex with your wife cuddle.
- According to a study by Texas A&M Fruit and Vegetable Improvement Center, eating watermelon might have the same effect for men as Viagra.
- Cell Phone and Laptops should be prohibited from the bedroom.
- Faking the Big O is the same as lying.
- According to Ipsos Reid Survey, 58% of husbands and wives are too tired for sex. Suggestion, turn the TV off and turn each other on.
- In the bedroom,the wife is the director and the husband is the actor for maximum satisfaction
- Oxytocin (hormone released in the Brain during sex) is the highest in the early morning. The more oxytocin the stronger the bond between husband and wife.
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Couples can't afford divorce
 According to msn.com, couples who were getting divorced are deciding to stick with it and because of such marriage counseling has gone up. Because of the economic times, couples are discovering that tolerating is better than divorcing.
Yet for those couples who stick it out without counseling may wind up in affairs and or creating assault charges among themselves. For further information click the link below
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- Married 22 Years
- Two children
- Counselor for over 15 Years
- Senior Pastor and Founder of Restoration Springs Interdenominational Church
- Double Master Degree (Divinity and Pastoral Leadership) from Newburgh Theological Seminary
- Undergraduate Degree (Business and Mathematics) from Florida A & M University (FAMU)
- Author of six national published books
- Relationship Expert on Hot 93.7 FM
- Member of Connecticut Author and Publishers Association
- Chaplain(s) for State Troopers (A & I) and Naugatuck Fire Department
- Most importantly a sinner saved by grace
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BOOK SIGNING with Pastor TC
 December 20th 2008 348 Chase Avenue
Waterbury, CT 06704
203-754-0364
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Thank you to my editors Tyrone Waters and Michele L. Wood.
Furthermore, if you don't have a church home we invite you to Restoration Springs Interdenomitional Church 1575 Thomaston Avenue in Waterbury.
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Sincerely,
Pastor TC Brantley
Author & Guest Relationship Expert Hot 93.7 FM
Remember In the Book of Ecclesiastes chapter 4 and verse 12 (Bible)
"And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken."
TRANSLATION (With only husband and wife the commitment can easily fail, but with God,husband, and wife the cord of commitment is not quickly broken.)
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