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 Hope you are having a great weekend. Whether you are watching your favorite football team, preparing for hunting trips, sorting through Christmas decorations or planning your Thanksgiving meals, today would be a great day to take a few moments to make a list of all the people, opportunities, life lessons and life experiences that are adding to this season of gratitude.

Even in our darkest times calling to mind what we have vs. what we don't have can impact how we see our life situations.  I invite you to shift your attention and focus to choosing a mood of gratitude as you go about your Thanksgiving week.  Notice the difference it makes to be surrounded by the many people, outcomes and experiences you have to be grateful for in your life.

I too want to take this opportunity to share my gratitude for you who continue to read
this newsletter, my posts on Facebook, and the many clients and students that continue to support my message, teachings and coaching throughout the year. My life has been enriched and expanded because of the many gifts, qualities and connections that you continue to provide for me.

I love you and wish you a very happy and joyful holiday season. I appreciate your support, friendship and the teacher you have also been in my life. 

I would like to continue our connections and expand our learning in 2011.  Please Click here for the calendar for next year and be sure to check it often, there is lots more to come. Another way to expand your learning and connections is to invite someone into this learning community.  I am requesting that you share this newsletter or a learning and growth opportunity with someone that you know, love or would like to deepen a relationship with in your life.

If you have any topics you would like me to expand on or a question or situation you would like me to write about, please don't hesitate to drop me a line at any one of my sources of contact. Chances are you are not alone with what you would like more information or perspective on. This is an opportunity to support and serve many other people with the same question or concern.

Have a great week and again, Happy Thanksgiving!

Love & hugs,



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Shiney objects

Shiny Objects:
Obstacles to creating and living a life I love

My definition of shiny objects are the people or things that what we give our attention to vs.  being intentional and purposeful in creating and experiencing a life you love or having what you really want and what you say is important to you.  All those things that you allow to sabotage the experiences and outcomes you long for in your life. 

I am going to claim that these shiny objects are learned habits and patterns that feed into our limiting beliefs, negative internal dialog and old programming.  At one time they may have worked to keep you safe or protected in some way.  They are no longer working.  Now the cost of following and chasing shiny objects is holding you back, keeping you stuck and getting in the way of you stepping into your  brilliance, magnificence and endless possibilities. 

The first and most important agent of change is awareness.   This is not an opportunity to make yourself wrong.  If you want anything other than what you currently have, it is an opportunity to see what you can learn so you can make new choices.

What are your shiny objects?

Is your to do list, multi-tasking, endless stream of projects, excuses, drama, blaming others, fears, procrastination, withdrawal, avoidance, need to be approved of, loved, accepted, need to belong or is it the reaching, chasing, grabbing of a more, better, different lifeIs it not having declared standards or boundaries, not having a plan, not requesting support?  Are you more of a crisis manager than a designer of your life?

What would it look like for you to RECOMMIT to living a life you love?

Today is the first day of the rest of your life.  Your past is not an indicator of what is possible for you in the future. You  have power of choice and voice.

What do you want?
What are you going to do about it?
When are you going to do it?

Here are some ways to reframe some limiting beliefs and actions.  You get to discover those that will intervene on your shiny objects. Shifting or letting go of negative or limiting beliefs allow you to choose new actions that create a more empowering future.

  • Limiting belief - I never finish anything. 

  • Shiny Object or Limiting action - I might start lots of projects or tasks but not complete them.

  • Reframe belief to  - I am recommitting to declaring and taking action on what is important to me.

  • New Action - Set a goal, set smaller benchmarks of completion, ask for support, learn a skill or competence that will increase my possibility of success and completion.
    Limiting belief - It's never enough. 

  • Shiny Object or Limiting action - I take on more than I am capable of completing. I only see what I don't get done instead of what I do get done.  I go out of my way to be busy so I can do more and not be judged as not enough.

  • Reframe belief to - I am recommitting to declaring standards of enough action in the areas of ......

  • New Action - Declare standards of enough. Say NO! Acknowledge all that I do get done. 

  • Limiting belief - What's the point?

  • Shiny Object or Limiting action - I give up and don't complete tasks or promises.  I sabotage my relationships by withdrawing and isolating.  I project the judgment that I am not worthy of your love, friendship, acceptance or forgiveness.  I choose how you feel about me and then I act that out.

  • Reframe belief to - I am recommitting to creating intention and purpose in my actions and conversations.

  • New Action - Nurture relationships.  Practice and learn to receive acknowledgment and praise.  Let the already present love, acceptance, friendship, support and forgiveness in. Acknowledge the contribution you are and the difference you make in the lives of others.

    Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?" Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

    -Marianne Williamson

  • Contact me to explore what might be next for you on your journey towards  a more peaceful today and a much brighter tomorrow!

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