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Hope you all had a great holiday. 

Sorry this week's check in is late.  I have been in vacation mode for almost a week enjoying the beautiful weather and the company of great friends and an awesome family. 

I am excited to report that although I was away, lots of great opportunities unfolded and loose ends got tied up over the week for Empowering Potential and this community. 

I will be releasing information periodically as the structure permits.  In the meantime, if there is something you would like to see made available, don't hesitate to write or call.  My contact information is below.

I hope you will join me on this journey.  Let's co-create the future!!!  I want to be your partner in possibilities in Your Next Step!

Love & hugs,

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Female & Fabulous
Empowering Women through Choice and Voice!

Janet Shepherd of the Iowa City Learning Foundation recently interviewed me on the upcoming Female & Fabulous course being held in Iowa City, Iowa April 17 & 18. 
Click here to listen to the interview or to find out more information about the course.

If the date or location doesn't work for you, consider hosting this course through your workplace, church or organization.  This is an ideal course for a retreat setting.

Contact me for a proposal or more information. 

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Save the Date:
The next Female & Fabulous course in Louisiana is
July 17 & 18, 2010. 

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Relationships  - Part 5 of 6
By Denise Palmisano

Week 1 - I introduced the concept that your destiny as a human being is to be in relationship with other human beings.  You were born into the basic human need to experience love, acceptance and connection with other human beings.  To resist this inherent truth will have you suffer on many levels.  We are incapable of reaching our potential without being in human relationships.  Therefore, relationships could be said to be crucial to our human evolution. 

Week 2 - I expanded on suggesting that each of the many types of relationships support us in authentically knowing ourselves.  I claimed  that each and every relationship has a purpose, a role and a reason for being what it is at this time in our life.  Our actions or lack of actions in our current relationships are a result of our past associations, and prior programming of relationships in general.  The mere mentioning of someone's name whether we know them or not, generates an experience and energy in us.  Those experiences and that energy either opens or closes possibilities for the relationships in our lives.  Knowing what opens and closes possibilities in any and all relationships will be a crucial step in co-creating, designing and sustaining relationships. I hope you had an opportunity to do the exercise.

Week 3 - We took an external and internal look at the many filters we bring to a relationship.  Those perspectives expanded your awareness to show you how filters further impact how we experience, enhance, or limit our many relationships.  I talked about filters being a form of protection vs. a form of knowing or wisdom.   Most of your suffering and limitations in relationships have more to do with filters, old programming, ego and interpretations than the TRUTH!  Hanging onto filters that are not working for you are self-imposed disconnections, walls and limitations.  

I invited you to find your breath and that place inside of you where your internal stillness and wisdom reside.  The exercise invited you to focus on  your breathing without judgment as you asked yourself various questions about your current relationships.  Overall, these exercises are intended to show you more about yourself and how you relate to others.

Week 4 - I invited you to end the repeated cycles in your relationships by clearing the chaos and clutter.  This is the next step in making room for new and different relationships to show up even if that new and different relationship is with a person already in your life.

I asked you to embrace that you have co-created your relationships with your filters, boundaries, stories, habits and beliefs.  By taking on the exercise, you were able to notice the "What was working and what wasn't working in each relationship".  This information and observation allowed you to take responsibility for integrating a support structure and practices that will allow for overall, healthier relationships.

Week 5 - What are you observing and noticing as you take responsibility?  What fears, issues or concerns are coming up as you attempt to take action or have conversations about what isn't working? 

Chances are you have taken 2 steps forward and three steps back to a lesson of a previous week.   That is why a support structure is so necessary.  I am going to invite you one more time to enroll a few people to be your support structure to be with you in this process.  As you continue to reveal more of your filters and limitations you will find many layers and roots to authentically knowing yourself and what is really important to you in relationships. 

When you can truly know what you are up to, you will see the shifts begin to happen.   This is the end of the innocence and you are awakening to more authentic relationships.  That is sometimes a time of sadness, and grief as you say goodbye to old habits and old programming.  To add to that, it can often bring on confusion and fear not trusting what is next.  Breathe, you are exactly where you need to be for what is next.

Most of us were not taught effective relationship skills growing up.  If you continue to depend on your old programming, you will probably find that you are less than equipped to handle what is coming up in your current day relationships.  You are not alone.  Don't give up.  You just haven't practiced integrating steps of effectiveness to the point that they are transparent.

This week I invite you to practice compassion and non-judgment for yourself as you integrate the work of the previous weeks.  I have witnessed thousands of people repair, restore and create thriving relationships over the last 20 yrs.  They all used some variation of the information I am giving you in this Relationship series.   This week, I invite you to practice self-care in your relationships.

Since you are the only person you have any real control over, I invite you to take responsibility to take care of yourself.  We already established how energy either opens or closes possibilities for the relationships in our lives.  Consider anything or anyone that depletes your energy as an opportunity for learning.  Don't make them wrong or blame them.  This is about you.  Focus your attention internally.

Be an observer of the many ways you give away your energy, power and resources.  Ask yourself the question, "If I were to take care of myself in this relationship, what actions and conversations would I integrate? 

Please share what you learned or what you saw possible as you practiced self-care.  To leave a comment on my blog at the end of this article, Click here.

If you would like to schedule a 30 minute complimentary session to discuss this process or anything that came up for you, Clicking here.

If you missed any of the other emails on Relationships, Click here.

This 6 part series is winding down.  I am facilitating a more extensive course in relationships June 26 & 27.  This is an on-site course that will connect the dots that have been started in these weekly reflections.  If you are ready to take responsibility for the quality of your relationships, Click here to register for this course.

  Empowering Potential Partners with The Red Shoes
Save the Date:  June 12 & 13
A Course for Men and Women

The Red Shoes, located in Baton Rouge, LA is a Center for Personal and Spiritual Growth. 

I am very excited for the opportunity to partner with The Red Shoes on the upcoming course, Awaken to Your Energy and Untapped Potential:  Exploring the Wisdom in Your Shadows.
Click here for more details
In Addition to the above mentioned course;

I will also be hosting a monthly support and share group at The Red Shoes, on the first Wednesday of the month beginning May 5th, 2010At this time, there is no charge for this meeting.

This is a facilitated meeting.  It is open to people interested in being in conversation with others that are currently experiencing challenge or difficulty moving through limitations and blocks in their lives.  It is also for people that have a strong desire to enhance a particular area of life.
  Your participation in this meeting implies that you are committed to moving forward and taking the next step in a particular area of your life.

Some common areas of concern are health and well-being, relationship with self, relationship with others, money, intimacy, spiritual awareness, moods and emotional well-being, dignity, self-trust, wholeness and career.

Cost:  An open heart and open mind
  • be open to learning
  • be coachable
  • be open to being supported and held accountable
  • be committed to transformation
An application is required for your participation.  Additional details will be given once your application has been reviewed and accepted.
Space is limited. Click here to complete a contact form to be considered for this group. 
Act quickly to guarantee your seat in this series.

If you would prefer individual or private access to this series, Click here to complete a contact form and let me know your interest.  These slots are limited and may require a fee.  I only have 6 slots left for a one-on-one seat.
Visit my website, www.empoweringpotential.com for additional partnership, coaching and consulting opportunities.

Denise Palmisano, CICP
Empowering and Inspiring People to Reclaim Their Potential, Authenticity and Wholeness.

Denise Palmisano
Certified Integrative Coach Professional

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