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By Brian Germain
We have two main forces that drive us in life. One is
inspiration, and the other is fear. When we move forward due to a feeling of
eagerness and fascination, we are fueled with a power that never ends. We enjoy
the process from start to finish. When we are driven by fear of the
consequences of failure, we feel an initial charge of energy that gets us
moving, but if we continue to focus on the negative possibilities, our energy
quickly wanes. This leaves us feeling overwhelmed, hopeless and unmotivated to take our work head-on. When fear is our
fuel, we always run out of gas.
the task, we must always focus on the joy of the process, rather than the fear
of failure. This is because our focus of attention is creating our mood, and it
is our mood that shapes our capabilities in that moment. Have you noticed that
your moments of greatest skill always feel joyous throughout the experience? It
is true that you may have felt fear at the onset of the task, but you then
directed your attention toward the perfect unfolding of the goal, and you
allowed yourself to enjoy the ride.
We have all been conditioned
to believe that positive emotion is a side effect of success, a benefit that we
reserve for the completion of a task. Consequently we hold off on allowing our
positive reinforcement until the task is done, thereby making the process of
achieving that goal an unpleasant one. By following this experiential path over
and over again, we establish a pattern of emotion, and the feeling of
"constructive discontent" becomes our dominant mood. We allow ourselves to feel
unhappy much of the time because we believe that the unhappiness is somehow
serving our goal of being more productive. When we are driven by fear, this is
our reality. Fortunately, there is another possibility.
If we consider that the
emotions we carry with us have profound consequences in the world around us, we
begin to see that the negative reinforcement model is not the way forward. We
must consider the possibility that happiness is not just something to reserve
for the completion of the task, but the very reason for our success in the
first place. Emotion is not merely a qualitative side effect of our experience;
it is the very basis of what is occurring: every thought and material
consequence that we have is a result of that mental climate. What we focus upon
creates how we feel, and what we feel, we create.
We must consider the possibility that
happiness is not just something to reserve for the completion of the task,
but the reason for our success in the first
Depending on your mood, you
have access to a particular realm of thought. If you feel good, your thoughts
are solution-oriented, and you remain in a stance of positive expectation. Your
world responds in kind, and you find yourself in a flow state that leads you to
success in everything that you undertake. It all feels easy. Further, your
positive emotion leads you to more experiences that lead to more positive
emotion. When you are in a lousy mood, your thoughts are problem-oriented, and
you remain in a stance of negative expectation. You are telling the story of
the problem, and the list of negative aspects of the situation leads you to feel
overwhelmed and hopeless. This is why fear is the road to nowhere. It simply
leads us back to the feeling of fear.
We must use our emotions as
our guide. If we feel lousy, we must first address our mood before trying to
change our physical reality in order to relieve our negative feeling. That is a
paradigm shift for most people. Taking action in a place of feeling bad will
only lead to feeling worse. We can only create with the soil that we are
currently standing in, and negative emotion makes terrible fertilizer. We have
to change our mood first.
Conscious mood-shifting is a
difficult task for most adults. Children naturally migrate back to a feeling of
ease and joy, but grown-ups seem to need lots of time and a long list of
reasons why they should get happy again. This is strange, since we were all
children a short time ago. Our culture has shaped us into something that does
not fit with who we really are. We are happy children, later.
If we are to become effective
people, we must learn this art of deliberately shifting our emotions from a
negative place to a positive place. This begins with a feeling of surrender. We
need to let go. We need to stop thinking whatever it was that we were thinking
that was bringing us down and enjoy the positive aspects of our present moment.
We need to stop trying when the work feels like struggle, and simply focus our
attention in a direction that makes us feel better. Only then will we be truly
Even when it feels as if your
world is falling apart, there is something in your immediate surroundings that
will make you feel good. You simply need to pay attention to it, bravely
pointing your mind away from the problem, and allowing yourself to become
fascinated with the beauty. You are surrounded by beauty and love, you were
just waiting for a sense of completion to enjoy it.
It is time to let yourself
enjoy your present moment. Make written lists of the aspects of your life that
bring you great joy, and memorize the list. Add to it daily, and you will
fortify yourself against the suffering that creeps in, again and again, as you
focus on the aspects of your reality that are not to our liking. You will
continue to walk through situations that cause negative emotion. That is the
nature of life. You do not, however, need to dwell on the negative emotion. You
need to learn from it, and you may even choose to act upon what you have
learned, but not before you have shifted your emotional tone to one of feeling
good. That is how you become a powerful person.
Only once you begin feeling
good again can you allow your mind to drift back toward the situation that
needs a shift. Now that you are being the happy version of you, your optimistic
clarity will make short work of this issue that you previously viewed as an
impasse. You have consciously chosen your mood, and are now being a very
different person from the role you play then you are unhappy. You are being
your true self, rather than shadow-version of your persona that is focused on
the negative emotion, and the stories that reinforce that realm of possible
reality. Due to your improved mood, you are now filled with motivation to solve
this problem, and flow with whatever comes after it. You are enjoying life, and
that is the point of all of it. We are not here to suffer, we are here to
expand and enjoy the process.
We often find ourselves
thinking that our lives are mostly out of our control, and we begin living for
a sense of relief from suffering, rather than the joyous exploration of what is
possible. This is the perspective that robs humanity of power more than any
other. When we lower our standards in this way, down from the pursuit of the
only true currency of the soul, pure joy, we find ourselves without authentic
motivation. We reach for distractions that hold our attention away from the
chores that lie ahead, chores that yield only a brief sense of relief when they
are completed. This is not how we are meant to live.
We are joy-seekers. We
feel most natural when we are loving what we are doing, and celebrating the mundane
in all its glory. Chop wood, carry water.
Whatever you do, do it with your whole heart. If you
see no way to enjoy the task, there are only two possibilities. Either you need
to move on to something else that is more inspiring, or you need to shift your
mood. Either way, you must find a way to feel good, because like attracts like.
If you want a happy life, you cannot get there from being a miserable person,
incessantly complaining about your problems. Look beyond your present perspective,
and find a way to be the happy version of you starting right now. This will
inevitably lead to your highest levels of motivation and productivity, as well
as making the journey deeply gratifying and fun. Enjoying the ride truly does
make everything flow better. Best of all, you get to be the real you.
Peace, Joy and Love,
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About Transcending Fear
Transcending Fear is an educational organization devoted to teaching
the truth about fear, and the most potent methods for coping with acute
stress and negative thought-patterns. We offer books, articles, radio
and TV interviews, videos and inspirational talks all with the goal of
helping people turn their fear into power. In the context of economic
crisis, war and climate change, fear management is the most important
topic of our time.
In his worldwide speaking
tour, Fear Specialist and Keynote Speaker Brian Germain skillfully
relates the topic of transcending fear to every aspect of life, from
business success to holistic health and wellness, making his inspiring
and motivational presentation a perfect fit for nearly any event. From
large corporate conferences to small company lunches, from radio and TV
interviews to his inspiring videos, Brian's charismatic and
entertaining discussion of this profound and meaningful topic
consistently upholds our organization's mission statement:
help humanity extricate ourselves from the fear-based mentality to one
of compassionate motivation, open-minded wisdom and interpersonal
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