The
defense-mechanism of fighting is generally the last resort for animals
in nature, yet human beings have developed a habit of using anger to
solve our problems as our first line of defense. Unfortunately it
rarely works, if ever. When we struggle against things, even things
that need to be changed, our anger always works against us. When we
fight against the way things are, we create an air of negativity that
steers us away from where we want to go, which is ultimately to a state
of peace and harmony. Further, we create resistance in the people
around us that was not there before, which makes it harder to make our
point or change unwanted aspects of our reality.
Moreover, anger, when we linger in it for long periods of time, creates
profound negative results in both the body and the mind. We all know
this. While robbing us of health, vitality and longevity, the emotion
simply makes us feel terrible. Despite the goal of feeling more
powerful, angry people tend to feel exactly the opposite of this on the
inside; they feel powerless. Why else would they be angry? True power
is in the ability to create change, an ability that is best exercised
through the use of gentler, more harmonious methods; what might be
called "skillful means". This is "The Way" that the Taoist sages
referred to in the ancient texts such as the Lao Tzu and Tao Te Ching.
It is the easy way that feels good as it achieves feats of change that
the struggling could never hope to attain. It is the river that chisels
away the mountain effortlessly over time, until nothing remains.
It is true that experiencing anger can be healthy when it is
appropriate. When we feel depressed, anger can be the spring-board off
of which we launch ourselves into a reality that is more to our liking.
We must not linger in this place for long, however, as it is not our
basic nature. We are acting in a manner that does not utilize the power
of positive emotion, which is our greatest resource. Happiness is not
just the goal, it is the means by which we attain everything we desire. -Brian Germain, Oct 2009
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