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Brian Germain's most recent book:
Transcending Fear is available at most major bookstores, and directly through:
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Greetings!
Brian Germain is an author and teacher, focusing his efforts on the topic of High Intensity Emotional Intelliegence. His speaks in a variety of venues worldwide, helping to educate the public on the effects of fear and the most useful tools for transcending it and turning it into power.
To book Brian for a personal appearance, email your inquiry to the following address: bookbrian@transcendingfear.com
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Emotion is Your Co-Pilot
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By Brian Germain
I am an adventure sports addict.
I admit it. I deliberately do things that put me in danger. I have discovered
that I truly like the person I become when I am in such circumstances. I am
forced to be a hero. If I do not act without fear, I will die.
I have realized
that fear looks over our shoulders closer than ever when we are in jeopardy.
Like a horse feels the trepidation of a nervous rider and becomes unruly, life
seems to carry out the feeling that we are fixating upon and shows us what is
in our minds with an ever-increasing magnitude. It reflects our angst.
Consequently, when we act in a state of fear, things tend to go badly.
It would appear
that the emotional aspect of our experience is not the insignificant force that
we once thought it to be. This evidence would suggest that our ability to control
our emotions is the most pivotal factor in our lives. One might therefore
conclude that the best approach is to let go of all of our negative thoughts,
whatever they are, and focus our minds on constructing our world the way we
want it by focusing on where we want to go. This is only partly true in my
experience.
Although we must
get onto the job of doing what we want to do by directing our minds in a
positive direction, negative emotion has a wisdom all its own. Think of the
word negative. It means to repulse. If we do not figure out what the emotion
was trying to get us to repel or avoid, we have lost the essential message that
our bodies went to all that trouble to get us excited about.
When you begin
to feel something other than happiness, there is something that you need to do.
Something in your reality is askew in some way. Something is threatening your
well-being, and your inner self is letting you know in the only way it can. It
speaks in the language of the body. You will feel physically unpleasant. You
will feel unhappy. You will loose your sense of humor and your ability to be
creative.
When this
happens, we tend to take one of two actions. Either we avoid the emotion and
all of the thoughts associated with it and focus on something positive, or we
allow ourselves to dwell on the negativity and we continue to feel bad. From
this place we cannot create the change that is necessary to get us back to the state
of happiness.
There is another
possibility that we do not often consider. We can ask the most important
question of all: "What is the emotion trying to tell me?" In other words: "What
is the meaning of the feeling?" When we discover this hidden truth, we can do
something about it. We can get on with our lives by taking deliberate action to
make things better, one situation at a time.
If you are
feeling fear and hesitation, perhaps the emotion is trying to tell you that you
are going someplace you have not been before, and you do not know if your
skills are up to it. If this is so, you need to abort the flight or reduce your
level of perceived danger. This is often the case, but the way you are feeling
may just be a neurotic impulse to contract from novelty and the increased risk
of failure. You may be allowing your habit of doubt effect your rate of expansion.
If this is the case, you need to remember how to have a good time and lighten
up. You must then envision the best-case scenario and work toward making it
happen.
When we listen
to the emotional co-pilot in our heads, we receive information that our logic
alone cannot offer it us. Rational thought is only trustworthy up to a point. Like
science, logical processes help us to realize that which can be measured with
the instruments we have, via the hard evidence that can be gleaned from such
inquiry. This is only part of the puzzle, of course, as there is always more
than we can see at first glance.
This is where
the emotion enters the equation. The seemingly unstructured, unscientific ways
of the subjective feeling part of our experience comes to its conclusions by
way of completely different processes, and can often take into account things
that the linear ruler of logic can never illuminate. It reminds us of things
that we forgot, and helps us to realize our actual ability. All too often it is
our perceived ability, skewed from truth by our egos, to which we compare our
current situation.
Pilots often
speak of the "Gut Check" as part of their aircraft preflight process. If you do
not feel good about the flight, you need to stop and assess why this is so.
There is often a psychological momentum driving us forward toward a premature
take-off, but if we take the time to slow down when we do not feel good, we may
discover that there was some very good reason not to proceed; at least not with things in their current status.
Sometimes this
just means that we need to take a moment and mentally prepare for the flight.
Sometimes it means that we forgot to put fuel in the airplane. Either way, we
must use the emotional information to guide us to what we need to hear at every
juncture.
The way that
things unfold when you go into danger, or anything else in life for that
matter, is all about preparation and considering all of the possibilities One
perspective is never enough. Our first consideration, the initial envisioning
of action, is only the first step. If we are to survive and thrive in all that
is before us, we must examine the meaning of our emotions before we move forward,
and again and again as life continues. The process of consulting the co-pilot
never stops.
Emotion is a
second opinion from a part of the brain that works very differently than our
cold, logic thinking. Nevertheless, it has invaluable intelligence about the
truth of any situation that we might find ourselves in. Without it we are lost
in the darkness of our current mindset, limited to the possibilities that have
occurred to us thus far by our logical thought processes. In between our
thoughts is the truth of what we truly think, and what we want to experience.
When we listen to our feelings, a greater reality comes to light and we realize
our own inner wisdom. We become a balanced individual that has incorporated all
that we are into who we are being. Any that, my friends, is where the fun
really starts.
-BSG
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Stage Fright in the Face of Your Dreams
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The trouble with big ideas is that we often get performance anxiety when we realize the implications and responsibilities associated with
its unfolding. We already have quite a few balls in the air, and we must keep
the other aspects of our lives intact and in balance. Nevertheless, if we are
to continue evolving ourselves by being who we most want to be, we must carry
out our inspiration with exquisite attention to detail.
If you love your life, whatever it is right now,
finding appreciation with things exactly as they are, you will continue the
process of continued growth, prosperity and happiness. You cannot get where you want to go by feeling bad, period. If you live your life as if all is well and filled with abundance, you will find that the
ultimate nature of the Universe is supportive if you allow it to be so because the larger
part of you is behind your actions. If you believe in what you are doing so
much that you honestly believe that the Universe at Large is behind you because
you are doing the right thing, you have tapped into the highest power of all.
The previous text is an exerpt from Brian Germain's upcoming book: Greenlight Your Life.
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Thank you for taking the time to consider these thoughts, and launch the possibility that fear can take a lesser role in your life. This is how we are going to tranform the world from a state of contraction to one of total expansion of compasion and unbridled love of life.
Peace be with you,
Brian Germain
Transcending Fear |
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