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Should an Alzheimer's Caregiver
be Truthful or Kind?
Alzheimer's Reading Room By Bob DeMarco
Today I bent the truth to be kind, and I have no regret, for I am far surer of what is kind than I am of what is true.
-- Robert Brault
Recently, I had an interesting and wonderful conversation with Susan Frederickson, the Caregiver Program Specialist, for the Area Agency on Aging of the Permian Basin (Midland, Texas).
Susan is full of knowledge and has a deep understanding of Alzheimer's caregiver life.
We talked about a long list of issues that Alzheimer's caregivers deal with each day, and today I decided to write about "Lies.
About how difficult it can be when a person living with Alzheimer's asks a question that if answered "truthfully" is likely to cause sadness, confusion, or might be met with challenging behavior.
Is it more important to be truthful and cruel; or more important, to be kind?
It is easy for me to understand why an Alzheimer's caregiver feels the need to tell the truth to someone living with Alzheimer's even if the truth can be hurtful.
After all who wants to be known as a liar? Persons who lie after often considered to be deceitful, untrustworthy, and are usually "looked down upon".
Most people pride themselves on being honest, and for being known to be honest.
To tell the truth or lie for the sake of the person living with dementia, this is a dilemma for many caregivers.
How do you respond to mom when she is constantly asking for dad, a husband who has been dead for many years.
Do you redirect the conversation? Or, do you give an honest, truthful answer?
Mom, dad is dead.
Let's start the conversation of this issue by addressing a simple, straightforward issue. Is Alzheimer's care giving about you, the caregiver?
Or, is it about the person living with Alzheimer's? Whose feelings are more important?
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"Of all the things you wear, your expression
is the most important."
25 Ways to Relieve Stress
Happy Heart Month!
In celebration of Heart month, we are recognizing that although we all realize that eating well, exercising, and getting down fish oil tablets may help us avoid serious cardiac disease. We also realize that stress is a permanent part of our lives, and we need to handle it. So we stress (yes, that's right) about running to yoga class or doing our deep breathing exercises. To reduce our stress.....
Here we present a few simple everyday stress relievers that can be done anywhere anytime:
Get up 15 minutes earlier * Prepare for the morning the night before * Avoid tight fitting clothes * Don't rely on memory, write it all down * Practice preventive maintenance * Make duplicate keys * Pet a friendly cat/dog * Unclutter your life * Tickle a baby * Don't know all the answers * Say something nice to someone * Schedule play time every day * Take a bubble bath * Stop thinking tomorrow will be a better day * Stop saying negative things to yourself * Stop a bad habit * Strive for excellence not perfection * Ask someone to be your "vent partner" * walk in the rain * Do it today * Stretch your limits a little each day * Always have a Plan B * Talk less, listen more * Get enough sleep * Quit trying to "fix" other people * Read a story curled up in bed * Don't know all the answers * Practice grace under pressure * Clean out a closet * Stand up and stretch * Say hello to a stranger * Remember you always have options * Have a support network: people/places/friends * Look up at the stars * Always make copies of important papers * Use time wisely * SMILE * Be responsible for your own feelings * Recognize the importance of unconditional love * Memorize a joke * Be aware of the decisions you make * Watch a movie and eat popcorn * Keep a journal * Ask a friend for a hug * Simplify meal times * Learn to meet your own needs * Put air freshener in your car * Freely praise other people * Relax , you have the rest of your life to live.
It must be borne in mind that the tragedy of life does not lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy of life lies in having no goal to reach.
Touch a Senior...NOW! Quick!
Before it's too late
Importance of Touch
One of the basic needs of all human beings is the need for nurturing caring touch. Yet, due to common social attitudes, many elderly people do not receive touch on a regular basis. This is unfortunate, since this has been shown to make a significant difference in the way elderly perceive care.
Why is it that too often the very people who most deserve and would benefit from a simple gesture are the least likely to receive it?
Touching declines with age
On a daily basis most people are lucky enough to touch another human being.... a family member, a partner, a colleague.
However, as people age, touch may become even more important. Vision, hearing, and even the sense of taste may decline, but touch will remain. Cognitive abilities may become impaired due to dementia or the ability to use language may decrease, but we will automatically react to pain, to texture, and to gentle, meaningful forms of touch.
Ironically, however, just at the time when being touched is becoming more important,many elderly people experience less touching from another human being. They may no longer have a partner, so do they not experience sexual touch or someone holding a hand or providing a warm hug or an arm across a shoulder. They are no longer holding children and grandchildren are grown. Old friends may be gone as well or they may be less mobile so they don't have the hug of hello, the kiss of goodbye. When elderly folks are in a nursing home, the only reassuring warmth they may receive is from a bath once a week.
Touch in the caring profession
This lack of caring touch administered to the elderly by health care workers is particularly distressing, for while human beings have need of touch and nurturing throughout the life span, this need actually increases withaging. The elderly often have no one else to fill this need, especially those whose children are far away or whose partner has died.
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Character is like a tree and reputation like its shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing
~ Abraham Lincoln
KUDOS from Kelly
By Kelly McNamara
Irene is a new employee, and we found the perfect position for her right away! Sometimes things just fall into place perfectly for both the client and the caregiver. Irene is now full time, 5 days a week with MT, This consistent care has been wonderful for MT. Irene is now comfortable enough with her care that they take field trips on a regular basis to visit MTs friends and family members and occasional trips to the library since MT (at 98) has become an avid reader. Thanks Irene, we are very glad you are on our team and we hope you stay for a long long time!
Berlinda has been the caregiver for LR for over a year. In that time LR has been stable and has managed to avoid ER visits or hospitalizations. But recently she needed a short inpatient stay. She was able to return to her home directly without rehab due to Berlinda's attentive care, careful use of her meds and treatments team and supervising her gradual return to her regular activities. Berlida and LR's goal as well as that of her doctors is to keep her out of the hospital with her great care. LRs doctor was very impressed with Berlinda's knowledge of LR's condition, treatment and progress, and enjoys having her on the care team. Thanks Berlinda for gong above and beyond!
Katherine (Kat) Cipriano.
Luckily for us, Kat, a straight A pre vetinary student in college in Massachussets, was home for the winter holidays. We were in serious need of a driver, errand runner and general third pair of hands on deck. Kat worked all hours of the day and night to get our caregivers to their assignments, pick up supplies and insure that no clients or caregivers missed a beat. We are glad she is back in school but are very grateful for her young and energetic help when we needed it the most! Thanks for everything Kat!!
All Kudos caregivers will receive a gift card and our gratitude. Many many thanks to all of you for once again extending yourselves to ensure that we are of course.... Always There..!!
What could be more beautiful than
a dear old lady growing wise with age?
Every age can be enchanting,
provided you live within it.
~ Brigitte Bardot
Providers We Love
We are privileged to have received referrals from and be able to coordinate care with many Assisted Living facilities, rehab facilities, and Medicare Home Care and Hospice agencies. Our growth is in large part due to the trust the staff in these organizations have put in our caregivers. We are likewise impressed with them and we are committed to referring to them on a regular basis.
Arbor Rose, Assisted Living, New Britain
Long a favorite facility of ours, Arbor Rose boasts a wonderful and caring group of staff, activity folks who keep life interesting for residents and a very welcoming environment for our pet therapy program. Our caregivers who are providing service for some residents at Arbor Rose have determined that Arbor Rose serves the best food and has the friendliest and most attentive dining staff of any facility in which they've worked. High praise indeed! Arbor Rose is the perfect environment for those who want to age in place gracefully and well cared for. Thanks to our colleagues at Arbor Rose for their continued support and trust in our caregivers. It is always a pleasure to work with all of you!
Vitas Hospice, Waterbury, Fairfield, Hartford
We are always proud to refer our clients to Vitas Hospice. Their beautiful new acute care inpatient unit at St Mary's is just another reason to refer folks there who are struggling with their family members care under hospice. Vitas has distinguished itself on its response time, its amazing and unique Veterans program and its commitment to providing continuous care (24 hour care by Vitas staff LPNs or CNAs at Medicare's expense). Continuous Care is provided by Vitas when clients are actively dying or need short-term symptom management. The vast majority of people have expressed their desire to end their lives at home in peace and comfort. Vitas excels in this area. We are proud to be a referral partner.
Seabury Active Living Retirement
One of Connecticut's first retirement communities, Seabury has grown impressively from its original facility. The sprawling campus now boasts several individual residences, from apartments to substantial single homes. Their memory care unit is superb. The surroundings provide lovely views in all seasons. An immense fitness facility, including a large pool promotes continued fitness of older adults. Seabury boasts an impressive participation of its residents in the fitness facility. Seabury also has an innovative Life Care program and Seabury at Home service. Their home care program provides both Medicare as well as home private duty services for the community and surrounding area. It is a privilege to work in co-operation with them.
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About Always There Home Care
Always There Home Care provides compassionate, dependable and professional one-on-one care for seniors who need assistance in the comfort of their homes or residential care communities. Services from highly qualified and trained caregivers range from companionship, meal preparation and incidental transportation to personal care, medication management and RN-directed case management. Available 7 days a week, services range from a few hours a day to 24-hour care.
Always There Home Care understands that every situation is unique and creates individualized care plans to help improve a client's quality of life.
Our caregivers are totally committed, highly qualified and carefully
selected individuals who are personally and thoroughly screened, bonded and
insured. Most are Certified Nurse Assistants or Home Health Aides. Most
importantly our caregivers are dependable and extraordinarily caring of others.
In addition to their previous experience, our caregivers receive continuous training
that includes dementia, hospice care, home safety, nutrition and other topics related
to seniors. These highly qualified and trained caregivers are ready to help you and
your loved ones with a variety of daily activities such as:
Personal care / Meal planning and preparation
Transportation to doctor appointments and other errands
Caring companionship / Light housekeeping
Medication reminders / Information and referral services
Our personalized, nurse- supervised services are available 7 days a week and can range from a few hours a day to 24 hour and live in care.
For more information or service needs, call 24 hours a day at: 203-879-6675
or visit www.AlwaysThereHomeCare-CT.com
We are Always There!