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So often when someone gets sick, is hospitalized or has a death in the family, people's first instinct is to provide meals. Meals are so necessary and helpful when individuals and families are going through a crisis or challenge. However, too much food is not a good thing, and meals at times when the family cannot eat them are not helpful. Uneaten food causes people to feel guilty and leaves them unsure of how to say 'thank you.' One element of a WhatFriendsDo.com Team is the Help Schedule. Using the Help Schedule allows a close friend or family member to designate which days/meals the family needs food. It also allows for communication of any special dietary restrictions or dislikes. By using the WhatFriendsDo Help Schedule, friends can sign up to take a meal on a day that suits their schedule, and time consuming phone calls do not need to be made to get everything organized. The Help Schedule also allows for abiding by the Lasagna Law; the schedule shows what foods people are bringing, so duplications are minimized. Sometimes it is nice to suggest a theme for meals. May is National Salad Month; maybe you'd like to suggest a salad theme this month!
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It was a perfectly normal go to work Friday morning. Complete with lipstick, lunch was a date with my husband of thirty years, a romantic picnic and a walk along the Indianapolis canal. When we kissed goodbye I said, "When I get home tonight I'll be on vacation and we'll have a whole week together." As I neared our court that evening, I could see fire trucks, an ambulance, neighbors outside - in front of our house. A sudden heart attack, and my loving husband David had moved on to the next life in which he so ardently believed. The neighbors were kind and available and helped take care of my mother who lived with us; I called family and friends. There were moments of clarity and spans of time that are gray. I was fortunate to have relatives in town, but they too were devastated by our loss. That week-end there began a stream of people with plastic wrapped bowls, pastries, bottled water, coolers for what wouldn't fit into the refrigerator, casseroles, breads. I only remember watching. I knew them - some well, others by sight and name. We belonged to the same church choir and spent time together twice a week, but few had ever been in our home, our kitchen. They explained this was for me and the surge of people who would be coming to the house as funeral arrangements were made. Afterwards we were to leave a cooler outside the garage and there would be food left there on certain days. It was indescribable how it felt to open the lid and see what someone had left. These were beautiful meals and lovingly prepared, some still warm, and each day was different. I had little appetite, but the aromas were tempting and the accompanying cards and notes warmed my heart. During this time I found out there was a web site being used to coordinate this effort - my introduction to WhatFriendsDo. I saw my name, my team, my friends. Our choir had always seemed like a family, engaged in the same music ministry, the strong belief that this was our calling from God and our contribution. The strength and support of these friends made walking that difficult path a little easier. A few months later, I heard of a choir member who was having a crisis in her family and I volunteered to supply a meal. She called to thank me and said, "Of all people, how were you able to do this?" Of all people, I truly understood what it means to receive kindness and love when you most need it.
Cathie McGlynn |
Special Days |
The WhatFriendsDo.com concept of "celebrating" special days all year long allows friends from all circles of life to participate in the caring and nurturing of a friend as well as the other family members and caregiver(s). Friends can easily stay in touch from near and far, during happy times and difficult times.
May 7 - Everyone Wants to be Useful Day
May 10 - Be Edgy Day
May 13 - Plan a Date Day
May 17 - Pack Rat Day May 24 - Fill Up Day |
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We might not be able to change the outcome of your situation, but we hope to help change the journey!
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