Jane had a very difficult time dealing with anyone directly.  At first, she did not take phone calls, and she really did not go out.  We used the website to convey her very grim prognosis, to give daily updates, and to communicate with people she just didn't have the emotional or physical energy to deal with.  We were able to keep people abreast of her daily accomplishments, like doing laundry, and going to her children's games.  She was able to thank people for what they did (including all of the food - she said she would be the only cancer patient who gained weight before dying).  Most importantly, I think, her distant relatives and friends were able to feel like they were with her on a daily or weekly basis.  For us, coordination of care was not really an option; from her diagnosis with malignant melanoma until the day she died was 9 weeks.  There just wasn't time to worry about the details.  And there was not a whole lot to be done until after she was gone.  God Bless her sister Zoe, and hospice, we were able to meet every need she had to the best of our ability.  She knew, and was humbled by, the outpouring of love that she received through the website.  It was the best that we could offer her.  Thank you to the 'What Friends Do' website for allowing this fine woman to know the impact that she had on all of our lives.  I love her, and miss her.  One more thing Jane would want me to tell you...wear your sunscreen.