Going on a journey? Don't go alone, take a buddy.... a grumble buddy.
For most of us, when we decided to become debt free, we embarked on a journey. For some of us it will be a long journey. We may meander around a bit, wandering through dark, forboding forests or harsh deserts. Maybe your journey is the business you just started. Either way, it can get tiresome and lonely, so don't go alone, take a grumble buddy.
What's a grumble buddy? Author Romanus Wolter says a grumble buddy is someone you trust, who will agree to listen to you when you need to air your frustrations.
Romanus suggests one major rule when it comes to selecting a grumble buddy.
Avoid selecting family or close friends as your grumble buddy. Why? Because your family or very close friends care about you and don't want to see you hurt or upset.
If you're trying to accomplish any worthwhile goal, you're bound to run into snags that get you upset or frustrated. Your family or close friends, while meaning well, may give you advice to make you feel better, instead of helping you solve the problem.
For instance, you're trying to become debt free and the new clodhopper 2000 comes out. The 2000 is the one you've been waiting for, and there it is... all shiny on the showroom floor. It's got a certificate of authenticity and comes with a velvet portrait of Elvis. You have to have it!
You call your best friend Bert, your grumble buddy and explain your dilemma. Burt can't stand to see you in obvious anguish, so he suggests you buy the Clodhopper first and then start on your debt-kicking trip.
Houston, we have a problem.
Burt did not help you, he made the problem worse by trying to make you feel better.
The grumble buddy has but one job. To listen and then respond with "That's nice, what are you going to do about it?"
So our previous scenario would have gone like this..
You : "Burt... my Clodhopper 1500 is broken...and the new model just went on sale, I want to be debt free...but I just saw the 2000 in the window...I don't think I can resist!"
Burt: "That's nice, so what are you going to do about it?"
You: "Well... I don't know.. they're offering 150 years same as cash .... But I don't want to be in debt anymore!"
Burt: "What's wrong with your 1500, I thought I saw you using it yesterday?"
You: "Well...yeah..technically it works...but the multi-colored Clodhopper sticker fell off!"
Burt: "Look, do ya wanna be debt free or don't ya?"
You: "Yes! Absolutely!"
Burt: "Then go glue the multi-colored sticker back on and hop some clods with the 1500!"
You: Thanks Burt! You're the best grumble buddy ever!"
"You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose."
- Dr. Suess