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August 16, 2010
Questions for Aging Parents
A recent Real Simple magazine article examines how adult children and their parents can have an open discussion about their concerns, and together face the challenges of aging. This discussion is often not an easy one to have; a 2001 AARP study revealed that three-quarters of adult children think about their parents' ability to live independently, but one-third of the children surveyed have avoided discussing the topic with their parents. The results for parents are similar; a little over two-thirds said they think about their ability to live independently, but more than one-third said they do not discuss the subject with their children. The article provided several conversation-starting questions that adult children can ask their parents.
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Do you have enough health insurance?
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Do you think your physician is well-informed about the issues common to older patients?
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Can we help you make your home more comfortable?
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Are you feeling secure about driving?
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Do you have an estate plan in place?
If possible, parents and children should discuss these issues face-to-face. The atmosphere should be one of comfort and collaboration, not confrontation. Children should emphasize that their top priority is ensuring that their parents' wishes are honored and carried out. There is no need for children to parent their parents; rather they should become partners in helping their parents manage their lives. If possible, all family members should be on board; sometimes it may be necessary to involve a third-party facilitator, such as a therapist, trusted family lawyer, or a financial planner who is already working with the parents or children. Above all, be patient; most issues may not be resolved with the first conversation. The key is to start the ongoing dialogue.
At TEAM RUSSO, we are available to help with elder law, special needs and estate planning. Call us at 800-680-1717 or visit us online today!
Vincent J. Russo & Associates, P.C.
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The Theresa Academy of Performing Arts for Children with Special Needs presents:
Summer Camp II
August 16th-27th
Featuring Master Teacher and Guest Artist: Sidiki Condi
To reserve a place for your camper, please call (516) 432-0200 or log on to www.TheresaFoundation.org
Hardship waivers and scholarships available.
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