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February 2009
Horizon Family Solutions
Building upon 17 years of success in assisting families

"Whatever someone did to you in the past has no power over the present."
Greetings!

AKKK .... Bang ..... Crash ...... Oh darn it ....... grrrrrrrr !!!

That was a little bit of what came out of my mouth on January 5th when my website went down, zeroed out, off the map, and completely disappeared.

As you can all see now, a new website up - www.HorizonFamilySolutions.com.

I apologize for some of the links not working on last months newsletter due to the site being unavailable.

Please keep in mind that this is not 100% complete and I will be constantly upgrading the site. Not everything that was there before, such as articles will be on this site.

I am also just completed a brand new website -  www.TroubledTeenHelp.com.

We have advertisers up and running, current employment opportunities, articles, breaking news and of course educational consulting services as well as a place for non IECA members to advertise.  We have also included visit reports,  book reviews and recommendations, press releases,  and more. This site is growing each and every day. I do want to thank Carl and Laurie Berg of The Graphics Ranch for coming to my rescue when my site went down and for assisting me with the new site. Also, Laurie is working on the cover for my book, One Size Does Not Fit All. If anyone has any kids shoes that they would like seen on the book cover, give Laurie a call at (360) 830-4216 PST. Just tell her I sent you her way.  If you have suggestions on how to make either site better, let me know. 

I obviously can't add every single suggestion, however I will do what I can. Ultimately, these sites are for parents and professionals and I want to make it a special place where you can go.

Sincerely,
 
Dore E. Frances, M.A.
Educational Consultant
Horizon Family Solutions, LLC
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Will Tough Times Get Tougher?

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Will tough times get tougher?

Residential treatment centers and wilderness programs are considering the merits of growth strategies in today's economy.

No answers, new questions.

That has seemed to be the prevailing theme in the last eight months for anyone who runs a residential treatment center or wilderness program.

The national economic crisis has reintroduced memories of past recessions and of the residential  treatment whirlwind arrival more than four decades ago. 

Without the benefit of hindsight on the present situation, few are willing to predict how damaging this period will prove to be to the treatment community and the people it serves. Yet while discussion of tightened capital markets, slumping reimbursements, and shaky staff morale prevail throughout the field as we start a new year, in many organizations there also is discussion of long-term strategic planning that might leave many programs in a better place financially and psychologically.  You need to be mission and market focused in your analysis. You need to go through a deliberate process to identify what your strategy needs to be to deal with uncertain times.

Most leaders and observers that I have spoken with in the treatment industry believe that organizations in uncertain financial times tend to look first at curbing expansion plans. Credit is tight for everyone and because of this organizations are experiencing the pinch and families are not able to access the disposable income they once could. Student census in many programs has declined. 

Families concerned about the economy may see less of an "investment value" in treatment right now, and also worry that their loved-one (child, adolescent, young adult) needs more after treatment and are looking at long range plans.

Most residential treatment centers and wilderness programs are not covered by insurance. When programs decide to extend credit as they have during other slowdown periods, that can create some long-term problems for operations.

Ultimately, these day-to-day problems will at the very least complicate decisions on longer-range goals and new initiatives.

Ironically, this might still be the ideal time to proceed with certain expansions, since constructions costs are relatively reasonable right now. The current market conditions are not permanent, and most expansion projects are long-term.

We do have to cope with these short-term conditions with prudence, as those of us who are passionate about assisting families know that our long-term outlook is to grow services, and expand offerings to meet the needs of children of the 21st century. With the credit market looking more restrictive, more of us in this industry might see partnerships with other entities as a conduit to expand offerings and to access top talent. I know some organizations are seriously considering formal affiliations. It is my hope that these organizations make sure they are a match in philosophy, both business and treatment-wise. The lines can get blurred. There is not any one company in this industry that is not impacted by the economy.

Treatment is a crisis-driven business. Addiction treatment centers for the most part are doing outstanding. And those programs that are passionate about assisting families and their children are staying true to their clinical care mission. We all at the end of the day have to be consistent with our belief of how treatment needs to be done.

Essentially, that means professional educational consultants, residential treatment centers and wilderness programs that truly put the best interest of the child first will still tend to offer services first and figure out how to make the dollars work later.

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Special Education Series - Part Two - The Basics

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The United States government has stated that each child is to receive a "Free and Appropriate Public Education" (FAPE) that meets their unique needs.

School districts are responsible for identifying children that may be in need of special help ("Child Find"), determining what help they need (assessments), and then to prepare with the parent an "Individual Education Plan" (IEP) that will provide what the child needs.

There are many laws in place to serve children who qualify for special education.

These laws require school districts to "search and serve" their students by identifying children who need special help and to provide this help at no cost to the parents.

The school districts are mandated to provide a Free and Appropriate Public Education (F.A.P.E.) to each student. Unfortunately, these laws are not always adequately implemented.  Education advocates can intercede on the student and parent's behalf with school districts, county mental health agencies, regional centers, CCS, and State Department of Education to insure that each child receives all the benefits and Special Education services they are entitled to.

The Federal and State Educational Laws mandate that every child is entitled to a free and appropriate public education (F.A.P.E.) in the least restrictive environment and among a body of his or her peers.

The advocate guides the parents through the maze of bureaucratic red tape while providing parents with expert help in determining the special help their child should receive to achieve all that they can in school based on their unique needs. Even though required to do so under the law, school districts and other responsible agencies often do not identify and evaluate the children that are in need of help.

Districts also fail to present parents with a comprehensive list of available services. I believe that every child has his or her own unique behaviors and style of learning. What a teacher or administrator may deem as lazy, unmotivated, disruptive, or socially maladjusted behavior could actually be an indication that special education is needed. Often behavioral problems and lack of motivation are due to the fact that the child's unique needs are not being addressed. Frequently, drug use is an attempt to self medicate underlying psychological problems and not a sign of maladjustment. When your child is experiencing any of the following educational warning signs, then you need to consider having a consultation with an advocate to explore your options:
  • Change in Mood/Interests
  • ADD/ADHD/Hyperactive
  • Concentration Difficulties
  • Behavior Problems
  • Disruptive in Classroom
  • Drug/Alcohol Issues
  • Failing Grades
  • Legal Issues
  • Referrals for Testing
  • School Suspension
  • Truancies/Illnesses
  • Uncontrollable Impulses
Education Advocates make sure your child is tested and then given an educational service plan meeting their unique needs. Here are examples of what your child's school could be providing:

  • Counseling
  • Home Schooling
  • Residential Treatment
  • Speech Therapy
  • Special Classes
  • Testing
  • Transportation
  • Tutoring
  • Vocational Education
Education Advocates can advocate for your child within the complicated education bureaucracy. Your child can be enabled to learn their way with the support and guidance of school district's trained professionals. Education Advocates offer the support and guidance of a professional education advocate trained to see the potential of every unique child. The many services they offer include:

  • Educational Advocacy
  • Attorney Referrals
  • Education Code Interpretation
  • Assessment Review
  • Due Process Filing
  • IEP Team Assistance
  • Mediation Services
  • Motivating School to Test Child
  • Recommendations for Service Plan
  • Review of Test Results
  • School District Compliance Assistance
  • Special Education Assessment Services
  • Tutoring Referrals
The special education opportunities available to qualifying children are numerous. The key is to find out how to access these services.

Resources to find an Education Advocate:

Council of Parent Attorneys and Advocates

Family Matters Group

Wrights Law
 
Next Month - The IEP
The Overlooked Population ~ Adolescent Sexual Addiction
Part One on the Series

0209 Computer Music PornOne by one, well known individuals are putting a face on the problem of sexual addiction. 

Beginning with multiple politicians and religious leaders, to media personalities, the term "sex addict" conjures up a specific face for most people.

Far from new, this problem has only recently received clinical attention. Among the public faces shedding light on the condition, one group is conspicuously absent:
adolescents. In general, sexual addiction is considered only an adult problem.

According to the Internet Filter Review, approximately 40 million U.S. adults regularly visit pornographic websites, and conservatively, one in eight visitors to an adult site is age 7 to 17. 29% of these children give out their home addresses. 14% give out their personal and private email addresses.

The average age of first Internet exposure to pornography is age 11.

15-17 year olds have the highest rate of multiple hard-core exposures. 90% of 8-16 year olds having viewed porn online while doing homework. This is both boys and girls. Despite the lack of an official DSM diagnosis category, addiction professionals generally agree on the definition of sexual addiction. Simply stated, sexual addiction is the lack of control of some sexual behavior or relationship. Perhaps the most helpful definition of sex addiction is a practical one: sexual behavior that creates distress and has a negative effect on one's life. Like with alcohol and drugs, sex addiction fits the classic four component model of what comprises an addiction:

  • Compulsivity means the loss of control over a behavior.
  • Continuation despite negative consequences.
  • Preoccupation or obsession.
  • Tolerance shows more of the same behavior or an escalation of progressive behaviors is required to get the same "high".
An addict continues the behavior despite repeated attempts to stop.

Enormous shame  and public ridicule still surrounds sex addiction in general, and an even greater stigma is applied to adolescent addicts. Despite the jokes and leers, and the cultural double standard regarding sexual behavior - boys will be boys, girls are just more promiscuous - enormous shame surrounds families that have a a child with a sex addiction. One reason that children are often overlooked on a discussion about sexual addiction is because children themselves fail to tell anyone about their struggles.

Fear of being alone in their behavior keeps children silent about the disease. It is not until they are in recovery that they start to open up about their history. One young man who was in therapeutic treatment said, "For years I thought I was the only boy I knew who struggled like this. I can't believe I am in a room with a dozen other boys who admit to doing the same things I have done.  For the first time in my life I don't feel all alone." ~ John, Ohio, age 16. Slowly, recovering adolescents tell their stories, which offers hope for others.

As more clinicians become aware of adolescent's experiences with sexual addiction, and as other adolescents hear stories of others their same age tell their stories, hopefully more children will get help before they become adults.

Sexual behavior treatment for youth is available.

Next month: Adolescents have different  kinds of addictive behavior.


Family Emotional Connectedness
Academically successful children tend to come from families that are clearly organized, and in which role relationships of family members are appropriate and well defined.

0209 Family emotional sharingThe families of academically successful students view their family as a source of mutual emotional support and connectedness.

Family members value spending time with each other both to celebrate good times and to provide emotional support, approval, and reassurance in bad times, and they engage in emotional, open sharing, clear communication, and collaborative problem-solving. As a result, children in these families are taught how to express themselves emotionally, how to calm themselves emotionally, how to calm themselves when stressed, how to resolve conflicts and engage in collaborative problem-solving, and how to take responsibility for their own behaviors and feelings rather than blame others when experiencing personally demanding situations.


Emotional warmth and belonging

Families of successful students demonstrate high levels of affection, emotional support and warmth for one another.

These families sustain emotional connections with each other through promotion of shared family celebrations, family rituals, spiritual connections, and traditions. Simple family rituals of cooking favorite foods, dancing, grocery shopping, serving and eating meals, singing, storytelling, watching television and joking and laughing sessions as well as family celebrations serve as vehicles for family members to share affection and "good times." These are also excellent situations in which to express to the child that they are appreciated, loved and understood; guide, reassure protect and soothe a child's feelings; verbally validate the child's importance as a person.

In addition family members of academically successful students regularly offer emotional and practical support during crisis periods and provide a reliable network of support.

The emotional climate of a home, particularly adult approval of a child and the child's independent skills, strongly contribute to the development of the child's self-esteem as well as to their achievement motivation.

To facilitate a positive outlook and provide a sense of purpose and value, family and parent coaches can reframe difficult situations as shared challenges that are adaptable, comprehensible, and  manageable.
In This Issue
Will Tough Times Get Tougher?
Special Education Series
The Overlooked Population ~ Adolescent Sexual Addiction
When Today's Conveniences Pose a Distraction During Residential Placement
The Habit of Going the Extra Mile
When Today's Conveniences Pose a Distraction During Residential Placement

At the same time that residential treatment facilities are becoming more technologically sophisticated, many directors of these programs remain hesitant to loosen rules that generally restrict student's access to technology while they are receiving services. Access to computers is often carefully granted or not allowed at all, largely over concerns that students will become distracted from their recovery work through this connection to the outside world. Access to technology is offered under controlled and rare circumstances in most residential treatment centers.

In residential treatment the facilities restrictions to certain books, computers, television and even wireless technology to a great degree comes as a shock to some students entering treatment.  For young adults it is at times used as an excuse not to enter treatment or not to stay in treatment.

The idea is to have students be free of stimuli from the outside world.  This is rarely an issue after four to ten days of a students entering their program. The conflicts and questions that might come up about access to technology as the start of treatment sometimes reflect the students lack of knowledge about what to expect in treatment and what the process is about. On the adult treatment side, there is some flexibility for clients who own a business and a work situation might necessitate occasional use of e-mail.

An impending court date might also require that a client maintain contact with someone on the outside.

In all such situations, the use of technology is still very carefully monitored.

During my recent research for the book - One Size Does Not Fit All - Who Knew! - I spoke to all different kinds of residential facilities around the country, both adolescent and young adult facilities, about their access to technology.  It really varies from one end of the spectrum to the other.

It really is agreed upon and individualized by those involved in the situation. In some facilities computer work stations are made available based on individual need.

What is important is that parties remain mindful of the importance of the person in treatment. The primary focus is on the work at hand.

The question of access to technology constitutes a reasonable discussion among treatment providers.

You need to be comfortable with your decision and have a clear explanation.
 
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The Habit of Going the Extra Mile

By Tim Law

And listen to this as well.

Welcome to another Success Learning System article regarding accelerating your learning curve! As has been discussed in earlier issues, these ideas have become critical in our fast paced world.

This month's idea will deal with the importance of the HABIT OF GOING THE EXTRA MILE and how rare it is within our nation today. Very few people do this consistently which is exactly why WE SHOULD!

Think of it this way, if we truly want to stand out and be thought of as a person who can adapt to the challenges of modern life, what better way than to develop the reputation of someone known for SPEED AND DEPENDABILITY. It truly goes against our human nature of indecision and procrastination that we all possess. How much sense does it make to be like the crowd and then wonder why opportunities in this fast paced age continually pass us by?

Back in the early 1900's, Andrew Carnegie had a young foreman by the name of Charles Schwab who was in charge of his steel mills.

One of Schwab's key traits was continually going the extra mile in everything he did for Mr. Carnegie and he was considered very valuable to the organization. Carnegie felt Schwab was so important to the Carnegie empire that he paid him an annual salary of $75,000. In addition, he was also given a yearly bonus of $1,000,000! Carnegie made sure that no one would hire Schwab away from him and both men had enormous loyalty toward each other.

This trait is just as important (or more so!) today as it was one hundred years ago.

By doing more than is expected of you, it attracts the attention of other people who can help you move ahead in your life. It also lets us stand out among other people who don't practice this habit. In this time of great change and accelerating learning curves, leveraging ourselves among other people with the habit of going the extra mile is one of the best ways to get on board with those who really understand how the world works.

They know how to use many of the "invisible forces" to work for them and going the extra mile will absolutely put you on the right side of these forces!

Published Articles

Expectations that Parallel Society: Some Tips for New Teachers published at MiamiHerald.com

Raising the Bar for our Children - published at MiamiHerald.com

The Law of Attraction - published at MiamiHerald.com

Tim Law has a business known as Success Learning Systems (www.successlearningsystems.com)
and his goal is to help others accelerate their learning curves in a variety of areas such as in career, business and entrepreneurial coaching.  He may be reached at tlaw5111@gmail.com. Please list "Dore" in the subject heading so he will recognize the email is from someone in her wonderful group!
 

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