 Dear :
Have you ever read the book , "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"? If you're a woman, you might have. If you're a man, I'll bet if you have the book you didn't buy it for yourself, and if you read the book, it was under duress. ::laughing::
Here's what I believe - and it's an opinion, so that's all it's good for - men are never going to learn to talk to women, it's our job to learn how to talk to men. Like it or not, that's what I think.
Having said that, I'm going to share in this newsletter five of ten tips about the differences in how men and women communicate. I'm also going to share how men and women can learn to understand and communicate with one another more effectively, at home AND at work.
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Warm Regards,
Sarah Zink
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We See Power Differently (surprise!)
- Men see power in tangible things.
- Women see power in time, conveniences and benefits.
What does this mean in communication?
Because women covet the intangible things, it's difficult for men to perceive their power, except in job titles.
Things to learn:
Women:Be aware that in order to be perceived as "powerful", you might want to consider taking that corner office AND asking for the benefits that are meaningful to you.
Men: Be cautious of discounting a woman's power simply because she's not in the corner office. Use a different ruler to make this evaluation.
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It's About Style, not Skills
- Men communicate to establish status.
Women communicate to establish connection.
What does this mean in communication? Men view interruptions as an attempt to dominate, women perceive interruptions as an attempt to bond with one another. Men tell stories to "one-up" one another, women tell stories to share and to find commonalities.
Things to learn:
Women: avoid interrupting men - it's perceived as usurping position - and be aware that when you let men interrupt you, it will be perceived as weakness.
Men: understand the motive behind why women interrupt, and remind them that you would like to finish your sentences in order to feel heard.
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We Handle Stress Differently
- Women share to relieve stress.
- Men grumble to relieve stress.
What does this mean in communication? Men fight or withdraw, women "tend" and talk.
Things to learn:
Women: Men hear your "sharing" as complaining and have less respect for the woman. Make sure to communicate your thoughts in terms of finding solutions, rather than in pointing out faults.
Men: When you complain when requests are made of you, women hear resentment. Be sure to share your concerns in terms of the big picture, and be focused on finding solutions.
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Five Differences in Communication
- Rapport vs. Reporting - women want to share information to build rapport, men simply want the facts.
- Suggest vs. Directing - women will give directions as suggestions, men will tell you what they think should be done.
- Contextual vs. Specific - women will share and gather information based on the "whole" experience (think: kaleidoscope) and men will gather and share information based on specifics (think: binoculars).
- Networks for Relationships vs. Networks for Connections - women want to do business with you based on what you ARE, men want to do business with you based on who you KNOW.
- Validates vs. Debates - women will work to find flaws and validate an idea, men will work to find flaws to dissemble an idea. Women take this debate process very personally, men will argue and then go to lunch.
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