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Lenten Reflectons - 2012

Reflection #1
DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES AND LENT

Greetings!


The Ohio Chardon High School killings...random killings...no sense...just plain horrible, devastating, cruel, and "long-term sad". The grief, the loss, the lives ended in a moment; Youth, a son, gone forever to shared life on earth.

My Family: 

Today is my mother's birthday...leap year.  She died at 87 years old a few years ago.  Because of her long life, she had time to raise the 6 of us with my dad; she had time to help form us and mold us and pass on courage and goodness and dedication and simplicity and faith and a beautiful look at love.  I still think of her nearly every day...oh, I think about how I might like to share some little thing with her; or I notice some mannerism in me that she passed to me...or maybe I find myself just smiling at who she was.  I was greatly blessed to have such a mother. 

 

 Andrew, my brother in town, and I will get together today and cook one of Mom's meals together, just to honor her.

Andrew and I
 
 On the Other Side of Things:  I've noticed that when we are are together as siblings, grown once-children, we often laugh at the seemingly imperfect side of my Mom as well as the good side.  There are some things that we are still trying to outgrow because of the negative effect my Mom's ways had on us.  There is, sadly, not a one of us who is perfectly perfect. In some way, even my most wonderful mother was what we call in modern terms: DYSFUNCTIONAL
In old fashion terms, she was "just Mom".
Chardon
 
When We Try To Figure Out the Madness of the Killing in Chardon, we think DYSFUNCTIONAL...BIG TIME DYSFUNCTIONAL!  His life was obviously not working right for him.  Some pain inside of him couldn't find solution.  Some evil-gone wrong type of thought would lead him to such an awful conclusion, that killing could ease his pain.  It is mind-boggling to the good side of us.  The coach who ran after him, with risk tohis very life...we cling to his heroism and just pray that that type of goodness grows in us...that we end up looking more like him than the killer.

 
Lent is the time set aside in the church to take a deeper look at the DYSFUNCTIONAL part of our lives...to go after "renewal"; to sing out "Come Emanual"...GOD BE WITH US...

 

God dwell more deeply in my soul because I see my own neediness, the hints of "bad", the reality of dysfunction. 

 

God be with us...make us new...make us whiter than snow...cleanse every trace of dysfunction from our hearts and minds and souls. 

 

Let us love, oh God, those that are ours to love with a purer love.  Teach me, O God, your ways, your ways of love.

Next week:
 
Our trip to El Salvador and it's lessons for Lent
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We don't want to "discard" the killer from Chardon in our mind, because Christ came for him as well as for us.  We need to send deep, deep, prayers his way and attempt, through the haze of our sorrow and disbelief, to wish him healing and peace of mind...to wish for him the indwelling of the Holy Spirit.  We pray for the parents and offer up today's sacrifices in remembrance of the dead.

Oh Happy Lent, even in the midst of great suffering.
 
Sincerely,
 

Sharon Morris
Neighbor to Neighbor Women