This is a simple and elegant process to address the challenge of being a note-taker and fully engaging in the group discussion. Here is how it works.  At the beginning of a meeting, inform everyone that the group will pause at the end of each agenda item or topic to collectively construct the notes.  Invite each person to jot down notes as the discussion progresses.  Ask for a volunteer at the beginning of the meeting to write what the group later "dictates" as notes.  Having a lap-top computer available to the volunteer enhances efficiency, but is not necessary. When the group comes to the end of each agenda item or topic, someone asks the following questions: "What do we want to remember about this discussion?  Would someone state what was decided?  Do we all agree with that summary?"  The volunteer scribe captures the key points of the discussion and what the group agrees to.
 
Group notes are shorter than meeting notes as there is no attempt to capture the evolving themes and nuances of the discussion.  The focus is on collectively agreeing upon the highlights.  A significant benefit of this tool is that the process ensures consensus on what was discussed as well as what was decided. This tool addresses the power of the note-taker to interpret what took place and increases group ownership in outcomes.
 
Although this technique may take more time in a meeting than traditional note taking, over time groups using this method become more focused and adept at synthesizing essential points.  Let us know how this tool works for you.

The Power of a Positive No by William Ury has our attention as an important resource. Often leaders find themselves in the position of saying "yes" more often than serves them and their organizations.  We say "yes" to preserve relationships and find that a positive "no" would be more powerful, honest, and leaderly. 

This book   by William Ury,  world renowned negotiator, mediator, and best-selling author as well as co-founder of the Program on Negotiation and director of the Global Negotiation Program, has specific strategies for saving the deal, preserving the relationship, and still say "no".

There are three steps to a positive "No".
1. Uncover your deeper "Yes".  This yes expresses a core interest, need, or value.  Express this 'yes' to the other and stay true. 
2. Deliver a respectful "No" by not rejecting or disrespecting the other.  Keep your tone neutral.  Have a plan B.
3. Negotiate to a healthy "Yes".  This yes supports a positive outcome or relationship and facilitates a wise agreement.