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OCTOBER 2009
 
 
 
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Dinner Anyone?
Dinner Time Tips
Strong Relationships
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Aim For Success offers a 10% discount off our program fee for parent and student programs scheduled for presentations in December and April. A few program dates are still available, call Windi Fuller at 972-422-2322 ext 223  or email her at wfuller@aimforsu
cess.org today to schedule your program.

 
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Greetings!
Drug and alcohol prevention is a primary concern of  parents today. That is why each of the 4 student programs presented by Aim For Success always addresses drug and alcohol prevention. Studies show the use of drugs and alcohol will lead to other risky behavior including sexual activity. It is our goal to help educate students and parents on how best to protect their future by making wise choices today.
 
 
Dinner Anyone?
By Marilyn Morris, President Aim For Success
 
Would you like to significantly reduce the risk of your child using drugs? Then try eating dinner together on a regular basis. Over the past several years, extensive research has revealed that children who come from homes where their families eat dinner together as a family are far less likely to get involved in sex, do drugs, be suspended from school or attempt suicide.  
 
A new study from Columbia University compared teens that eat dinner with their families five or more nights a week to those who eat dinner one or two nights a week. The research showed that teens who eat dinner only once or twice a week with their family are:
  1. Twice as likely to use tobacco or marijuana
  2. More than 1 ½ times likelier to use alcohol
  3. Twice as likely to try drugs in the future
  4. More than twice as likely to be able to get marijuana in an hour
  5. 1 ½ times likelier to be able to get prescription drugs to get high within an hour
  6. Twice as likely to have friends who use marijuana and ecstasy
  7. More than 1 ½ times likelier to have friends who drink, abuse prescription drugs and use Meth
  8. Almost 1 ½ times likelier to have friends who use illegal drugs like cocaine, acid and heroin

It doesn't matter if the meal is served in your home or at McDonalds. The meal could consist of Family Picnicsandwiches, stew or filet mignon. You can use paper plates or fine china - silver or plastic wear.  All that matters is that the family stops what they are doing and sits around a table to share a meal and pleasant conversation.
 
Research shows the average family meal lasts approximately 35 minutes. There are 24 hours in a day. Surely, your family can stop and focus on each other for about a half an hour each day. . .  The rewards will last a lifetime!
 
 
Source: The Importance of Family Dinners V, The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse (CASA) at Columbia University. September 23, 2009.
 

Dinner Time Tips
  • The goal for dinner time should be to build strong relationships and happy memories.
  • Dinner time should focus on enjoyable conversation and never confrontation. Save unpleasant topics, such as a bad grade, for another time.
  • Always avoid the 3 T's during dinner: Television, Telephone, Texting.
  • Everyone should stay at the table until dinner time is over.
  • Make sure all family members join in the conversation.
  • Lots of laughter is highly recommended! 
On those occasions where everyone is going different directions at dinner time, arrange to meet together before heading off to bed and share a bowl of ice cream or some cookies and a glass of milk. The point is to stop all the busy activities of the day for a short amount of time while you focus on each other. A family that gets too busy to spend time together, will soon disconnect and drift apart. 
 
 
Building Strong Relationships
 
Strong families strive for good communication where each member of the family is listened to and respected. According to Dr. Patricia Nelson Tanner, a Family and Human Development Specialist with the University of Delaware, one of the best ways to strengthen your family is to improve your listening skills. Dr. Tanner explains that "Until we can hear each other we can't build strong relationships."

There's always room to improve your relationship with your child or teenager. Never underestimate the great need children feel - at all ages - for a close relationship with their parents and for their parents' guidance, approval, and support. Building strong relationships takes time, but the reward is great.