A Modern Day Princess, On the Subject of Fathers
by Shannen-Rose
Where are the Fathers?
Girls who live with the absence of a Christian father figure end up in more unhealthy relationships and sentimental torment than girls who have a healthy Christian father figure in their life. The topic of girls and emotion can be a very tender subject but is something that needs to be discussed and brought to the world's attention. The lack of a good older male role model in a girl's life can lead her to make foolish decisions that she will end up suffering for later on in life. These decisions cause damage to the heart that are permanent and create a hurt that she may carry forever.
In this generation there are many families that are broken. Parents are getting divorces more frequently, teen-age pregnancy is becoming common, and abandonment leaves a child without a mother or father. Generally, one will find a single mother over a single father. For that reason there are girls who cannot discern the difference between what one can call a "predator or protector."
There are boys and men out there who have no better motives than to get close to a girl to get one thing, sex. These types of males would be categorized under "predator," who is setting the girl up for emotional scarring. Males like this do no stick around. They go in, get what they want and leave; even if they don't get what they want, they still leave. Why is it that today we find so many girls who end up in situations like this? This is because fathers leave and don't do what they should which is create an image of what a man (protector) should be for their daughter.
One thing that girls long for is intimacy with the opposite sex. These predators are only looking for what they want, a girl and sex. With that being said, a guy will give intimacy for sex and girls will give sex for intimacy. To
clarify, a guy will come off as caring, sweet, concerned, and be a good listener for the girl, but they do this all to get one thing. The girl sees how "sincere" he is and falls into the trap of "I'm safe with this guy." She will go ahead and have sex with him because she feels that safety and believes the intimacy will continue to grow after the whole experience. But, if the girl falls into the trap, where does that leave the girl? She's devastated and hurt. The guy gets what he wants and is out, and the girl is left there with nothing gained from the experience. These girls accept guys who are like this because they do not have a picture of what a real man is. One who can protect be trusted and love. Instead of waiting for a guy who will come after her because of her good traits and personality she jumps into the arms of a guy who wants her
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for the wrong reasons. At home, she has no one to love on her and show her the love of Christ. She is longing for something that she has never gotten from the opposite sex, love. She believes the lie that she is "in love" and wanted and accepted. Well, she may be wanted and accepted by these guys but can't see the heart-breaking experience that is waiting to happen.
Fathers should be the image of God on earth. In the household he should be the one showing his children how to love and how one should be loved. Without that figure there one is naïve to what real love should look like. Media does not help this cause at all. Look at all the Disney movies; almost all of them do not have a father figure. Movies such as Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Beauty and the Beast, Snow White are absent of fathers. These princesses end up finding true love and everything is a fairytale, but that's not the real world. Girls go out without set boundaries looking and hoping to find what they want to call "true love," and honestly, the only thing they end up finding is emptiness.
Fathers should not belittle the role that they play in their children's lives, especially to their girls. Fathers have a high calling and need to take up the responsibility God has given to them to love their wives and children. A home with healthy principles, guidelines, and rules can help a girl develop into a strong young lady. Most of all besides the boundaries and rules, love is what needs to be shown. Being there as a father, a strong upright father, can help more girls stay clear from emotional scars and internal pain. Fathers who are absent from their task of bringing up a girl child miss the chance to raise the wonderful creation God intended for a woman to be.
-- Love in Jesus,
Shannen-Rose
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