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"A coach is someone who can give correction without causing resentment."
~ John Wooden
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"The goal of coaching is the goal of good management: to make the most of an organization's valuable resources."
~ Harvard Business Review
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"I never cease to be amazed at the power of the coaching process to draw out the skills or talent that was previously hidden within an individual, and which invariably finds a way to solve a problem previously thought unsolvable."
~ John Russell, Managing Director, Harley-Davidson Europe
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"The key is not to prioritize what's on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities."
~ Stephen R. Covey
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"My success, part of it certainly, is that I have focused in on a few things."
~ Bill Gates
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"When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity."
~ ~ Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People
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"To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others."
~ Tony Robbins
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Greetings!
Welcome to the July, 2012 edition of Insights. I hope you will find this month's selection of articles interesting and thought-provoking, and that you will take from these words at least one thought or idea that you can use to bring about a positive change in some aspect of your personal or professional life. Recently I came across a very powerful quote that reall moved me. I thought I would share it with you. I hope you find it as inspirational as I do. "Take up one idea, Make that one idea your life." "Think of it, dream of it, Live on that idea." "Let the brain, muscle, nerves, every part of your body be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone." "This is the way to success." Swami Vivivananda (Indian Hindu Monk) I think this beautifully blends the concepts of energy and focus to form a simple but compelling mini mission statement for achieving an important life goal. I'd never heard of Swami Vivivananda so I looked him up on the internet. He was apparently a very interesting and charismatic fellow. Here's the link if you would like to learn more about him: Swami Vivivananda. If you know of anyone who you think might also be interested in receiving Insights, please forward this issue on. As always, I would be very interested in receiving your feedback. Pat Iannuzzi |
MANAGER AS COACH
There are many different definitions of the role of a manager, but one that I believe most people would agree with is the one advocated by the late 19th century American social worker and management consultant Mary Parker Follett (1868-1933) who defined it simply as getting things done though people. The responsibilities associate with management are generally categorized as consisting of the functions of planning, organizing, staffing, directing, leading and controlling one or more individuals for the purpose of accomplishing an organizational objective. One role of management, however, that is usually not specifically defined within any particular function but can have a powerful impact across all functions is that of performance coach.
Exactly What is Performance Coaching?
Performance coaching has to do with improving people's knowledge and skill levels so as to enable them to perform more effectively in a particular activity. We usually think of performance coaching as being associated with activities such as sports or the arts, but it also has significant relevance in business, not only with regard to technical skills but with interpersonal or soft-skills as well. Performance coaching is also used to minimize or remove performance limiting behaviors that create obstacles that stand in the way of an individual's optimum performance. Most performance coaching initiatives usually focus on one or more of four basic objectives:
- Improving a deficiency in a person's expected performance level (remedial coaching)
- Augmenting a person's effectiveness in a current responsibility
- Developing a person's ability to performing at a higher or level of responsibility
- Minimizing or eliminating a person's undesirable behavior
While managers have many responsibilities, coaching is among the most important. Effective coaching doesn't just correct problems, it also helps keep them from surfacing in the first place. More important, effective coaching helps to prepare subordinates and peers to perform to their highest potential, thereby enhancing the overall productivity of the organization and the coach as well. Thus, a manager's willingness and ability to coach is directly related to his or her own professional success.
Some Keys to Becoming an Effective Performance Coach
Establish a Personal Connection Effective manager-coaches get to know and understand their people. They pay attention to their work and to them as human beings. They never make assumptions about them and take the time to learn about their needs, hopes and fears. Coaches check their egos at the door. They resist trying to impress others with their knowledge. Their satisfaction comes not from hearing someone say "how do you know so much?" but in seeing their people grow their skills. There are always two conversations going on: the developmental language relating to the skills being addressed and the interpersonal language of the relationship. While the coaching relationship involves a strong personal connection, the manager-coach focuses solely on behavior and avoids personal judgments and criticism.
Ask Relevant Questions The essence of coaching is asking questions, not simply to gather facts but to elicit solutions, feelings, ideas and new thoughts out of the person being coached. Asking questions challenges people to think harder and more broadly about issues, thereby enlarging their perspective and improving their reasoning skills. The skill of coaching is in being able to ask questions that help people open up. Good questions are neutral rather than judgmental or critical. They help people see new angles on issues and explore new options for dealing with them. This means avoiding closed questions, those that contain the answer or which shut discussion down prematurely. Good coaches know how to draw more out of people by offering encouragement. They say things like "That's interesting. Can you tell me more about that?"
Listen Actively and Completely. Good coaches resist the temptation to give instant advice or answers, even if they have them at the tip of their tongue. They give the person being coached time to get a point out fully, and only then work to engage in a coaching conversation. They resist phone calls, door knocks, and other distraction. When coaching is underway, the most important gift a coach gives is complete attention. Active listening really means having the skills to draw more out of people than they might otherwise reveal or even know they had in them. A shared understanding of the behavioral issues being addressed is critical to any coaching initiative, and the best way to develop a shared understanding is through listening and engaging
Generate Developmental Options Skilled manager-coaches focus on unlocking a person's energy to use their own wisdom to create solutions. The skilled coach asks questions to help an employee generate some potential next steps: "What do you think will work?" "How will you get started?" As those being coached generate practical ideas and suggestions, the coach helps them evaluate their own ideas and works to gain agreement on approaches for development. Coaches are also on the alert for opportunities to reinforce values and skills. These are called "teaching moments." They may happen in formal meetings or casual conversations. A teaching moment is an unplanned opportunity that arises in a discussion where a coach has an opportunity to offer insight. A teaching moment is not something that a coach can plan for; rather, it is a fleeting opportunity that must be sensed and seized at the point it arises.
Inspire Others Coaches inspire. Don't be frightened by that notion. You may not think of yourself as an inspirational figure, but even the most humble leaders are known for their values. People around them know what they stand for. What do you stand for? It can take courage to be inspirational, to overcome your own fears. You may fear public speaking, fear contradiction, or fear failure. If so, then seek out a coach to help you achieve the goal of inspiring others by your words and deeds.
Managers who coach focus on collaborating instead of controlling and delegating more responsibility. They talk less and listen more, they give fewer orders and ask more questions, and provide objective feedback instead of making judgments.
Managers need to be coaches. Coaching is a tool for facilitating good decisions as well as for developing people. Given that employees have information that managers often lack and the power to resist imposed decisions, managers must find ways to engage and coach employees to develop workable solutions that benefit the individual, the coach and the entire organization.
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THE POWER OF THE PARETO PRINCIPLE
The Pareto principle or the 80/20 rule as it is also known is based on the observation that in life, a minority of causes, inputs and efforts often produce the majority of effects, results and rewards. Business management consultant Joseph M. Juran was the first to conceptualize this principle and named it after Vilfredo Pareto, an Italian economist who in 1906, observed that 80 percent of the land in England (and every country he subsequently studied) was owned by 20 percent of the population. Over the years, he and many others observed this rule in action in many different spheres: Relationships: Twenty percent of the people a person knows (friends, colleagues, family) will provide him or her with eighty percent of nurturing support and satisfaction. Business: Twenty percent of customers will account for eighty percent of revenue. Productivity: Twenty percent of a person's activities will account for eighty percent of his or her success. Gardening: Eighty percent of garden peas are produced by twenty percent of the pea pods. Understanding the Pareto Principle and incorporating the central insight of this concept can be of real value when applied daily to the key aspects of our lives. If we can identify the activities that produce the best results, we can apply our time and focus much more effectively. In other words, we can do more of what actually matters. It's important to remember that the 80-20 rule is simply a principle. The 20% and 80% are intended as rough estimates. It can be 80-20 in a particular situation, but it's not set in stone, and it doesn't have to reflect a total of 100%. It just means that in many things, the great majority of the consequences come from a disproportionally small percent of the causes. For example, a teacher may have a class where 99% of discipline issues are created by just 10% of the students, or a business may have a situation where 70% of sales are of generated by 25% of its salespeople. Putting the Pareto Principle to Work for You Before we can put the Pareto Principle to work for us, however, we must be able to identify the 20% that really matters to each of us? The principle can only be effective if we can reliably distinguish the 20% of actions (or people, or events) that produce that disproportionate number of benefits. If we could know intuitively in the beginning what actions would be most productive in achieving our goals, it would be a relatively simple matter of focusing the majority of our efforts on those activities. However, this is usually not possible. We can generally only discern the critical 20% through observation and analysis after-the-fact. Therefore, the key to effectively applying the Pareto Principle for increased success and happiness is to continually monitor and assess the results we achieve over time through our daily behavior, and identify those that are most productive for us. Carefully Analyze your Successes and Failures for Valuable Clues Let's use sales as an example. If at the end of a month, an advertising salesperson spent some time to identify the group of customers who contributed 80% of his or her sales for the month and then analyzed the circumstances and conditions pertaining to those customers, the salesperson would likely identify certain characteristics the customers had in common (business type, size, location and contact person) as well as some common elements of the sales process (such as the time and frequency of the sales calls) that contributed to the sales taking place. From this analysis certain patterns would emerge relating to customer characteristics and the sales process that would correlate more highly with these particular sales. Focusing greater emphasis on these elements during future sales activities should produce greater sales successes than if the salesperson continued on without making any changes in either customer targeting or sales technique. The Pareto principle is great to increase focus. Don't try to do more, just do more of the right things. For example, only a few of our non-productive behaviors will generally be the major contributors our disappointment and hardships in life. So working on just these few can greatly contribute to our personal growth. Time management is an area where the 80-20 rule can be very effective. If you have a lot of work to do, break it down to specific activities and figure out what minority (20%) of the tasks listed will contribute to the majority (80%) percent of the results you seek. Then give your maximum concentration to those minority tasks. This same approach can be applied to any area of life with similar results. The key to successfully leveraging the Pareto Principle is careful observation of past activities and behaviors or applying knowledge derived from the observation and analysis of others. It is important to remember that successfully applying the Pareto Principle does not mean ignoring or discarding the other 80% of people, tasks or activities, but rather prioritizing attention to the critical 20%. The other 80% still needs to get done. In fact, there are usually many things in the 80% category of causes, efforts and inputs that are absolutely critical to personal or organizational success, which if not done properly can have a significant detrimental effect on results. However, just because something is very important doesn't necessarily mean that a lot of time and attention should be focused on it. It is simply important that it gets done. A good example illustrating this point is comparing the functions of business development with maintaining customer loyalty. Most people would agree that while both are critically important activities for a business to grow and that the more customers an organization can retain the fewer new customers it needs to find, more time and effort should be devoted to business development because more time and effort is required. more on customer loyalty Using the Pareto Principle can help brings a kind of clarity into your life since it keeps you focused on the important things and alleviates the stress of feeling that "you have to do" many of the less important things. It frees you from rules such as "I have to attend every meeting" and lets you make your own rules. It makes life easier and often gets you where you want to go faster and more smoothly. (back to top)
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YOUR PERSUASIVE EDGE
People often associate the topic of persuasion primarily with the concept of selling, but the importance of effective persuasion skills really pertains to every one of us regardless of our individual vocation. Every day each of us is involved to some degree in influencing the thoughts and actions of others. In fact, the path to success in life lies to a very large extent in gaining the cooperation of others. In this edition of Insights, we continue with our ongoing segment dedicated to the topic of persuasion.
THE IMPORTANCE OF SOFT SKILLS
Soft skills can be described as the set of personal character traits, attributes and interpersonal skills that characterize a person's relationships with other people. Soft skills have more to do with who we are than what we know. As such, soft skills encompass the communication style preferences that determine how well one interacts with others and are usually an important contributing factor in shaping a person's personality. Unlike hard skills, which are about a person's skill set pertaining to the ability to perform a certain type of task or activity, soft skills are broadly applicable to any type of personal interaction.
In the workplace, soft skills are considered to be complementary to hard skills and are believed to enhance an individual's personal interactions, job performance and career prospects. The hard skills necessary for an effective salesperson, for example, might include a thorough understanding of selling skills, product knowledge and order processing procedures. Alternatively, soft skills required for a salesperson might include empathy, active listening and an appealing communication style.
Soft Skills and Persuasive Ability
Persuasion can be likened to selling. When you are trying to persuade someone to think the way you are thinking about a thought or concept, you are essentially selling an idea. And as with virtually all selling situations, you usually need to sell yourself first. This usually requires the development of trust, rapport and interest on the part of the person you are trying to persuade. Conveying the facts and details of an idea can be characterized as the process of applying hard skills to the persuasion situation (i.e., gaining attention developing a need, handling objections, etc.) It's the logical, intellectual process that you would follow to get another to listen to and consider your idea or proposition.
However, to get the other person to agree with you and commit to the action you desire, you must get him or her to emotionally WANT to accept your premise, and this requires the effective application of soft skills such as those described above to develop an emotional connection with the person with whom you are speaking to motivate action. Another way to look at it is that persuasive ability itself is a soft skill and is an ability that is highly valued in business and in society.
Certainly it is possible to influence the behavior of others without establishing an emotional connection. Many people, especially ineffective managers often use intimidation to get their way with subordinates. While this does motivate action, it is not persuasion because by definition persuasion involves voluntary compliance, not coercion. Furthermore, coercion adds a whole new dimension to the concept of hard skill.
Developing Your Persuasive Soft Skills
Whereas hard skills can be learned and perfected over time, soft skills can be more difficult to acquire and change. That's because soft skills are usually not as easily defined or documented (and, therefore, not as easy to train or learn) as hard skills. When seeking to persuade, we usually focus mostly on the words that make up our message. While we may have conscious control over the words we use, we may not have the same level of awareness over the other key elements of our message, namely our voice and body language. The tricky thing about body language is that we are usually unaware of the messages we're conveying nonverbally. When presenters see themselves on videotape, they're often surprised to see that their body language was conveying an entirely different message from the one they had intended.
Anyone can utter a series of words, but it is a speaker's personal connection to those words that can bring them to life for the listener. The movements of our eyes, mouth, and facial muscles can have a significant impact on building a connection with those we are talking with. Alternatively, they can undermine our every word. Persuaders who care deeply about what they are saying tend to use their entire bodies to support their message. Their gestures are consistent and congruent with their words. Eye focus is the most important element in this process. No part of our facial expression is more important in communicating sincerity and credibility. Nothing else so directly connects us with our listeners, whether in a small gathering or a large group.
Other types of soft skills that are important in business and in life are competencies in such areas as conflict resolution, decision making, self-motivation, self-discipline, etiquette, negotiation and team orientation. Sometimes such attributes are simply lumped in to the term interpersonal skills. In recent years the concept of Emotional Intelligence (EI) had come into general use as an alternative approach to characterize soft skills. Intelligence can be broadly defined as the capacity for goal-oriented adaptive behavior, and emotional intelligence focuses on those aspects of intelligence that govern self-knowledge and social adaptation. However the concept of soft skills and persuasion is not new. A great book on soft skills, How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, was published in 1936.
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Sincerely,
Pat Iannuzzi
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