What a wonderful time of year!  We begin our season of thanksgiving with a genuine amount of awe for the support we have encountered since we launched in November, 2009.  Two years later, we can't believe we even questioned whether or not to take this leap of faith!  Thank you so much for providing the net for our leap....we are ever grateful, completely in awe, and totally humbled.

This time of year brings a flood of memories to our family table: the joy of the blessings that have been put in our path, the lovely memories we have of family members who have passed, and the excitement and anticipation of what is yet to come.  We have tried to build a company that embraces the gift of family, and we have you to thank for our success.  Thank you.

The Beck Family 
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Coming Soon
[an app for your i-phone]
We are entering the app market!  We have created an app that will help your children (or you, for that matter!) track their savings goals.  You will be able to take a picture of your child, take a picture of what they are saving for, then enter the money as they earn it.  The app will then reveal the percentage of the goal picture that they have earned so far.  This is a great tool for motivation, for teaching delayed gratification, and for staving off mid-aisle temper tantrums when they just "HAVE TO HAVE IT."  And yes, it works...we had a Target checkout aisle meltdown when Henry saw the latest and greatest Pez dispenser and when I showed him the picture of him holding the Superman toy he was saving for, he put the Pez back and said, "Oh, yeah."

We will let you know when it is available in the Apple App Store!  We have other apps we want to create, so spread the word about this great app and we will be able to create the next! 

So first of all, to explain the title.....when our son was three years old, he was quite stubborn (we are calling it character) and whenever we said, "That's awesome!" he replied with, "That's not awesome." It cracked us up and when we were having trouble coming up with a title for this blog, my mom offered "it's not awesome" as a suggestion and we loved it. But the sense of entitlement among our kids really isn't awesome, so it works!
I think there has been an overwhelming trend over the past many years that we, as a society, are entitled to, well, anything. Immediate gratification, perhaps? We want what our parents or grandparents have, but we want it yesterday, forgetting that usually, our parents worked pretty darn diligently for everything they have. And it took a while! But why wait?
We want it, so how much do we need to put down? ("At 0% interest you say? Well of course I'll pay it off within three months!") Then we are shocked when our economy crashes. I am certainly not an expert in economics by any stretch of the imagination [college macroeconomics was not awesome]. But it seems like we forgot to save, and learned to spend it all instead, so when there is a true emergency, we are stranded. And I think this sense of being entitled to things has now been inherited by our children.
I think it's human nature to want to give your children the best life possible, but this doesn't translate into "giving them everything." Let's look at a child's basic needs when they are little. They need food and water, of course, as well as shelter, clothing, and a loving family. But then we love them so much and assume that our role as parents is to shelter them from everything difficult in life, including hard work. We buy them an expensive toy ("Hey! It won Toy of the Year last year!") and they are far more impressed with the pots and pans and a wooden spoon. And we keep giving them things, not necessarily making them work for those things, and suddenly we are appalled that little Johnny won't lift a finger to help out around the house.
I remember observing a student of mine once who was yelling so disrespectfully at her mother for being late to school with lunch for her and all of her friends. The mom just said she was so sorry to have been late. Really? Or the child who constantly leaves homework at home and mom and dad keep running home to fetch it for him so he doesn't get a zero; mom and dad then rack their brains trying to figure out why he is irresponsible and unorganized. Our job as parents is to teach our children how to live life independently, safely, and lovingly. Part of teaching them this includes setting boundaries, letting them fall so that we are there to pick them up, dust them off, and give them a kiss. Don't fall for them....just be there for them after the fall! That's the way humans learn! We make mistakes so that our brain knows that's not the way to do it next time. If we keep doing things for our kids, they will come to expect it...wouldn't you?
Kids assume they are entitled to many things in life, not realizing that with hard work comes rewards. We need to point the finger not at our kids, though....but rather at ourselves. 

Customer Feedback

Our package arrived yesterday and we've got it all set up and ready to go! Thank you so much. We are all very excited to start using it. In fact we got to test out the consequence spinner last night. I had just finished filling in all the spaces and explained how it was going to work and not 10 minutes later we needed to use it....my daughter spun and got to go to bed 1 hour earlier. It was just what she needed and there was no arguing about it...amazing!

Thanks again for everything! Have a great weekend.

Kristin, Stewart, Emily and Bridget

New Spinners!


We have developed three new spinners for our customers a
 nd we love them!

dinner spinner 

The firs
t comes from the brain o
f our oldest daughter: The Dinner Spinner!  This is a fantastic way to reinforce that the family is indeed a team.  Have everyone (yes, even mom and dad) spin for their role before/during/after family meal time.  There are two blank spaces so you can fill in traditions specific to your family.  On of our favorites comes from the Sinnott Family in Texas: "conversation starter."  Their son started the conversation but told everyone they had to also speak in a British accent during dinner.  So hilarious and so fun!  With spaces titled "sous chef", "set the table", "do the dishes", and more, you are teaching very valuable independent living skills, teamwork, and what it takes to prepare a fun family meal. 

boredom spinner 

The second one comes from the crazy, creative brain of our nine year old daughter, The Boredom Spinner!  What better time than the holidays (aka: time off from school and home all day) to implement this spinner.  It is designed to subtly remind our children that they should NEVER be truly bored, especially with all the toys, books, games, and the great outdoors at their disposal.  

naughty or nice

The third new spinner comes from the brains of mom and dads everywhere who crave the superhuman power of suggestive, subtle discipline. With this superpower, we simply saunter over to the Naughty or Nice spinner and begin to point the arrow to "You Better Watch Out" and our children immediately realize the error of their ways and plead for Santa's forgiveness.  Let's not even imagine the unfortunate situation that takes the spinner to "You Better not Pout" or (*YIKES*) "COAL."  The other day we heard our little guy say to our nine-year-old, "Claire....you better watch out, you better not pout, COAL."  Granted, this spinner works its magic best during the last quarter of the year, but it will be worth it for those three months! 

black friday
We are joining merchants everywhere by having a Black Friday sale. 

Enter code GOBBLE2011 at checkout for 15% off fisherkids products (also includes 10% off Lovely Manners placemats and Tag-a-Towel magnets) 

*sale begins Friday, 11-25 and ends Monday, 11-28*