Choosing a Positive Attitude
Just as the universal law that water and electricity
choose the path of least resistance, so too do
humans. Doom-and-gloom messages abound far
more than positive ones, thus it becomes far easier to
simply go along with what seems like the easy
path.
If you ask most people, they'll say they're positive,
optimistic, or maybe even realistic. Almost no one
admits to being a pessimist or having a negative
attitude. Of the time you spend daily with others or
interacting with the media, how many positive
messages do you receive in relation to negative
ones?
Think about your most recent encounter with
someone at work, on the highway, at school, in a retail
store, in a doctor's waiting room. What was that
experience like?
Did the conversation revolve around uplifting
events or helpful information, or did the conversation
focus on the latest gossip or what's wrong in the
world—the weather, your job situation, the
traffic, the government, some illness or disease, and
on and on? Did the person smile at you, thank you,
compliment you, or did they avoid eye contact entirely,
cut you off in traffic, or tell you what you did wrong?
Whether it's radio, TV, newspapers, or the movies,
the likelihood is you'll witness the worst of
humanity—the latest crime figures, how many
people died in accidents or storms overnight, what
public official or famous star cheated on whom or was
arrested, all the best jobs are going overseas,
companies are slowing their hiring, and so on.
The insidious message is that you have little to or
no control over your life—that you're a victim of
something or someone. So how do you choose to be
positive and cultivate a healthy, successful mind-set?
The Challenge
Set a challenge to avoid negative influences for
one month! To alter the path of a water source, we use
dams, pipes, ditches, and other devices. That
translates into extra effort to make a change.
Start by choosing not to read the papers or listen
to the news. If you must know the weather forecast or
game scores of your favorite team, go online or have
the information sent to your mobile phone.
To counteract the effects of negative messages
that have already become part of your belief system,
buy some audio CDs of motivational seminars,
relaxing music, classic books, or even educational
materials. Listen to these in your car as you're on your
way to and from work or other appointments. You can
enrich your mind or simply relax.
If some of your worst negative influences happen
at work, consider choosing new lunch partners or go it
alone. Find people who are upbeat, believe in
success, and encourage others to be their best. You
want to hang with people who lift you up, not pull you
down. If you can't find someone who is a good
influence, go for a walk or bring something to read or
listen to that enriches and refreshes you.
For dealing with co-workers who just love to
interrupt you throughout the day, bring an iPod or
similar device. Make sure to wear your headset! That
way, you discourage others from stopping in just to
chat. If you're getting instant or text messages, block
or turn them off. Check them once in the morning and
once in the afternoon.
If your boss is the problem, try to talk with him or
her and work out a solution. However, if the situation
is cannot be resolved and you are experiencing more
negatives than positives, it may be time to find another
opportunity.
Bring a book to read during your breaks or go for a
quick walk. Eventually, others will learn to interrupt you
only for important business. You may also find that
you gain greater visibility with those who can advance
your career and goals.
As for friends and family, try to redirect
conversations to topics that are wholesome and find
ways to help them on projects or goals that are
important to them.
Practice complimenting people from time to time
for things they do well instead of only giving criticism.
Cultivating a positive attitude doesn't mean
immersing yourself in self-help 24/7, constantly
smiling, or ignoring problems that need to be
addressed. It just means learning to see
opportunities instead of threats and taking control of
your life instead of letting others dictate your
attitude.
Studies show that adopting a new behavior takes
30 days before it becomes habit-forming. Following a
new path can lead you to form habits that promote
your success and well-being@mdash;and perhaps
that of others around you.