Crib Notes May 09

MAY 2010

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In This Issue
Stuff We Love: Nattie's Naturals
Stay At Home Moms And Working Dads
First Trip To The Dentist
Taking Your Toddler To A Museum
Question Of The Month: Preschoolers & Naps
Stuff We Love: Natties Naturals
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Can Stay-At-Home Moms And Their Working Husbands Get Along?
By Laurie Puhn,
Relationship Expert

Can Stay-at-home Moms and their Working Husbands Get Along?
My friend told me that she loves her husband, but she can't stand him when he offers opinions on raising their young children. 
"When my husband has parenting suggestions I get annoyed, even though he certainly has the right as the daddy to be a part of the decision-making process."

Despite her admission of his fatherly rights, the emotional tug of "You don't know what you're talking about!" is too much of a draw and they get into unnecessary fights.  After all, she doesn't tell her husband what to do at work, so why should he interfere with her job at home? 

My advice for her and for any loving mother and wife is to ask herself, What kind of boss do I want to be? A dictator or a diplomat?

Imagine that you are a corporate executive (which some SAHMs used to be, and some working moms still are). How would you make decisions without alienating your colleagues? Would you ask for input before making a decision that could affect them? Would you let your colleagues know that your door is always open to their ideas? It doesn't matter whether 80% of your colleagues' suggestions are entirely impractical. What matters is that 20% of those ideas are valuable. (Honestly, how many of your own ideas end up being impractical?)

But, even with the logic of diplomacy, it may still be hard to stay on course. Why is that? I think the answer is that some women expect their husbands to have levels of knowledge that they couldn't possibly have. When my husband suggested that perhaps our son would eat the chicken if I grilled it instead of baking it, I was annoyed because I already tried that and it DIDN'T WORK!  But here's the catch: He didn't know this because he wasn't home, and it was ridiculous for me to expect him to know it. It wasn't a dumb suggestion; it's just one I tried already.
And every now and then, my husband, acting without my preconceived notions about our son, comes up with a good idea that would have never occurred to me. Encouraging him to share all ideas is what enables us to find the good ones.

--Laurie Puhn, relationship expert, family and divorce attorney-mediator and author of "Instant Persuasion: How To Change Your Worlds To Change Your Life" is a featured blogger at Babycenter's MOMformation and she writes her own relationship blog at
Chew On This: Caring For Tot's First Teeth
toddler brushing teeth
By Christina R. Carter, DMD
Specialist in Pediatric Dentistry


Teething Equals Testy

Just as you've settled into a more livable sleep schedule your little one is likely to become a cranky mess due to the onset of teething. Enter excessive drooling, a constant need to chew, fevers, and of course, a return to sleepless nights. Now that your favorite toothless grin is turning into a toothy smile, you need to add dental care to your routine.


Tend To Those Chompers

Some erroneously think that baby teeth don't need to be cared for since they're just going to fall out.  You need healthy teeth for chewing, development of the bones, and speech.  Dental pain is the number one reason for children missing school, according to the Surgeon General.  Poor dental care in childhood can lead to bad breath, pain, swelling,  crowding of the adult teeth and premature tooth loss.


Caring for baby's teeth starts when the first one erupts. You can wipe with a wet washcloth or a bristled finger brush in the morning and at night. The combination of mother's milk or formula along with food has a high amount of cavity-causing sugars. By not brushing, you put her at a high risk of weakening the enamel.  

You don't need to use toothpaste but if you do, choose use one without fluoride, which can be harmful if baby swallows too much.  There are many child-friendly training toothpastes available in fun and fruity flavors. 


Sweet Dreams

Never put your baby to bed with a bottle.  At night, saliva decreases, reducing the body's natural defense against sugars, carbohydrates and cavities.  A bedtime bottle filled with milk, formula or even diluted juice can lead to "Early Childhood Caries" (EEC) aka baby bottle rot.  Wipe teeth even after night feedings, especially if your child is nursing to decrease the chance of cavities forming.


Six months after that first tooth appears or by the age of one, (whichever comes first,)  the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry recommends that every child be seen by a Pediatric Dentist. Try by reading a book about the dentist to prepare your child for the first visit. Talk about how the dentist is a friend and will give their teeth a special cleaning to make them sparkle.  Do not go into too much detail and stay positive so your child will be ready to have a pleasant and fun experience.

Sometimes Sharing Can Be Bad

Infants aren't born with the bacteria responsible for cavities.  But each time we take something from our mouth and give it to our child, we are "vertically transmitting" our cavity-forming germs.   Parents and caregivers should have routine cleanings every 6 months and brush and floss daily to decrease the possibility of transferring germs.

If you care for your children's teeth well with regular dentist visits and brushing, their teeth will be good to them. 

--Christina R. Carter, DMD
Specialist in Pediatric Dentistry
Diplomate, American Board of Pediatric Dentistry
Assistant Clinical Professor, New York University College of Dentistry, Departments of Pediatric Dentistry and Orthodontics
Private Practice in Summit, New JerseY

Taking Your Toddler To A Museum

toddler looking up
By Aoife Pacheco
Early Childhood and Family Learning Manager, Rubin
Museum of Art
Museums promote life-long learning and are ideal places to spark your child's imagination - best of all, kids appreciate art and artifacts based solely on their instinctual reactions, not historical value. Here are a few tips to make sure your kids learn early on that museums are fun and exciting places to visit and learn. 
Before You Go
Visit virtually and make a plan -Most museums have useful information on their website; if you don't see a "family visit" page, call and ask about child-friendly areas and activities. School visits usually occur weekday mornings and can be incredibly overwhelming to the stroller set.  Also, many museums are closed one day during the week.  Make sure to check hours (usually under the "visit" section of the website).
Read a book - Prepare your little ones for their museum adventure bysharinga story about going to the museum or about an artist or genre you can refer to when you get to the galleries. 
When You Get There
Take baby steps -Museums can be immediately interesting to an adult (who can read and has museum experience) but can be overwhelming to kids. Don't expect to spend hours looking at art; a few minutes may be the most your little one can comfortably handle at first. Being in this foreign space can excite, confuse, and exhaust them. Try to find a quiet space to sit for a few minutes to orient your child to the environment.  Make sure to have a conversation with your child about why you are about to go into the museum and emphasize that this is a family trip.  Also, utilize the café or bathrooms to take a break.  
Make Sure You Both Know The Rules
Even grown-ups can forget to follow all the rules. Refresh yourself on the policies of the museum and share the experience of having to follow specific guidelines. Most museums have restrictions on photography, cell phone use, eating and drinking. You can model positive museum behavior by moving around the space carefully and quietly. It's tough for kids not to touch everything so be sure to go through each rule and talk about why it exists. Make museum behavior into an opportunity for dramatic play! Watch the other visitors and notice how they enjoy the artworks. Self control is an important quality and museums are ideal places to practice.
Bring A Pad And Pencil
You may want to to take notes and scribble.  If you see something your child really responds to, follow up after your visit by finding the image online.
Make It Fun
Ask your child to find a specific image in a painting or sculpture, for older kids invite them to look for something within your sight. Mention specific words that you can utilize with multiple pieces of art (shapes, colors, textures, actions). Encourage discovery: support children's imagination by modeling your own inventiveness. While ensuring that your child is safe, allow him/her to learn new concepts by exploring. Magnifying glasses (like those at the Rubin Museum of Art) can help your child get into the role of "little explorer" as they navigate the museum looking for shapes and colors.  
After You Leave
Talk about your trip! Let your little one feel proud about their learning adventure and remind them how grown-up they behaved. Make note of things in your daily life that remind you of things you saw at the museum. Plan another trip based on what most interested you both.
Like children, each museum has its own unique personality; some are rowdy, some are tranquil, some are precocious, and others are juvenile. Museums serve many different audiences, and since babies and young children aren't the main audience at every museum, it is important to do your research beforehand since the child-friendly activities might not be in plain sight.
It is never too early to bring your children to a museum as long as you can give them your full attention while you're there. Remember that their experience is dependant on your participation. Celebrate learning together and you'll show your kids that the most valuable things in the world aren't for sale, they're for sharing.

--Aiofe Pacheco is the Manager of Early Childhood and Family Learning at the Rubin Museum of Art in New York City. For more information or to visit the Rubin Museum, visit
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Question Of The Month

Q: My 2 and a half year old will be enrolled in an afternoon preschool program starting this Fall that will interrupt his nap schedule. Do I try to move the nap much earlier, much later, or get rid of it altogether?

A: This is a very common problem I see now.  Unfortunately many preschool programs fall at a time when your child would like to be sleeping. Is there a way to help your child, prematurely transition out of his afternoon
nap without causing too much havoc?  Yes. First Option: try offering a nap late morning to get a little rest before school.
Not all children will take a nap at this time but give it a shot as it will help get him through the
day without becoming too overtired.
Second Option: if your child is one of those children who will not take that late morning nap then you will have to adjust the bedtime to cover the loss of sleep during the day.
Depending on the child that bedtime might need to be as early as 5-6pm. Even for the children who take that late morning nap will still need an earlier bedtime, so keep that in mind as well. Take advantage of weekends and days off and continue to offer that afternoon nap. Any extra sleep you can grab will help your child make that adjustment during the week.

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mother of Soren ,age 12

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