80% of selling happens at the subconscious level. Our choice of words, intonation in our voices and our body language usually communicate as much or more as our planned presentation.
The word "Help", as in "Will you help me?", seems to put the person asking the question in a subordinate position. However, when used deliberately and effectively, asking someone for help can actually put you in control.
Use It Right
For instance, approach a prospect and say something like, "I was on your web site and I found this term which I've never seen before; could you help me understand what it is?" Who is controlling the sales call at this point? Who is gathering the information they need for the transaction? Who is building the most credibility with the other person? Who is showing interest?
See how it works?
Use It Wrong
Every day thousands of "salespeople" use this word incorrectly. Go into almost any retail store and how will you be greeted? "May I help you?" How do you respond? "No thanks, just looking."
Did the seller create a buying or even a selling environment? No!
Whenever the word is used in a familiar way, it loses its power. And, as we've just seen, it can actually create the opposite effect of what the seller wants.
Use It Today
Find ways today to use the word "help". Look for them and you'll find them.
- Whenever you need anything from the client - use help
- When you first meet someone, find a way to incorporate the word in your introduction ("You're with Acme Widgets - help me understand what you folks do.")
- When negotiating, find ways to use the word effectively ("Can you help me understand which of these issues is most important to you?")
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