A Note From Carol
Dear Friends,
Fall is my favorite time of the year, especially after the
first frost, when temperatures are warm but not hot,
and the lazy fall bees and bothersome mosquitoes are
gone. Of course, here in North Dakota, it's easy to get
into the "yeah, but winter's next," mentality. I try not to do
that. I try to treasure each season, just as it is.
With caregiving, we often have to actively look for
moments to treasure. When we are tired and stressed
and it seems no one appreciates our considerable
efforts, it's easy to just see the negative. I've done that.
I do that. But I try to be aware of my mood when I get
negative, and remind myself to look for something
good - anything!
Acceptance of our situation usually has to come before
we can see anything positive in what is going on. Then,
realization that we can get through almost anything, for
one day, can follow. We may not like the situation. We
many even hate it. But we can do it today. We may even
see something positive, if we dig deep enough.
If our situtation is really tearing us down, we need to
take steps to improve matters, Whether that is making
a phone call to vent to another caregiver, getting
ourselves to a doctor, hoping on-line to a caregiving
site or reading about how other caregivers cope, it's
time for action. If you find yourself feeling low too often,
you need to seriously look into respite care, through
your Social Services or Area Agencies on Aging (check
helpful links and agencies on the MOE main site). You
may need a checkup to see if you are suffering from
clinical depression. Caregivers are at high risk for
depression, and there is help for it.
One other note: If you signed up for the ezine before
April, and you'd like to be on a list to receive an
occasional email from MOE that is not the ezine,
please sign up again, from either the main site or the
blog. Only click the second option, this time. You can
download a chapter from Minding Our Elders, in the
process, if you'd like. I never want to send excessive
emails to anyone, and we each have a different point
that we consider "excessive." That is why I set it up that
way. If you end up with duplicate mailings, please let
me know. The system is set so that shouldn't happen,
but I will take care of it, if something goes haywire.
Do take care of yourselves,
Carol
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Hello!
Caregiving expert Carol Bradley Bursack, Author,
speaker and columnist, presents a collection of
articles, stories, news and research for you to
browse. Please check the blog and Web site links for
more information and feel free to email Carol at
carol@mindingourelders.com to chat or ask
questions. Thanks for reading.
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Minding Our Elders Gets Top Site Award
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I'm extremely pleased to announce that Minding Our
Elders received an award from The Health Central
Network for being among the top caregiving/dementia
sites and blogs.
It's really nice to be recognized for the efforts of your
heart. It means people are paying attention. The other
four winners in this category are: The Dementia
Caregiver's Toolbox; My Elder Advocate; 3GenFamily
and KnowItAlz.com Blog. Congratulations to the other
four winners.
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"Water for Elephants": A Story With The Perfect Ending
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I thought you might be interested in my take on the
bestseller "Water for Elephants." I loved the circus
story, but since I wrote this for my caregiving blog on
Our Alzheimer's, I concentrated on the nursing home
storyline.
Here's how I begin -
From Water for Elephants:
"Either there's been an accident or there's roadwork,
because a gaggle of old ladies is glued to the window
at the end of the hall like children or jailbirds. They're
spidery and frail, their hair as fine as mist. Most of
them are a good decade younger than me, and this
astounds me. Even as your body betrays you, your
mind denies it."
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What to Do About Mom or Dad? Find the Expertise You Need in a Professional Geriatric Care Manager
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Kansas City Home Care is the vision of founder and
president Cheryl Smith, who began her career as a
certified Gerontologist. This article is from Cheryl's site:
You are managing your time pretty well-things are tight
and there are activities you would like to add to your
schedule, like a Yoga class or a new hobby, but you
just can't juggle one more thing. But, then something
happens that is about to add a huge responsibility to
your already overloaded schedule - there is a crisis
with your elderly parent or relative.
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Proactive Involvement with Your Loved One's Care
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By Barbara Mascio,
Senior Approved Services
It is obvious, when you think about it, that when a
spouse, parent, or other loved one is in need of
outside services that he or she has become less
independent. This lessening of independence also
affects, on many levels, the lives of each the other
spouse, the adult children, and the friends and family
members of this person.
So, the person in need of help or services is
vulnerable. This vulnerability is measured in degrees
proportionate to the lessening of independence. It is
then the caring friends and family of this person who,
sometimes by design, sometimes by default, become
the advocate. Speaking up for the rights of this person,
ensuring that this person receives the best possible
services or care.
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Featured Site: Communication Connection
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Kathryn Kilpatrick of Communication Connection has
an impressive collection of educational products.
This is what Senior Approved Services has to say
about Communication Connection :
Communication Connection is the first geriatric
consultation service to be awarded the
Senior Approved Certification in the state of Ohio. This
distinction clearly separates Communication
Connection from other geriatric consultants in OH.
Only those that achieve a 90% (or higher) customer
satisfaction rating receive Certification.
Kathryn Kilpatrick, founder and president of
Communication Connection, received her Master's
Degree in Speech and Language Pathology in 1968
from the University of Massachusetts. She has worked
in a variety of settings, primarily in Ohio, including
hospitals, rehabilitation centers, home health
care agencies and she has her own private practice.
Kathryn is the author
of over 30 products sold nationally including the
Visiting Nurse Service
Therapy Guides (Volumes 1-5) for Speech and
Language Disorders.
Her background in speech and language pathology,
specializing in serving the older adult population for
over 3 decades, led to the development of
Communication Connection in 2000
as a geriatric communication consultant.
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