Men's Rights Aggressively Defended
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The Law Firm of Sam R. Assini LLC
 
June 2011
IN THIS ISSUE
Does paying child support and exercising visitation rights go hand in hand?
Moving Through Your Anger
Popular Myths about Shared Parenting
Divorce Letters
Conflict, not Divorce, Affects Children of Divorce: Study

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Does paying child support and exercising visitation rights go hand in hand?

 

Most people are under the assumption that if a parent (payor) fails to pay their child support obligation, the other parent (payee) has the right to withhold timesharing between the payor and the child(ren).

 

There are many parents who enter into settlement agreements that specify detailed timesharing arrangements as well as the amount of child support that is to be paid on a monthly basis. These agreements are adopted by the court and a final judgment is entered.

 

According to Florida law the two issues are separate and distinct. If either parent fails to live up their responsibility to either pay child support, or allow the timesharing that is ordered, a contempt of court proceeding could be initiated by the injured party.

 

Society is under the impression that the failure to pay child support timely hurts the child. This is not always the case. In most instances a missed child support payment does not affect the payee's overall financial situation. Also, many times the missed payments are eventually made, sometimes only a short time after being due.

 

On the other hand, when the payee refuses to allow the timesharing between the payor and the child(ren) there can be devastating consequences to the child(ren) emotionally. In younger children the important "bonding" stage can be interrupted. These children grow up having problems trusting their mates or problems committing to long term relationships. Children need both a male and female role model at these early stages of development. In older children, feelings of abandonment and insecurity towards the payor (regarding their relationship with the payor), can leave these children scarred and the relationship between payor and child(ren) on rocky ground. Both younger and older children might feel that the payor doesn't want to see them causing them to feel unloved by that parent.

 

The right to be supported by both parents and to have frequent and continuing contact with BOTH parents is not the right of the parents but that of the child(ren), and happens to be the public policy of the Great State
of Florida.

 


 

Are you angry about the situation at hand? If so, but are not willing to admit it, then please take a moment to read this brief article. Anger is one of the five stages of grief and is okay to let yourself feel. However, it is what you do with this anger that determines whether it is constructive or destructive.  


 

Popular Myths about Shared Parenting

 

Take a moment to see the different myths about shared parenting. This may be able to assist you when making a parenting plan that is in the best interests of the child(ren).  


As with most things in life, you need to find some humor in a situation otherwise you are likely to go insane.

Take a look at these divorce letters for a good laugh. 

Conflict, not Divorce, Affects Children of Divorce: Study 
  
The age old thought that it is better for parents to stay married for the child(ren) even though they have a high conflict marriage has been study at New Jersey' Montclair State University. Take a look at the article to see what conclusions were reached regarding this way of thinking.

Lee Memorial Blood Drive
  
The Law Firm of Sam R. Assini, LLC is hosting a blood drive for the Lee Memorial Health System on June 22, 2011 from 9:00am to 1:00pm. If you would like to come out and donate please email Aimee at [email protected].

 

When you donate to the Lee Memorial Blood Mobile you can rest assured that the blood donated stays here in our community. Please come out and donate. You can be the one to save a life.