Equine-Facilitated
Psychotherapy & Learning EFP/L |
September 2009
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Upcoming Workshops
The Horse-Human Connection:
Focus on Overcoming Fear
Chehalis, WA
October 2-4 (a few spaces left)
Private Sessions Available
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Greetings to all of you!
Would it surprise you to learn that fear has been one of my greatest allies in a journey toward better horse training... and a deeper understanding of the human heart?
After a serious riding-related accident in 1988, resulting fear and my journey to overcome it sent me toward more collaborative forms of horsemanship. Fear increased my sensitivity 1,000% - unhelpful at first, but as I learned to work with it, the horses let me know they were glad for my increased awareness!
Working with horses at liberty, I discovered that they were sensitive to my other fears as well... fears that had more to do with me as a human than with the horse. As I worked to heal these fears, I achieved a truly heart-centered and skillful way of working with horses, and I noticed a profound effect on my human relationships as well.
Healing the many aspects of fear within ourselves is an integral part of EFP/L. The title of Wyatt Webb's famous book, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt rings true (see this month's Good Reads). So we've made Overcoming Fear a special focus of our popular workshop, The Horse-Human Connection (Oct 2-4 in Chehalis WA). Also read our article Is Fear Contagious? Research indicates that horses DO pick up their handlers worries. And look for poetry from a fellow reader of the HEAL Newsletter.
In life and daily work with my herd (2 & 4-legged family), my clients and my staff, full-blown fear is rare. Emotional wisdom consistently expressed, makes for safe, fun and mutually fulfilling relationships. But the energy of fear is still valued here. It's good to have a caution flag alert us to dangerous potentials in the environment, in ourselves and others. In this case it is simply an aid to caring for ourselves and others.
Please remember that we always welcome your comments, suggestions and stories to share with all of our readers. Simply send them to news@humanequinealliance.org. Gratitude and Grace, Leigh
Leigh Shambo, MSW, LMHC
Human-Equine Alliances for Learning (HEAL)
360.266.0778
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Is Fear Contagious? By Leigh Shambo, MSW, LMHC
A study by researchers at the Swedish University of Agricultural Sciences suggests that fear is contagious. Linda Keeling, PhD, and colleagues devised a clever test to see if horses could pick up their handlers' nervousness. Twenty people with varying levels of horse experience were asked to walk or ride the 10 horses from point A to point B four times. The humans were told that on the fourth pass an umbrella would open (most of you realize a horse would be very likely to shy!). The umbrella did not open, but researchers measured an increase in the heart rates of both humans and horses during the fourth pass, when humans expected the umbrella to open. Researchers concluded that the increase in a human's heart rate affects the heart rate of the horse they are leading or riding. Keeling said, "In the wild, horses are adapted to respond to other animals in their group. A startle reaction is more likely when the horse is very alert." The study, "Investigating horse-human interactions: the effect of a nervous human," was published in the July 2009 issue of The Veterinary Journal. Click here to read the abstractAn umbrella is one thing, but we as humans are host to an array of fears and anxieties that our horses can't even comprehend! Both on and off of horses, our fears limit us in important ways, often sending signals to others that sabotage our conscious intentions. When fear infects the social environment, thinking becomes distorted, reactions become impulsive, and we can no longer be there for each other.You may have already noticed that your "logical" neocortex is often not helpful when it comes to fear and anxiety (after all, the umbrella riders were logically notified in advance). It's difficult to think your way out of fears, which trigger the more ancient emotional centers in your brain (the limbic system). The sense of danger is instantly relayed to your autonomic nervous system (ANS) which operates largely underneath conscious awareness. Your stomach gets tight, your heart rate increases, your breathing becomes shallow and fast. Horses are sensitive to even the most subtle manifestations of anxiety in those around them, as this recent study shows. By limbic resonance, both horses and humans are easily infected by the emotions of others.At HEAL, we teach integrated techniques that work with both body and mind. Horses give instant feedback to humans who practice our somatic techniques for soothing the autonomic nervous system. You will find that your body itself, when freed of unconscious fear, holds surprising wisdom about when to be cautious, how to calm others around you, which fears to listen to and how, and how to banish unhelpful beliefs that keep the fear locked in your body. Our "8 Keys to Relationship" won't give you the power to predict every situation, but it will give you a fast and flexible system for making conscious choices within every situation, and with surprising calm. Interested in learning more? Our upcoming workshop, The Horse-Human Connection: Focus on Overcoming Fear (October 2-4, at HEAL in Chehalis, WA) will give you "8 Keys" that are powerful tools for understanding and working with horse-related fears and the more pervasive anxieties and underlying fears that affect many of us every day. There are still openings in this workshop and we welcome your inquiries!
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Nickers... from You!
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This is the place where we introduce our readers to members of the HEAL community. As one of readers you are a valued member of the HEAL community. Leigh mentioned in her note above that we encourage your submissions and want to share your story. In Nickers, we'd like to learn of your association with HEAL or with Leigh, your EFP/L business, or your experiences with horses. Please send us a photo to include, too.
It's easy to send us a couple of paragraphs. Just e-mail them to news@humanequinealliance.org with your photo, and before you know it, you'll be a familiar face and name to all of us.
We truly look forward to hearing from you!
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GoodSearch.com supports HEAL
You can support HEAL simply by searching the web! HEAL is now a member of GoodSearch, a search engine that supports charitable organizations like HEAL. Instead of Google or Bing, try searching the web using GoodSearch. It not only helps you find what you are looking for, but each search you do through GoodSearch generates about $0.01 for HEAL. That may not sound like much, but you'd be surprised how quickly it adds up. The more of you who begin using GoodSearch and choosing Human-Equine Alliances for Learning as your preferred charity, the more support HEAL has for scholarships and research. And it doesn't cost you a thing!
GoodSearch donates 50-percent of its revenue to the charities and schools designated by its users. It's a simple and compelling concept. You use GoodSearch exactly as you would any other search engine. Because it's powered by Yahoo!, you get proven search results. It's easy to do, and the money GoodSearch donates to HEAL comes from GoodSearch advertisers - neither you nor HEAL spend a dime!
And it only gets better. GoodSearch has partnered with a number of online retailers, through GoodShop, who are donating a portion of their sales to the selected charity; retailers such as Amazon, Avon and Ebay. As we head into a busy shopping season, please consider selecting GoodShop and their partnered retailers to help support HEAL.
We appreciate the great work that GoodSearch sponsors and hope you'll take a look. Click here to check it out for yourself.
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Soul Work with Horses Poems by Juanita Ramsey-Jevne
{Something a little different this month. Instead of a story, we offer you two poems written by a friend of HEAL about her healing journey. Thank you, Juanita.}
Changing the Channel
Somehow, the skills I learned to survive my childhood,
Have turned into what I must now overcome.
Ah, childhood, the gift that keeps on giving,
And giving and giving.
But if I refuse this next task,
Refuse to move into this stage of growing up,
Refuse stepping into full responsibility for myself,
Then I stay that child, yielding control to others,
The eternal young victim
Throwing myself a lifelong pity party
And waiting for the good fairy or the white knight or the magic ring
To show up and save me.
Ah, how good we are at recreating the situations
That allow us this major pity party.
How good we are at recasting the play,
Rewriting the script to fit whatever actors are in our lives at this moment.
How subtly we slip into that scenario once again and believe-
Oh, how we believe-
How we perceive- that we are
Right
Justified
Verified.
And yet, keep from ourselves the deepest secret,
The surprise ending that even the author doesn't know.
We are creating all this just to hide from ourselves.
Years spent excavating every chamber,
Yet all are the same chamber with merely new decor.
That Chamber of Wounds, which, if we chose to dwell there,
Will provide us with more twists and turns than Theseus traveled to face
the Minotaur.
But the cosmic joke is this:
as long as we stay in this Chamber, our Minotaur we will never find.
The Chamber Itself is the mythic monster that devours us
Eating away the moments and days and years of our lives
Casting about in the dark
Searching for that lost key
That final story that will unlock all the understanding
All the forgiveness,
All the love
That we so long for.
But
(listen closely now, pay attention,
open your heart, and hear this with each fiber of your being)
What you are searching for is not here.
This Chamber is a dead end.
Stay here and it leads only to Death.
The Living Death that so many lead until they reach their final death.
Leave this Chamber.
Call off the search.
What you lost is not here in the loops and folds of the labyrinth of
your mind.
The only way to unwind the loops and folds is to leave this place.
Leave the loops.
Change the channel.
Reprogram the default settings of your mind.
Honor what was,
Forgive yourself (and feel the forgiveness for others pour forth).
Let go of the pain (you don't need it anymore)
Let the wounds heal at last and you will find you have the power to
Change the channel.
Leave the chamber
Step out of the past
And, blaming no one,
Step into the present.
Eyes and heart open wide
Inhale. . .
Exhale. . .
Follow your breath back into life.
Live this moment.
Live your life.
Teanaway River, August 15, 2009
Addicted to the Wounds
I lie in bed
A cozy bed
A cozy queen bed I have all to myself, stretching on smooth
Egyptian cotton sheets
A luxurious queen bed magically made fresh for me each day
A bed in a room of slate floor, that is always clean
On a morning of no responsibility, except exploring my inner
self
On a morning of full moon setting over a horizon outlined by
curving mountain tops
Looking out a window framed by aspen tree and sage covered hills
I don't feel the sheets
I don't notice the floor
I am blind to the moon, the mountains, the aspen,
For I am living in the stories in my mind
And, as we all know, bad news is what sells.
Yesterday, one of my favorite shows, was a beautiful day
Full of wonder, magic and bliss.
But my special show is running a feature
On the one time that I missed
The golden ring, the fairy boat to wonderland
Two and a half hours out of 24
Two and a half hours but my internal editors can stretch it out
much, much more.
I can rehash it, retell it, relive it. Theorize, analyze,
criticize, moralize
Oh, the entertainment never ends.
The neural pathways loop and loop in a never ending spin
Until, of course, something better-or do I mean worse-happens
And the cycle starts again.
At the fire ceremony, with my stick of gratitude in hand
I found I couldn't find any breath to blow
No connection to the land
For this story playing in my head had locked my heart up tight
I stood there in frustration, but I couldn't make things right.
I argued with the story that was pounding in my brain
I tried to reason, rationalize, sympathize, I even tried some
blame.
But nothing would ease that squeezing of my heart
Until I blew the fear and anger in the stick
And then the tears could start.
For I had to honor that shadow,
And the price my body had paid
For holding the fear and panic that my amygdala had made
And thank it for holding the strange sensations of an unwelcome
energetic guest
Until a crystal could release it and send it to its rest
And with the tears came gratitude, and with gratitude came air
And I spent a small eternity blowing into that stick all the
beauty and the care
I stepped outside of time and space
And flew around my universe riding images of love
It was a recapitulation of my journey, as seen from up above
But the river flowing by was not filled with the sorrows of my
soul
Nor the parade of my addiction but a song to a life that is
whole.
It was the river of life, of beauty, harmony and trust
To be found all around this earth, even in the dirt and dust.
The song of our connection, beating heart to heart
The song of love that holds us all
The place where it all starts.
I lie in bed, a cozy bed, with sheets so smooth and fine
And as I gaze at the moon
I vow to write new scripts
For the stories of my mind.
Park City, Utah, August,
2009
(c) 2009 Juanita Ramsey-Jevne
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