Make a plan, and, if possible, talk with and listen to the senior's wishes. Involve other family members. Start with the rooms and items that are not used regularly or have not been used for a long time and work from larger items, such as furniture, to smaller ones, such as the contents of a drawer. As you sort items, put them into piles of things to be kept, to be given to family and friends, to sell, to donate and to toss. If it is garbage, put it in a garbage bag at the curb; if it is to go to a family member or charity make arrangements for pick up or delivery as soon as possible.

Be respectful of items that may be personal and of the choices the senior makes. Journals, love letters, or photos may be kept sacred and private. As individuals, we value different items and the importance of them - don't judge or question which items should be kept or be given away.

The task of sorting, packing and letting go is emotionally difficult. Set up reasonable time frames and allow for time to share memories, to reminisce, to laugh, and to cry. This is a time of change for everyone involved, a chance to look back, to recognize and grieve loss and to celebrate a shared past.

[ ] Where are they moving to?

[ ] Where to start?

• Work on one room at a time, beginning in rooms not being used; for example, start in a spare bedroom or the basement.
• Look at items that have less sentimental value; for example, cleaning out the Tupperware drawer will probably be easier & quicker than the china cabinet.
• Paperwork and items of sentimental or financial value will require more time and greater attention.

[ ] Who can help?

• Make a list and schedule of those who are willing to help including family and friends.
• If there is no one to help, contact a professional "downsizing" or "organizing" agency.

• When an Elder Moves Into Your Home
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