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Dynamite Coaching

May 2012

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Fail Your Way to Success

Coach-Like Approach Techniques to Improve Your Communication Skills

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~ Author unknown

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Fail Your Way to Success

One of the things I love to do is read and one of my favorite inspirational writers has become Jack Canfield. I suppose I enjoy his books so much because I find myself inspired by how he has been able to assemble so many examples about people who have been dealt lemons in their life and yet still were able to "make lemonade." (Moral to the story being: when all you're seemingly dealt in life is lemons, make lemonade...........and at least you'll always have something to drink)

In his book "The Success Principles" Jack talks about a famous research scientist who was responsible for several very important medical breakthroughs over the course of his career, and when asked later in life why he was able to achieve so much more than say the average person, the research scientist said it all started from a lesson he learned when he was only 2 years old.

At the early age of 2 he tried, by himself, to carry a milk bottle from the fridge to the table. Along the way he lost his grip and spilled the entire contents onto the floor. Seeing the newly created "milk ocean" his mother took an unusual slant on the situation. Instead of immediately scolding him she instead commented on how wonderful of a mess he had made and asked if he would like to play in it for a while before having to clean it up.

Okay, so the boy grows up and becomes a famous scientist but his mom wasn't playing with a full deck. Or was she?

She went on to tell her son that the damage had already been done, that the milk was already on the kitchen floor, so really no use crying over spilled milk (moral #2, for those of you scoring at home).

Because mom had an ace up her sleeve and knew what she was doing all along (full deck intact). She was teaching her son a valuable lesson and one that would change his world and how he "played" in it forever.

After the boy had frolicked in the milk puddle for a while the mom very clearly explained that after making a mess, even if created by accident, that it needed to be cleaned up. She then offered her son several ways in which they could clean up the spilled milk (moral #3 always clean up after yourself; might not be a moral as much as sage advice, score this one how you like).

She completed her lesson by then taking her son outside where they were safe in the backyard to experiment. With the milk bottle now filled with water she provided the boy space and time to discover other ways he could carry the bottle safely without spilling it.

And from failure grew success.

As I read this story it donned on me that it wasn't so much about the spilling of the milk that carved the learning on how to embrace failure as a step forward, as much as it was how his mother handled it, and how she used the opportunity to begin opening his mind to see that failure was indeed an opportunity for true growth and learning.

How many opportunities are we presented with each day and how do we handle them?

Now I would venture this episode was not the only one where his mother took the time to ingrain the idea about embracing failure, and in fact not seeing it as failure at all, but rather as information that moved him forward to greater discoveries. Instead, I imagine his mother fostered this kind of environment over and over.

The boy learned not to fear trying, but instead to embrace it!

Jack never names the scientist and I kind of like that. It allows me to imagine that I might have spilled the milk, or that I might be the parent encouraging my sons to learn from their mistakes and to embrace trying.

Next time your son or daughter presents you with a "learning opportunity," embrace it and enter into a discussion that mistakes are just a chance to learn something new, and who knows where that may lead.

Take it one step further, next time you present yourself with a "learning opportunity," also embrace it and enter into the same conversation, and see where it leads you.

Moral to the story: Embrace Trying and Let Failure Create Success.

Be the change.

Coach-Like Approach Techniques to Improve Your Communication Skills

Question: Who communicates for a living? Answer: Everybody! If You Live on Planet Earth, You Communicate For a Living.

So how important does it become to have good communication skills? Communication can be the Number #1 determinant to your success; more important than knowledge, academics or experience. No one is saying these other areas aren't important, but if you can't get your message out, how much you know becomes irrelevant. Have you ever had someone say "I'm not sure I understand what you mean" or "been in a conversation where somehow it becomes confrontational and emotionally charged and you're not sure what to do?" How good are you at "dealing with conflict?"

How well you communicate will directly affect your ultimate level of success or failure in any situation. So I invite you to come and participate in a fun and interactive class where you will learn great tips and techniques on how to bolster your "skills" and fill up your "communication tool box."

Course: "Coach-Like Approach Techniques to Improve Your Communication Skills"
Cost: Early bird fee $136.50 by May 25th. 2012, Regular price $157.50 after May 25th. 2012, Register with a friend and pay only $105 each!!, (all prices incl. gst)
*Time: 2 day course 1:30pm to 4:30 pm Saturday. 9am till 12pm Sunday MST
*Date: Saturday June 2nd. 2012 and Sunday June 3rd. 2012
*Location: Marked Improvement Fitness Studio 7112-101 avenue, Edmonton, AB

*Who should attend: Anyone who wishes to gain a deeper understanding in how to communicate with others professionally, personally or socially. In addition learn the brain science behind what supports you and what holds you back from accomplishing your goals in life. Call now to register.
*Bonus: If you are in the fitness industry you are eligible to receive 4 CEC's from canfitpro upon completion of this course for the following designations; PTS, FIS, NWS, OAS, PFS, MBS and PDS.

Please note that we reserve the right to change course times, dates and/or locations due to unforeseen circumstances.

To register contact Coach Mark at coachmark@shaw.ca or 780-469-4800.

"I thoroughly enjoyed the 2 day course with Mark! His enthusiasm was totally contagious and the material itself was interesting and something we can all use in our daily life on every level. I found I started using the techniques right away at home and saw immediate feedback from my family! I than tried it out in the world on day 2 and saw the immediate difference it makes which left me feeling thrilled! Not only did it make others feel good, but I felt amazing!!"

"In short I found it was information that "stuck" with you and inspired you to want to be a better listener as well as understanding the POWER OF PERCEPTION!! It's simple concepts with powerful results!"

"Thanks Mark!! You truly have a gift, that is easy to see.... I look forward to learning lots more!!"

~ Paula Cluett Analyst, HR Systems and Reporting, Alberta Health Services, Edmonton Zone

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I work with exceptional and brilliant people, like you, who at times might find you're having difficulty in achieving your desired goals either in your professional or personal life, or both. Coaching is not about focusing on the problem or what's broken; Instead it's about focusing on creating the solutions and actionable steps that get you more of what you want.

Together, we explore and develop elegant pathways that lead to choice and change helping you review aims, set directions, and clarify next steps toward your ultimate direction of excellence. The power is within you.