What's out: Precutting every bite

What's in: Letting 'em dig in

Ready, or not? When she can hold a crayon and exert enough pressure to mark paper, your toddler's fine motor skills are developed enough for her to try using silverware. And while choking is still a hazard, your child will be better at chewing by around 2.

Here we go! It's always smart to cut large, hard, or stringy foods first, but let your child use her hands whenever possible. Over time, encourage her to spoon up her own cereal and cut soft food, like pancakes, with a lightweight plastic knife while you supervise.

Don't be surprised if your child relishes her food more - and tries new things - when she can eat all by herself, with her hands. Of course, watch that she doesn't bite off more than she can chew - literally. And consider taking CPR/choking safety classes, to be safe.

What's out: Monitoring potty habits

What's in: A little bathroom privacy

Ready, or not? It depends on your family's general level of modesty and your child's maturity and personality, but she may ask you to leave the bathroom at around age 4.

Here we go! "You're dealing with the most personal parts of your child's body, so it's respectful to follow your child's lead," says Jan Faull, author of Mommy! I Have to Go Potty! Leave the door ajar at first, and tell your child to call you when she's done (until kindergarten, help her wipe up - or check her work). If she eventually wants to close the door, that's fine - but have her leave it unlocked for safety.