Issue No. 30
June 2011
Positively Exciting News!
 
Dear Friends of Balancing Act,
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The best part of wonderful news is sharing it with friends.  So I wanted you to be among the first to know about a thrilling development in my life.

Come September, I'll be studying positive psychology with leaders in the field, as a student in the Master of Applied Positive Psychology program at the University of Pennsylvania.

I can't wait to share what I'm learning about optimal human functioning,  straight from the classrooms of  scholars including Martin Seligman, Ph.D., who launched the positive psychology movement and founded the program,  and Barry Schwartz, Ph.D., whose book The Paradox of Choice was featured here last month. Much learning will also come from the other students, who come to campus every month from around the U.S. and the world to learn  positive psychology principles they can apply to a variety of industries and professions.  I am still pinching myself.

Meanwhile, back here on earth, check out...

        A self-test for compassion;

A book that encourages you to put your life in a single sentence (What's yours?);


An invitation to draw your gremlin and tame him or ship him off to Chicago;   

 

And in case you're curious, my latest column, on how I lost 400 pounds. 



                                            Pat  

 

How Self-Compassionate Are You?

Self-CompassionAre you kinder to others than to yourself? Do you magnify your mistakes? Ruminate over those woulda/coulda/shoulda's?

Kristin Neff, Ph.D., an associate professor at the University of Texas, has developed a self-compassion test  and developed downloadable exercises for boosting self-compassion if your self-kindliness could use a boost.

Her new book, Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave The Insecurity Behind, also delves into compassion for others and self-compassionate parenting.

What's Your Sentence?

We've all heard of mission statements you can say on a dime and summaries of what you do that are so short you could deliver them in a short elevator ride.

 

But here's a way to get razor focus on your life purpose.  Try putting it in a single sentence.  And not a run-on sentence.   A short one.  

 

For some guidance on how to do this, check out this short video by Daniel H. Pink, author of Drive.  In it, he describes how socialite/writer/Congresswoman Clare Boothe Luce once counseled JFK to stop spreading himself too thin and follow Abe Lincoln's lead by putting his life in a single sentence.  

 

Don't put it off.  Get YOUR sentence...       

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What's Your Gremlin Like?

gremlin We all have them in our heads, these little gremlins or "saboteurs" that stir up doubts about our competence or our ability to follow our dreams.

Maybe yours jumps out and taps you quietly on the shoulder.  Or maybe he hops on your back and screeches.  Either way, it's helpful to get him out in the open and deal with him.  So imagine what he looks like, where he lives, draw his picture and give him a name.

Then, the next time your gremlin says something uninspiring like, "You are about to make a fool of yourself" or "You have no talent," you can respond, "Thank you very much, Charlie," and then ignore him.  Or maybe send him on a weekend trip to Chicago. Or wrap him in duct tape and throw him in the trunk of your car.

Gremlins can be well-meaning and occasionally useful because they want to keep us safe.  "Not so fast!" they like to say when we are making big life changes.

But they can also get in our way and take on the voice of that fifth-grade teacher who said we'd never amount to much.

Time for the duct tape. 

 

Leash Law No. 30:        Let's Harness Technology    

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With baby boomers and their parents aging, online searches increasingly turn up elder-friendly gizmos, such as cell phones, answering machines and CD players with larger buttons and numbers. Just be sure the vendor has a liberal return policy, in case the device doesn't hit a homer with mom or dad.    
   
Ths is one of 74 leash laws offered in "The Dog Ate My Planner: Tales and Tips from an Overbooked Life."  

Copyright 2011 Pat Snyder
In This Issue
Self-Compassion
What's your Sentence
Name Your Gremlin
Leash Law: Technology
Chautauqua
Quick Links

Humor and Grief Workshop:

Send Stories! 

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Pat will lead a five-day workshop, "Good Grief! Why Am I Laughing At A Time Like This?!" July 25-29 at the Chautauqua Institution in Western New York.


She welcomes your stories on how humor helped you through a difficult time of loss. Please send them in by July 15. 


Stories will be shared during the workshop and on her blog, The Dog Journal.


 The most memorable entry will receive a copy of the book Chicken Soup For The Soul: Grieving And Recovery, in which one of Pat's essays appears.

       

COACH YOURSELF FORWARD


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Pat's workshop, "Coach Yourself Forward," offers practical ways you can become your own coach and enlist others to hold you accountable to achieve personal and professional goals as you move forward.    

She can tailor self-coaching programs to groups and organizations. Contact her  through her website.

 

 

   

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PRESENTATIONS

FOR FALL!!  

 
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Pat's taking bookings now for  life balance speeches and workshops,  writing workshops, and laughter programs, all described on her website.

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