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| The Right Approach To Teach & Motivate Kids |
GREAT KIDS CORNER
The Place To Recognize & Reward Kids!
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September 2008 |
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Recognizing & Rewarding Kids
Welcome to the first issue of our Great Kids Corner eNewsletters. As parents, we are always looking for a better approach with our kids, whether it is to motivate them, reward them or recognize their progress and achievements in an effective manner. And as parents, we are always wondering if we are doing things the best way.
We welcome Lesley Spencer Pyle, MSc., Founder & President, HomeBasedWorkingMoms.com & HireMyMom.com and her discussion below about parenting. Thank you, Lesley!
Our next issue of Great Kids Corner will include an article by Laura Sherman on "Family Bonding through Chess". Dan and Laura Sherman are the founders of Your Chess Coach, based in Florida. Visit them at www.YourChessCoach.com
Dahlia Benaroya
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Teaching Our ChildrenBy Dahlia Benaroya
President, Dahlia Web Designs LLC
As loving parents, we are always trying to teach our children something, from potty training to sports to music, etc. But are we teaching them in a way that they can learn effectively? Not always.
 I've seen children being taught sports by their 'expert sports parents' and not learn well. When these same children were taught by professional trainers, they succeeded much better and more quickly.
Similar issues occur in music. How many music teachers get resistance from their children when they try to teach them music?
 The steps used in training is critical to enable a child to succeed. It is the confidence that a parent gives a child that makes them able to keep trying and get back on the horse even when they fail to 'get it' initially. Many specialists have shown that when one approach doesn't work, try a different approach, and that each child learns in a different way, and not necessarily in the same way that their parent learns or teaches. |
Parent's Report Card Time
by Lesley Spencer Pyle, MSc.
Founder & President, HomeBasedWorkingMoms.com & HireMyMom.com
A friend recently told me that he took his son out for a burger. While they were eating, his son said, "Dad, do you know why I am eating so slow?" His dad said, "No. Why?" And his son replied, "So I can have more time with you."
Wow. Those are powerful, thought-provoking words. Kids need their parents. Kids desire their parents. They want our attention. They want our affection. And kids need our unconditional love and acceptance.
How are you doing in that area? Maybe its time for us parents to get a report card. What type of grade would you give yourself in the following areas? And perhaps more importantly, how would your children grade you? Take a moment to grade yourself and if you are up for it, ask your children to grade you as well.
I praise my kids when they make good choices. _A _B _C _D _F
I look for opportunities to encourage my children. I'm their best cheerleader. _A _B _C _D _F
I point out their strengths and build up their self-esteem any chance I can. _A _B _C _D _F
I comfort them in their disappointments. _A _B _C _D _F
I enter into my child's world by sharing time and talking with him or her daily. _A _B _C _D _F
I apologize to my kids if I respond in anger or make a mistake as a parent. _A _B _C _D _F
I ask questions instead of jumping to conclusions. _A _B _C _D _F
I let them know I am a safe place if they need to talk. _A _B _C _D _F
I look for teachable moments to teach my kids strong values. _A _B _C _D _F
I try to role model healthy, moral choices for my children. _A _B _C _D _F
I don't withhold affection, praise or attention from my child as punishment. _A _B _C _D _F
I don't put unrealistic expectations on my children. _A _B _C _D _F
I discipline in love, not in anger. _A _B _C _D _F
I let my children know they are loved unconditionally and without qualification. _A _B _C _D _F
A statement that has stayed with me for a long time is "rules without relationship equals rebellion." Creating and maintaining lasting, deep, trusting relationships with our children is not quick, and it is not easy. But is it worth it? I think you know the answer.
There are definitely areas I need to improve in as a parent. How about you? Like our children, we will get another report card. If you need to improve in some areas, take some time to work on them.
One thing I make sure to tell my children often is that there is absolutely nothing they can do to make me love them any less. Sure, they can cause me to be disappointed, very disappointed, and even angry. But my love for them will never lessen. And my kids know that. To me, that deserves an "A".
Lesley Spencer Pyle is the founder and president of the HBWM.com, Inc. Network which includes
Pyle has been featured in numerous publications including Forbes, Entrepreneur, Wall Street Journal, USA Today, Parenting, Dr. Laura's Perspectives, Family PC and many others. She has 4 children ages 8 months to 13 years and has been working from home since the first baby was born!
Copyright HBWM.com, Inc. 2008
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