I'd like to share with you what my understanding about anger in a relationship is. This is my viewpoint as a spiritual counselor and healer. I have gained this understanding through my own experiences with being the subject of a man's anger - those men in my life whom I have loved and who loved me. Please note that I am not referring to abuse, just simply feelings of anger and hate.

I remember being terrified of my father's anger as a small girl. Those explosions left their mark on me because they were so different from the way my father normally was. He was and still is a very loving and kind man. I was never afraid of my father except when he was angry. I knew he wouldn't physically hurt me, he was not abusive to me but there was enough fear inside me to leave a mark. I believe those moments created a deep rooted belief that if he was angry with me, he was hateful towards me and therefore didn't love me in that moment.

Every time a man whom I loved and who loved me became angry with me, my heart shut down. It was dark and cold inside. I couldn't understand how someone who loved me could be so negative towards me, and it kept supporting my belief that I was unloved. After all, if someone truly loves you, how can they be so angry and hateful in that moment? Again, I'm not referring to abuse, just feelings of anger and hate. This belief was very difficult to shake and although I had spiritually grown exponentially, I still couldn't seem to heal this issue.

This played out for years, until I finally saw the light - quite literally. As I learned to hold the space of God/Source, and through the help of some close friends, I was able to fully release this old belief and become open to a new one. The new belief came to me in the form of a light right into my heart. It was then that the understanding came. Unlike in an abusive relationship, those men who truly loved me were angry with me BECAUSE they loved me. They truly cared for my well-being and the reasoning for that anger was because they didn't want anything bad to happen to me, them, or us. Of course, whatever they believed was bad may be debatable. But none-the-less, I had been loved all along and love was always present.

This was such a huge breakthrough for me that I really wanted to share it with you, knowing that I am guided to do so because it will benefit you in some way. So, learn to release the old beliefs that shut your heart down and be open to the new so that it can open and expand. Connect with God/Source and your higher self and hold that space through your entire day, every day. Then you will know, feel, see, and hear the love and joy that are always present for you!