As much as we may want to have love and joy in our beings and in our lives, we may fear having it.  When we choose to have that pleasure, we may fear hurting others who don't appear to have a choice.  But we are showing them that they do have a choice.  Choosing to have the pleasure of love and joy may require some changes on their part.  If they choose not to change and turn their backs on having the pleasure of love and joy, we must accept it with love.  This doesn't mean we have to deny our own pleasure. 

There may have been a time when you were very happy and in love.  You may have hurt another by that choice - maybe by leaving a partner or disrupting your family so you could be happy and in love.  It is okay to feel sorrow about hurting another but know that every example of love and joy is a positive one - even if that experience didn't last.  Self-acceptance of making that choice is necessary for healing - not only for yourself but for those you may have hurt.  Feeling guilt, regret, or shame for hurting them just anchors down everyone's pain. Conversely, when you unconditionally love, forgive, and accept yourself, you open up the possibility for healing to occur for everyone.

When we are in the space of love and joy, we are an example for all.  We demonstrate God's love for us by showing others the pleasure we feel.  We are also demonstrating the infinite possibilities for others to have this same pleasure.  There is nothing wrong with experiencing the pleasure of love and joy - ever.  Rejoice in the gifts of love you receive.  Allow yourself to be free in feeling your pleasure.  Love, forgive, and accept yourself for making that choice and never, ever regret it.