Recently, I was reminded of how we can sometimes make unhealthy energetic connections in our relationships without being aware of it.  We think we are on the right track with our partner and then fear starts creeping in about the potential of something negative happening in our relationship. Before we know it we have slipped off track.  Whenever we are stuck focusing and worrying about what we don't want to happen, we are in fear and set up an unhealthy energetic connection with our partner.  This unhealthy energetic connection can drag us and our relationship down, veering us off path of what it is we truly wish to experience with each other.

When we are conscious creators in our relationships, that is to say when we consciously choose what it is we truly desire to have with our partner or potential partner, we set up energetic connections based on our desires.  For instance, if you choose to have a relationship where you and your partner experience deep intimacy, you set up an energetic connection for deep intimacy.  If that is what you intend to have, you will have it.  It may take a little work to have it, and it may even require a new partnership match for you, but you will be guided along the way because you have created it to be so. You are powerful and therefore your energetic connections will be equally as powerful.   

We can create equally powerful unconscious connections also.  This is usually done through our fears about what it is we don't want with our partner or potential partner.  If we are too focused on what it is we don't want, we can set up an energetic connection based on that fear.  For instance, you don't want to experience a lack of communication because you experienced that in a past relationship and it was very painful for you.  Every time your partner is quiet, you are reminded of that pain, and you think about how much you don't want to go through that again.  Again, because you are so powerful, you are setting up an energetic connection in which you keep internally repeating that painful past experience.

Energetic connections can and will move us forward in whatever direction that energy is going.  If the connections are going in two different ways - one towards our desire and one towards our fear - we will feel like an emotional yo-yo, up one day and down the next.  Aligning all our energetic connections to what we desire is key to feeling more emotionally balanced in our partnership.  When we are ready to disconnect from those energetic connections of fear in our relationship, we can reconnect to the energetic connections of love in what we desire and therefore achieve balance and harmony. 

Make a conscious choice to energetically connect to what you desire in your partnership and to disconnect to the energetic connections of fear. Remember that whatever you place your energy, intention, and focus on will grow - for good or for bad.  In order to avoid energetic connections of fear, be aware of when your thoughts go into what it is you don't want and redirect them into what it is you do want.