"Love is what makes the world go 'round". It can be wonderful, ecstatic, and leave us floating in a sea of bliss. When we love ourselves we are open to these experiences. We also make it easy for those people to enter our lives who will love us the way we want. However, when we don't love ourselves, we close ourselves off from all the wonderment and ecstasy of love. We may feel lonely, sad, and ache to be given love. From this place, we are confused and lack direction. We may even get stuck in a pattern of trying to win love from those who can't or won't give it to us. This pattern may result in desperate attempts that only lead to continuous rejection and frustration.
When we haven't learned to love ourselves the way we want to be loved, we may keep attracting relationships that mirror our lack of love. Instead of understanding and applying self-love to break the pattern, we go in circles to do whatever it takes to prove we are "good enough" to be loved by them. We become pleasers, over-achievers, or whoever we need to be in order to get their attention, acceptance, approval, and love.
The love we give ourselves will include all the attention, acceptance, and approval we need. When we fully love, accept, and embrace who we really are (flaws and all), we discover that we don't really have to win love from another. We simply open the door to receiving more love without any sense of urgency or dependency. We then begin to cultivate a secure foundation in love that doesn't ever go away. From this place, we attract the right people into our lives who will love us the same as we are loving ourselves. We will also feel universal and divine love supporting and comforting us, and helping us tap into a sense of being welcomed home with a loving embrace.
Notice when you are not receiving the love you want from another and ask yourself if you are really loving you? Are you honoring and respecting who you really are? Be honest with yourself. Sometimes you may have to face things you don't want to. If so, know that you are here to learn about loving yourself and that mistakes are part of that journey. When you are feeling lonely, sad or ache to be loved, the one thing you must do is to love yourself. All patterns, conditioning, and perceptions about lack of receiving love that you have learned over time are eliminated. Your self-love will open the door to receiving relationships you deserve. You will receive love tenfold, and you will know that you are finally home.
