Married To a Workaholic
by Dr. Gary Chapman   

If you are married to a workaholic, do you understand that one of the emotional needs that pushes the workaholic is the need for significance.

Many do not realize that our real significance comes from being children of God and living out His plans for us.  Thus they put all their marbles in excelling in the market place, and often neglect the home. 
 
Perhaps his father said, "You will never amount to anything."  So, he spends a lifetime trying to prove his father wrong. 

If you are married to a workaholic, don't curse his work. 

Praise him for his accomplishments.  Tell him how proud you are of him.  With more praise coming from you he will likely choose to spend more time with you. 

On the other hand, your condemnation pushes him to spend more time at work.

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Romance Sees the Best In Your Spouse
by Tommy Nelson       

Song of Solomon 7:1-2 (Advanced in their marriage)

The curves of your thighs are like jewels,
The work of the hands of a skillful workman;
Your navel is a rounded goblet,
It lacks no blended beverage;
Your waist is a heap of wheat, set about with lilies.  

First, Solomon complimented what he alone knew to be true about his wife.

Wives in Solomon's time didn't wear bikinis to the beach. A woman's body belonged exclusively to her husband and was for his pleasure alone. No other man other than her husband saw her upper legs and abdomen. Solomon focused totally on the positive. He never mentioned a single flaw in his bride. He praised her good qualities and brought them to her attention. 

Second, Solomon complimented more than just his wife's physical attributes.

What did Solomon praise about his wife? Not only did he admire her body and its sensual curves. He also admired her strength. In the Bible, the upper legs are used as a symbol for steadfast loyalty and strength. The woman was strong in character, and she carried her strength in a beautiful way. In other words, she had inner strength clothed in graciousness. She didn't buckle under pressure or fall apart in a crisis. She didn't burst into anger or rage, or go into hysterics, when things didn't go her way.