The Need for Healthy Freedom
by Dr. Gary Chapman   

One of our deepest emotional needs is the need for freedom.  In a marriage, we want to be free to express our feelings, thoughts, and desires.  We want the freedom to make choices. 

We often do things for each other, but we don't want to be manipulated or forced to do things.  If we feel like we are being controlled we get defensive and angry. 
 
Freedom is never to be absolute; to be totally free is to live a life without love. 

 Love chooses to look out for the interest of the other person. 

However, if we realize this need for freedom we will allow our spouse freedom to make choices.  We will make requests but not demands.  We will express our opinions, but give them the freedom to disagree. 

Love and freedom are two key elements in a healthy marriage.

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Romance Grows On Frequent Feedings
by Tommy Nelson       

Romance is rooted to a marked degree in the spontaneous and unexpected. 

I frequently advise men to spread out their display of affection over the entire year rather than concentrate so much energy and money on a few events.

A marriage relationship needs nourishing, and "frequent feedings" is a good principle to follow.