Learning To Agree *** Ours, Not Mine

Learning To Agree
by Dr. Gary Chapman

The way a couple makes decisions can make or break a marriage.

The husband-as-dictator style has destroyed the creative spirit of many wives. The mother-superior attitude has made children out of many husbands. Neither of these patterns is biblical, but many Christians have accepted them as normal.

Marriage is meant to be two persons who are members of the same team. God is the coach, and the husband and wife are teammates.

Successful teammates cooperate. "How can we help each other?" is the question asked by members of a winning team.

The first step in making wise decisions is to see each other as friends to be helped, not enemies to be punished.

Article written by Dr. Gary Chapman. Based on the book, The Marriage You've Always Wanted, by Dr. Gary Chapman. Published by Moody Publishers.

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Money in Marriage: Ours, Not Mine
by Howard Dayton

In a marriage, there is no "my money" and "your money" or "my debts" and "your debts." There is only our money and our debts. A couple cannot be one if they separate their lives by separating their finances.

God will bring a couple closer if, from the very beginning, they establish God's Word as their financial guide and then follow those principles.

A marriage is not a 50/50 relationship, as many people think. It is a 95/5 relationship on both sides.

Each must be willing to yield 95 percent of their rights to their spouses. If they are not willing to do that, it will not work. No viable marriage can survive a "his or her" relationship for long, because it is totally contrary to God's plan.