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Loving Your Separated Spouse
by Dr. Gary Chapman   

  

Hope for the Separated

When a couple comes to the point of separation, it is usually with many negative emotions.  The temptation is to express these emotions in harsh words and brutal attacks.  Nothing pleases Satan more than to see two Christians fighting each other. 

 

God's way is love in the midst of hurt.  Christ loved us even when we were killing him.  
 
The Scriptures say, "Love is not rude".  The opposite of rudeness is courtesy.  The word means to be "friendly minded" - to treat your spouse as a friend. 

 

There is nothing to be gained by arguing and screaming.  "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger" (Proverbs 15:1). 

 

Certainly you need to discuss issues, but not in the attack mode. 


 

 

 

 

Article written by Dr. Gary Chapman.  Based on the book, Hope for the Separated  by Dr. Gary Chapman. Published by Moody Publishers. 

  

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What Are the Purposes of God for Marriage?
by Gary and Betsy Ricucci    

  

Love That Lasts

What is this mystery of marriage? It began in the Garden of Eden when God himself fashioned a women perfectly suited to Adam and "brought her to the man" (Genesis 2:22). From Genesis 2:24 we glean this divine description of marriage: "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."

 

So from the earliest pages of Scripture, we see that marriage - an exclusive, passionate, and permanent relationship between a man and a woman - owes its very existence to God. 

 

As significant as marriage was in Eden, the full meaning of marriage was not disclosed until the coming of Christ.

 

When the Apostle Paul taught about marriage in Ephesians 5, he quotes Genesis 2:24 and draws back the curtain on this amazing truth: "This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church."

 

This revelation explodes all human-centered explanations for marriage. The relationship between a husband and a wife is meant to be a reflection of Christ's relationship with his church.  It isa living parable of the supernatural union between Jesus and his Bride.

 

To grasp this staggering truth is both inspiring and sobering. What a privilege! What a responsibility!


 

 

 

 

Article written by Dr. Gary Chapman.  Based on the book, Love That Lasts  by Gary and Betsy Ricucci. Published by Crossway Publishers.  

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