So, you have fallen in love with someone else and have left your spouse. What now?
I am sympathetic with the struggle and pain of losing the warm emotional feelings for your mate and falling in love with someone else. But, you cannot afford to yield to these "in love" emotions. All of life is at stake. In your case, to follow one's emotions is the surest road to loneliness and ruin.
More than 60% of those who marry new lovers will eventually divorce again. Your best interests are served by returning to your spouse, resolving your conflicts, learning to love, and rediscovering your dreams.
The first step is admitting that what you have done is wrong. Confess that to God, ask for His power to help you turn from your sinful behavior. Then go to your spouse and seek reconciliation. This will not happen with a simple apology. It will take time to work through the issues that led to the separation, but you are headed in the right direction.
Next, commit to your spouse to seek Christian counseling as a couple or on your own if your spouse is not ready or willing.
Article written by Dr. Gary Chapman. Based on the book, Hope for the Separated by Dr. Gary Chapman. Published by Moody Publishing, copyright 2005
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