First, men are expected to be romantic.
A husband is to lead in this area. Let me assure you of this: whether you consider yourself Romeo or not, you have married Juliet. She believes you are capable of being Romeo, or she wouldn't have married you. And furthermore, she continues to expect you to display Romeo qualities.
Second, men are capable of romance. Men tend at times to deny their romantic ability. Most men have at least some ability to express charm, romance, and affection. Go with what you have, and over time, you likely will find more and more ways of expressing romance.
Third, God desires for men to be romantic. At its core, what is romance? It is expressing tender desire to be with another person and making that person feel special and valuable. Who is our example in expressing romance? God, our loving heavenly Father! He gently woos each of us to receive His love and forgiveness. God infuses within us a sure sense of our identity and value. He is the One who is ever reaching out to us in specific ways to show us how much He loves us, cares for us, and desires to be with us in intimacy of spirit.
Romance ultimately comes down to resolve. Men tend to throw all their romantic energy into a few occasions - Christmas, Valentine's Day, the wedding anniversary, the wife's birthday, and sometimes Mother's Day. On these occasions, they back the truck to the door of their marriage and dump a load of chocolates, flowers, or jewelry. All other days of the year, it's business as usual. They are efficient, not creative.
Content taken directly from The Book of Romance by Tommy Nelson, published by Thomas Nelson Publishing, copyright 1998.
