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Too Tired To Be Frisky
by Dr. Kevin Leman
Question:
I'm a stay-at-home mom. I do all the stuff that keeps a house running....things that evidently are invisible to my husband. When he gets home from work, he expects me to drop to my knees in worship (okay, so I'm dramatizing here, but sometimes it does feel like that), be in goddess dress, and be a ready teddy. How can I get across to him that I'm a worthy individual and that I have a REAL job - a 24-hour-a-day job? And that sometimes, like him, I'm too tired to be frisky?
Answer:
Let's be blunt. One of the toughest jobs for women, who are relationally oriented and see the whole picture, is to prioritize. There are some things that need to get done, and others that don't (or don't have to as much as you're doing them). So what if dust bunnies collect a bit in the corners of your house, or you have Hamburger Helper with pickles for dinner? Will that kill anyone?
You have to stop feeling guilty about what you can't get done and just focus on what you can. And your relationship is top priority!
Now let me talk to that husband of yours, man to man. If your wife is unhappy, sir, it's your responsibility to help. You need to stand up to the plate and be a real man. A leader. Get behind your wife's eyes to see how she looks at life and what she does on a daily basis. Stay home from work for a day and take care of the home, the kids, the phone, the grocery shopping, and anything else on her to-do list for the day - while she's MIA at the spa and not within cell phone range.
What kind of help does your wife need? What can you do that you're not doing? Do you need to hire a babysitter once a week? A house cleaner? I know what you're thinking. After all, I'm an economical kind of guy myself: "But, Dr. Leman, that'll cost money." Well, so does your La-Z-Boy and TV. And how much do those things help your marriage? If your wife wants to talk to you, she hides the remote!
If you help her prioritize, take care of some things around the house that you wouldn't normally do, and make her feel special with some extra loving care, then watch out. She might be pulling your pants down any second.
Content taken directly from Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage by Kevin Leman. Published by Tyndale House Publishing. | 
