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Ms. Boring Meets Mr. Predictable In the Bedroom
by Dr. Kevin Leman
Question:
Now that we've settled into being married longer, we're running out of fun ideas. Help!
Answer:
If you're a man, when was the last time you surprised your wife and made all the arrangements to take her someplace special? When was the last time you sent her a little Shoebox card with a tender note in it, from your heart to hers? When was the last time you took a bar of soap and made a big heart on the mirror where she gets dressed in the morning, with just a little love note about how much you appreciate what she does in your family?
Think about it this way: in life, you get what you pay for. In the area of sex and your spouse, it's the same thing. You get what you pay for (in time, money, and energy). If there's one thing that ought to be a priority in your life, it's sex. So why not do something exciting? Treat your bride as a bride all over again. If you do, then your woman, who functions like a Crock-Pot (slow to warm up) may just trun into a microwave. And watch out: she's coming after you.
If you're a woman, how about a little message tucked into your husband's briefcase or lunch that says, "Great news! The kids are gone tonight. They're going to Grandma and Grandpa's. I have some hors d'oeuvres that I plan on wearing. I'll see you right after work."
Now, if you're a man, and you get that message at 10 in the morning, what are you going to be thinking about all day? Your engines are running hot, I'll tell you. That woman of yours is going to be on your mind no matter what deadlines you have. It doesn't matter if you have a jerk for a boss or you're in a dead-end job that you hate or you have a migraine. All those things will suddenly disappear in the golden glow of your anticipation. And boy, will you want to please that wife!
As my best friend, Moonhead, says, "If you don't have to take a shower after sex, you haven't had great sex."
With just a little thought and a little planning, you'll be surprised how happy Mr. Happy and Little Miss Delightful can get - and how long that memory will last. Perhaps you should check out www.thegodlyromantic.com.
Content taken directly from Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriageby Kevin Leman. Published by Tyndale House Publishing. | 
