However, your loved one will have no idea why you are behaving as you are.  That's when you get the proverbial question, "Is something wrong?" Your spouse knows something is wrong but doesn't know what.

Emotions are a natural part of life.  All feelings have their place in our lives, and many of them communicate a lot about us.  Most of our feelings are tied to some experience we had in our past or something we're going through now. 

The next time you feel disappointed, ask yourself, What stimulated my disappointment?  Then try to share whatever it is with your spouse.

Revealing your feelings lets your spouse know what is going on inside you - what you are feeling and why.  For example, you might say, "I'm feeling angry with myself because I came home late last night and we missed our ride in the country."  Such a statement may encourage your mate to say, "I'm disappointed too.  Maybe we can do it Thursday night." 

Revealing your feelings creates an atmosphere of intimacy and trust.  However, you cannot reveal that which you do not know.  Get to know your own feelings.