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Three Critical Questions When Facing a Trial Together
by Gary and Barb Rosberg
When you face times of trial and pain, asking each other three critical questions can help you to keep communication open.
1. "What's the problem?"
At first glance, the answer is obvious: It's the trial itself - cancer, bankruptcy, rebellious child, layoff, etc. But here's our point. First, the problem isn't us. We're on the same side. Second, the problem is something we can name and tackle together.
2. "What do we need from each other?"
After you have defined the problem, ask yourselves what kind of help you need to solve it. Do you need the other to step in with a decision? Do you need some space? How about comfort and encouragement?
3. "What kind of outside help do we need?"
Resolving a trial or crisis is often beyond your ability and resources. In the case of marriage-threatening trials, in fact, this is always the case.
Article taken directly from the book, The Five Love Needs of Men & Women by Gary and Barb Rosberg. Published by Tyndale Publishing.
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