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Figuring Out Who Does What
by Dr. Gary Chapman
Many couples enter marriage with the assumption that their household will be run the way mom and dad did it. The problem is, there are two moms and dads, and they didn't do it the same way. Her parents and his parents didn't have the same game plan. So now, the couple is married, but have two different game plans. The answer? We must construct our own game plan. How do you do this?
Make a list of all the household responsibilities that come to your mind. Washing dishes, cooking meals, buying groceries, vacuuming the carpet, washing the car, mowing the grass - everything. Ask your spouse to do the same.
Then put your two lists together and come up with a "master list" of responsibilities.
Now, he takes the list and puts his initials by the things that he thinks should be his responsibilities. She does the same.
Then get together and see where you agreed. The differences will need to be negotiated, with someone agreeing to take responsibility.
Try it for six months and then evaluate. You're on the same team. Use your strengths to help each other.
Article written by Dr. Gary Chapman. Based on the book, The Marriage You've Always Wanted by Dr. Gary Chapman. Published by Moody Publishing. For a complete listing of Dr. Chapman's books and resources, click here.
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